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The German dad [COLOR=#5e3786]explains in Emma magazine[/COLOR] that he wears women's clothes (including nail polish) to help his 5-year-old son feel good about going out in dresses and skirts.
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- Sep 1, '12 by iteachobJust.....no. I don't see how this makes everything all better for this child. I feel bad for this kid.....having dad dress in skirts will change few opinions. He WILL be mocked and teased. I don't think that's okay, but it will happen.
- Sep 1, '12 by Spidey's momI think not making a big deal out of this is the way to handle it. Not drawing attention to it. Distracting the kiddo into other things.
I have a nephew (3) who loves to dress up with his older sister (5) and wear her ballerina stuff. We just don't make a big deal out of it. But he doesn't wear it to school.
Don't punish. Don't call attention to it. Distract with other stuff.
This Dad is making it tougher on the kiddo in my opinion.
- Sep 1, '12 by leslie :-Dthat's a tough situation.
if female is the gender the boy identifies with, then he needs support.
i've read too many stories with tragic endings because of gender crisis.
not sure if what dad is doing, is the *right* way to handle it...
but do love the dad for supporting his son/daughter.
i'd bring this to a psych person who specializes in gender disturbances, and get advice accordingly.
maybe this child will have to be home-schooled until s/he is old enough to advocate for him/herself.
either way, this boy's desires need to be addressed.
putting him in boy's clothes, is not the solution.
eta: my response is based on this not being a stage that children go through.
- Sep 1, '12 by ElvishIf this were a little girl wanting to wear Army boots and cami pants, and her mom dressed alike in solidarity, would anyone care?
- Sep 1, '12 by TweetyQuote from iteachobBut perhaps he won't feel so alone if dad is being mocked and teased along with him. Or perhaps when he's with dad people wouldn't dare tease him and he will be in a safe zone.Just.....no. I don't see how this makes everything all better for this child. I feel bad for this kid.....having dad dress in skirts will change few opinions. He WILL be mocked and teased. I don't think that's okay, but it will happen.
To me the unconditional support and love of your parents is an amazing thing. Having dad say "I'm not ashamed of my child and this is how I will publicly state that" will enable this kid to handle anything that will come his way.
But you're right, the kid is in for a rough ride, no matter what dad does.
- Sep 7, '12 by DoGoodThenGoDon't know why but it seems more and more stories are in the media about little boys wanting to "cross dress" and such. Indeed the Sunday NYT magazine had an article several weeks ago on the matter.
A few years ago there was a huge amount of noise here as a teenage boy wanted to wear dresses to school. The place was one of NYC's top private schools where admission is highly sought after and considered a top prep school. IIRC the boy and his parents sued and eventually the place relented.
Suppose the entire thing seems odd to us of a certain age, but if we're living in modern times where men and women can marry each other, infants can have two or more fathers or mothers, and generally everthing is to be welcomed as an expression of personal liberty one supposes whether a little boy runs around at school in dresses instead of trousers is to be expected.
Knew years ago when one was assigned to read Dr. Spock's book that no good would come from his theories. *LOL*
- Sep 7, '12 by TweetyQuote from DoGoodThenGoMaybe this is a frontier that needs to be addressed. There is a double standard. There are two women where I work that dress like men (non clinical roles)...men's shirts, pants and shoes...very professional and short hair. It's obvious they are women, but they are dressing as men.A few years ago there was a huge amount of noise here as a teenage boy wanted to wear dresses to school. The place was one of NYC's top private schools where admission is highly sought after and considered a top prep school. IIRC the boy and his parents sued and eventually the place relented.
I remember there were a couple of girls I went to high school with that were very masculine and dressed mainly in men's looking shirts, jeans, and tennis shoes and were basically left alone and written off because they were good in sports. This was way back in the 70's.
I can pretty much know that a female can wear a tux into a prom and people will stare and look askance, but she'll be let in and there would be no outrage, no newspapers articles, but see what happens when a transgendered boy walks in with a gown on.Last edit by Tweety on Sep 7, '12
- Sep 7, '12 by aknottedyarnThis was like shaking a red scarf in my face. When will people give up their small mindedness and preconceived notions of sexes? I would prefer to wear what is comfortable. Sometimes that is men's shoes. Other times other men's clothing. After all they are generally better made and less likely to fall apart. The shoes are made for comfort not padding the pockets of podiatrists and chiroprators.
I could easily see men prefering to wear flowing clothing rather than having the fammily jewels getting so sweaty from jeans that barely breathe.
Are we programmed to have to bully and make fun of others? Or is this behavior encouraged by parents?
Many cultures have had men in flowing garments. Togas come to mind easily. Look at the mid-eastern men in their flowing clothing fitting the climate. Are we really so small minded in the west that we cannot allow even this small freedom?
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Given that many of the men in kilts can throw telephone poles I would not suggest any laughter or bullying.
When my DNeph. got married he and all the groomsmen wore kilts, they had bagpipes, my DSis had to give the new DIL "The Plaid". We all know what they wear under the kilts, right?
Was it strange, unusual? Perhaps, but it was a decision that was reached by the happy couple and agreed to by all involved. Considering that the shortest of my male relatives is only 6'1" and can bench press tractors, I would not make any negative comments.
The tallest is 6'8" and can probably lift a tractor in each hand. All are gentle and kind. I still would not suggest you laugh at their attire.