I am trying to find out some info for my niece and since you guys are such a wealth of info.. well
My niece married about a 1 1/2 year (under much resistance from our family) ago to her childhood sweetheart. She moved to North Carolina to be with him. Long story short, he continued to be verbally abusive toward her, just as he had while they dated. A few weeks ago, he was sent to Kuwait and she returned home to stay with my sister & BIL (her parents). She has since confessed to us that she was miserable from the moment she arrived in NC. He was verbally abusive when they dated, and from what she's told us this week, he just got worse after they married and after she moved to NC.
Anyhoo..she's decided to end the marriage. He's still in Kuwait.
We know that in NC, you must be separated for one year before filing for divorce. My question is this..
Since he's enlisted, are the rules any different? Will she continue to be covered by his medical insurance until the divorce is final, or can he take her off now that he knows her intent? Should she obtain a lawyer NOW or should she wait until closer to the 1-year separation period?
Any advice or suggestions are greatly welcome and appreciated.
Jan 29, '03
The saying goes, there are three sides to any story; His, Hers and the truth... Do we KNOW THIS GUY? Do we KNOW THIS GIRL? Do WE KNOW COMMUNITY PROPERTY LAW or other similar laws, by STATE? My best guess would be NO! THE ONLY ADVICE she needs is to get a divorce/family law attorney. That is the ONLY appropriate thing I can say. I see Rusty's side of it, too. The fact is, WE don't know this girl, this man or the TRUE story and I am sure we none of us are attorneys specializing in family law. We can't judge the best thing to do except what Stargazer says. GET A LAWYER and wish them both good LUCK.
Last edit by SmilingBluEyes on Jan 29, '03