Would you ever date a Male nurse?

  1. I am kind of curious. . .

    How do female nurses, or women in general, feel about dating or getting romantically involved with a "male" nurse?

    Say a colleague introduces you to a friend and he is a nurse, would you still be interested or would his choice of career, put you off?

    I am asking because I would like to know how my future profession might affect my love life, lol.

    So far I have had very mixed reactions to my professional choice. A few ladies I have dated had problems with it, due to the fact that I go to school and work with 97% women.

    While others friends of mine feel that our unique knowledge base & experiences makes us better choices as boyfriend.

    I would love to hear the uncensored female perspective, lol

    Zhakrin, BSN(c)
  2. Poll: Would you consider "dating" a male nurse?

    • Yes, I would date a male nurse.

      66.00% 66
    • It would not matter to me.

      16.00% 16
    • No way, I would never consider it.

      18.00% 18
    100 Votes
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  4. by   shyviolet78
    I don't know if I'm qualified to answer, since I'm married and my hubby and I are BOTH nursing students. Trying to think back to my single and pre-nursing school days, I don't think I'd have a problem dating a male nurse. I did enjoy the fact though, when I first met my husband, he was a mechanic and worked with all men!
  5. by   NurseDennie
    Well, I'm not allowed to date, but if I were, I'd love to date a nurse. Nurses tend to be above-average in intelligence, have a sense of humor (or else they become EX-nurses), know how to prioritize, and other stuff that I find really appealing. I also think it would be cool to have a relationship with somebody I could tell my gross nursey stories to!

    On a long-term basis, I've only ever known two guy nurses who were/are married, and THEY seem like they are really cool hubbies! Way better than average. I really envy their wives.

    P.S. I didn't vote in the poll because I don't fit into any of those categories.


  6. by   Stargazer
    [shrugs] I've dated male nurses, doctors, PAs, lab techs, monitor techs-- I don't really know of any women who would hesitate to date a guy because he was a nurse. In fact, about 95% of the male nurses I know are married to or dating nurses (and the occasional doc) as well. The odds are definitely in your favor!

    That said, think long and hard before dating someone you have to see at work every day, whether things work out or not. Okay, obviously, this is a lesson I still haven't learned :imbar, but--I'm just sayin'. It can be pretty uncomfortable if it doesn't end well and/or if your co-workers are aware of the relationship.
  7. by   Zhakrin
    Hi Stargazer,

    I was thinking more on the line of dating a nurse you do not directly work with. My hospital organizes socials so that we can meet nurses from other units.

    Alas I have learned the lesson about dating a coworker, not that I might not have a relapse someday, lol.

  8. by   kewlnurse
    Don't worry about getting dates, you'll be working wiht 98% women. Nuff said.
  9. by   Jenny P
    So, Kewl, What does your S.O. say about YOU working with all those females?????
  10. by   mario_ragucci
    So.....where is the REAL cupid? :-)

    How many people start out having a platonic relationship before they date?
    How long should you wait before you start to hold hands; kiss; french kiss; neck; hickies....(Mario starts grinning and laughing)

    Is there such a thing as "innocent flirting" or is all flirting on a single destination track? Can certain eye contact be considered flirting? Do married men/women flirt?

    Let me go back to my solving radical expressions and complex polynomials fractions before I show my a$$ too much here :-)
  11. by   Zhakrin

    The main question still stands, however I am more concerned that being in a field with so many women and understandably having mostly female friends that the women I date will feel threathened by this.

    I had to end a six month relationship, because my GF became enrage whenever I had to meet with my classmates for groupwork. Every shift ended with me facing accusations.

    The last straw came when a patient gave me a really nice card saying thank you and she wrote down her email address. My GF found it and TOLD me that this is proof that I was sleeping with my patients. LOL, I just shook my head and left, saying its over. I was so mad that I didnot even remind her that I am a Pediatric nurse and the patient was 8y/o with cancer.

    Getting dates have never been a problem for me, however I am turning 28 soon and would like to have some fun and a family is a possibity when I find the right person.

    LOL I guess I should just find a lady with alittle more self confidence.
  12. by   Jenny P
    Zhakrin, that was no lady; that was a jailer! You should be glad that she is out of your life -someone that possessive is sick! Self confidence wouldn't help her one bit. Good luck in your future relationships.

    Yes, Mario, there IS such a thing as "innocent flirting." It is just another form of communicating between the sexes; but both parties need to be aware that it is innocent and not going anywhere. THAT is the important part of the communication- to be aware that there are no expectations of bedding the other person. Beyond that, true friendship is also possible between members of the opposite sexes; however, many men don't seem to realize that this is possible.
  13. by   CEN35
    well being a guy my vote was a clear and definate no! :roll lmao!!!

    I can see both sides. On one hand I would enjoy it if I didn't have to preface most of my nursing stories with alot of background info when me & my hubby talk about our days. It would be nice to have these things in common. On the other hand, these differences are what make us interesting to each other. If we came home & I knew what he did & vice versa, what would there be to talk about?

    Doesn't matter either way, I'm married, and so are all of the male nurses I know. I'll echo the sentiments of another, I bet they are all wonderful husbands.

    Now, as for the jealousy issue. I never thought this would be a big deal, but now I'm starting understand. My hubby always talks about "those handsome, rich doctors". (He doesn't know what we know - that most of them are a**holes anyways). I never "got" what his issue was with this. See, he is a painter, does all the new construction in our area. Totally, completely, all men. And I've never had to even think about what it would be like if he worked with women.

    His crew got a new painter recently... a woman. What the f**k is that all about?

    I think, by nature, all women have a touch of jealous b**ch in them. Can we (I) help it? I don't think so. I just go the extra effort to keep him happy

    Is there innocent flirting? Yes, I believe there is. Do we like to think of our partners partaking in a little innocent flirting? Don't ask me, ask the jealous b**ch...

    Heather (who seems to have edited alot of her own language in this post )
  15. by   canoehead
    I think dating a nurse would be OK, but like Heather I'd rather find someone a little different from me. They say nurses and cops get along well- they have respect for each other's job and the same cut to the chase approach to life.

    Me, I'd like a big burly guy with a soft heart who likes to sit in my arms by the fire (sigh)