the average person could not foresee w/o a crystal ball. I. for one would like to CONGRATULATE
her for continuing her education through some rather extrordinary circumstances.
It IS very hard to be a single mom w/a small child and work full time. I had to do it @ a time when I had been a nurse for many years and knew how to BE a nurse (but not a Mom). Oh, and the 2 y/o I was adopting had "Special Needs".
Now that we've [hopefully] had our "discussion", could we please try to give her some constructive advise/problems solving/and SUPPORT!!
One resource I found helpful was the YWCA Childcare referral in San Diego. Obviusly, I don't know if there is one where you live, but check and see.
Because my son had a lot of appts during the week, I worked out a schedule of Fri, Sat, Sunday NIGHTS (
) yuck!; I'd take him to the sitter Fri night, pick-up on Mon AM. That worked for me, but it was VERY expensive!!.
She is going to have to look for options: neighbors, other moms @ day care, ads on bulletin boards @ school. She should also have a lawyer try and get some $$ out of the sperm donor--I mean the father. When she goes to look @ a day care, perhaps you could go w/her as an extra set of eyes and ears. What I looked for was how comfortable my son was in the place--if he was glued to me, it was not a choice. If he was comfortable, and just started playing with the other kids, it was on the list.
You WILL have to look for a place that will take a kid for what you're going to need. I think family day cares are more flexible than a preschool.
I am proud of BOTH of you, and wish the very best as you begin your careers. As a fellow nurse, WELCOME!