Will somebody please explain myspace to me?

  1. So, I've been tooling around for awhile now, trying to figure out this whole myspace thing and bottom line is...I just don't get it.

    Comments?!? I don't "get" comments. I can understand leaving a comment for someone you've lost touch with, or whatever, but I see my friends' pages and all the comments seem to be left by people they work with, or see on a regular basis somewhere else. Why can't they just pick up the phone and talk to eachother?

    For example: "Hey, what are you doing tonight - give me a call."

    What am I missing here?

    And I suppose this is more of a rant than a question, but I'm absolutely appalled by the amount of personal information people are willing to post about eachother on these pages. I suppose I feel a bit more comfortable posting stuff about myself here (on allnurses), but there's a certain degree of anonymity. I can't believe people are so willing to post pictures of eachother drunk, talking about drug use, sex, etc. I found the myspace page of one of the delinquent high school drop outs that lives upstairs from me (16/17 years old) - the background is a bunch of yagermeister bottles and all the comments from his friends are about smoking weed and getting (or being) wasted, when their parents are going to be out of the house so they can party, etc. Now, I'm sure the kids are doing this behind their parent's backs, but what about the people my age (mid twenties, early thirties)? Isn't there some kind of concern about the wrong person coming across these pictures? Family members, employers? I found one gal's page who's a nanny to three small kids...one of her pictures is of her posing with the kids and that picture is surrounded by pictures of her completely wasted, being sexually provocative, and in her bio, she talks about how much she loves to smoke weed.

    Now, all that being said...I have found a bunch of people from high school and other times in my past, that I wouldn't mind getting back in touch with. So, if I set up a page and send them a message, or whatever, what's the whole protocol there? Do I just send a message saying, "Hey, what's up?" It just seems a little creepy to me - if someone sends you a message like that, it's pretty obvious they've gone out of their way to look you up...I don't know - maybe I'm being a little paranoid here.

    So, I'm really curious about what you guys think. Does anyone out there myspace? If so, what are you getting out of it? How do I send a message to somebody I haven't talked to in years?

  2. 25 Comments

  3. by   jmgrn65
    Hi I have a myspace but mainly to watch my ds who is 14, I have a cousin that uses and we keep in contact thru it.
    Comments are just to have fun, it is like a just leaving a message. You can also IM, or send a message like e-mail. You can set it for private so only your friends can look at. People you invite to be friends.
    So you find a friend and invite them to be a 'friend' they have an opportunity to accept or deny. If they accept they will be in your friends list. Hope this helps.
  4. by   llg
    You're right. A lot of 20-somethings are learning the hard way that posting too much information is unwise. Employers are starting to look at people's myspace pages (and other online sources) as part of the hiring process. I haven't heard of that in nursing yet, but it is definitely becoming a routine part of the hiring process in some industries. I've also heard of the police using it to identify people engaged in criminal activity. I suspect it's just a matter of time before it becomes widespread.

    People will either learn ... or get burned.
  5. by   RNfromMN
    Okay, thanks for the responses so far. JMGRN, you've given me a bit more confidence in sending a "shout out" to some of my old friends.

    Here's another question...why are people requesting to be my friend that don't even know me? And live many many miles away from me?

    Is it proper myspace etiquette to not accept their friend requests?
  6. by   jmgrn65
    Quote from Jessica 392
    Okay, thanks for the responses so far. JMGRN, you've given me a bit more confidence in sending a "shout out" to some of my old friends.

    Here's another question...why are people requesting to be my friend that don't even know me? And live many many miles away from me?

    Is it proper myspace etiquette to not accept their friend requests?
    Yes if you don't know them deny them, there are alot spammers and wierd stuff. I had some lesbian club or something trying to be my friend. (don't anyone flame me for that I don't have anything against them) It was just felt weird. So deny who ever you want.
  7. by   Roy Fokker
    Quote from Jessica 392
    Is it proper myspace etiquette to not accept their friend requests?
    Answer: Who knows and who cares?

    I.e. Does it matter?

    It's like a virtual bar if you like - if you like the person who approaches you, talk to 'em. If not, just say no.
  8. by   RNfromMN
    Ooookkkkayyy:smackingf....yeah, I don't feel "bad" for these people, exactly. I was comparing the "friend requests" some of the threads I see started on here that nobody responds to. Know what I mean?

    When you post a thread on allnurses, we're all pretty good about responding. It's almost rude not too, right? I thought it was kinda the same concept with the "friend requests."
    Not so, eh?
  9. by   jmgrn65
    nope not so.
  10. by   swartzrn
    Hey, I signed up for myspace, too, to snoop around and see what my teenage daughter was up to. To my pleasure I found that she had her profile set to private. I didn't sign on again for a while once I found my daughter's was set to private until I got a message on there from an old high school friend sent me (incidentally, also an RN.) From there, other high school friends were sending messages and here I am about a year later with many from high school, other Army wives and people I've met along the way on my friend list. It's sorta middle schoolish but it is fun. Seems that people will keep in contact better on myspace than otherwise for some reason. You don't have to accept invitations from everyone who sends you one. There are trolls out there that send people invitations trying to sell something or whatever. Just be cautious. I have big problems with teenagers putting too much personal information on theirs. They are so trusting and very vulnerable. Just be careful..that's all! I have enjoyed myspace personally...
  11. by   Spidey's mom
    My 24 year old son calls it a place for 12 year old girls to post photos of themselves looking like ***** (is that word going to appear?).

    He and his college friends use FaceBook. I've been following his trip to Scotland and Ireland on FaceBook - they are posting photos and comments. That is very cool.

    Last edit by Spidey's mom on May 28, '07 : Reason: "Sluts" must be pg-13 because it appeared!
  12. by   swartzrn
    what is facebook? I haven't ever seen (nor heard of) that one.
  13. by   Spidey's mom
  14. by   Megsd
    Myspace has been a good way for me to get back in touch with friends from high school and college. We keep up on plans and have a myspace group of grads from my high school. It's nice when I'm just thinking "Whatever happened to those people?"

    Facebook. When facebook started, you had to be a student of specific colleges they associated with to join up. There was more privacy involved because of this -- not just anyone could sign up. Now anyone can join facebook. I have a page there also for much the same reason -- I can let my friends know what I'm up to and see what they're up to. I actually started with facebook and preferred it because NOT everyone could sign up. Now that both services are available to everyone, I take precautions to protect my info from people who aren't my friends by setting my profile to private, requiring confirmation for friend requests, etc.

    I will send messages to my friends occasionally using both. It's sometimes easier to message them that way than looking up their email address (and with many of us in and out of college, emails tend to change a lot). "Comments" (or on facebook, "the wall") is a way to leave a quick message, and while for close friends, calling may be more appropriate, it's an easy way to make a kind gesture and say hello to people you may not be close enough to to call them on their birthday.

    Then again, it seems that kids these days will IM and text message and whatnot to the exclusion of SPEAKING to people. But that's a generational issue mostly, I think.

    As far as people wanting to be your friend that you don't know, I don't get many of these, but my BF does. Many times they're hot girls who are actually spamming their nude photos/videos. Oh the wonder of the internet.