Quote from H ynnoD
Wait till she kisses her first boy.I think thats the hardest to adjust to.
The physical changes are the easy part.My daughter just turned 13.I don't want her getting stuck on some boy and missing out on things because her mind is somewhere else.I also want her to learn to do everything on her own.Not to someday have to rely on someone else.I want my kids to be independant.
Yep, also yesterday (what was up w/ this day???) she had a little incident. There's this boy in her class who she hates, hates, hates! This little boy comments on her hair all the time (why'd you wear those barrettes, why'd you flip your hair today) and her clothes. He butts into her conversations w/ others. He also threatens to tell on her for "being mean" or sometimes he's threatened to do it for nothing @ all, just for th' sake of doin' it!
I'm in agreement w/ you about the "boy" stuff. She says (she's in 4th grade) there are kids who are boyfriend/girlfriend. This is something I have greatly discouraged. Explaining the need for FRIENDS not "boyfriends." For the same reasons you mentioned. Anyway, she's got 3 friends who are boys (in addtn.. to some girl friends) and they share the same taste in books - recently they'd all been reading Chronicles of Narnia
series b4 the movie. So for Christmas she got them books (she also picked out books for her g/fs too) at their party. This boy that she has this rift w/ says "well why didn't you get me one." The other boys jump in sayin', "she's our friend not yours!"
Drama! (@ this piont, I'm beginning to think, "wait a minute, maybe this is this phenomena you hear about little boys being mean to girls that they like" - you know like th' pigtail in the inkwell thing?)
Anways, she gets back to class after Christmas break & she's still having problems w/ this boy. I had hoped things could just be worked out on their own but seems like it's just getting worse & worse. So, I call the teacher and tell her about the conflict, my suspicions and could she keep & eye on things & separate if necessary. She echos my suspicions and has a "sit down" w/ the 2 of them. She asks what dd about some specifics, dd responds "well he makes fun of my hair" , little boy responds "i meant it as a compliment!"...LOL