Why is it when you are in a bad mood....

  1. Why is it when you are in a bad mood, your SO feels compelled to aggravate and tease you mercilessly? My hubby is usually the sweetest thing in the world...but when I am in a bad mood he tries to tease me and it just ends up making my mood even more foul....

    For example, the weather is crappy today. Cold, blustery, snowy, windy miserable. I despise winter and will not go out in this weather unless it is absolutely necessary....like going to work, taking a sick kid to the doctor...otherwise I just like to stay in and stay warm....hubby makes comments about it that he knows will get me wound up...he has to go to town today for physical therapy and I asked him to stop at the grocery and get some milk....he laughs and says....hehe you can go it....knowing that I will get ticked off....when I am in a bad mood the best thing to do is just leave me the heck alone...no teasing, no asking me stupid stuff...just leave me alone it will pass......

    Anyone else feel like this? Or I am just being an unreasonable person?
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  3. by   KC CHICK
    I'm with you!!!!
    Whenever I wake up on the wrong side of the bed or am having a lousy day...hubby thinks he's funny and will tease.
    We end up in a fight when that happens.
    He just doesn't completely get it.....but he's learning.

    Mine does the same thing. I feel kinda bad because I know he's trying, but once I reach a certain point it's useless. It's getting better though. I can say "back off," and he will, but he's usually pretty good at pulling me out of it.

  5. by   deespoohbear
    Heather, where is that PMS thing you posted recently? It was what PMS stands for...I really liked the one that said Pack My Stuff....:roll

    Well, I guess I am glad to know that my hubby is acting like most men... but when the crap hits the fan because he pushed one button too many....he will be the one left pouting....

    He has a meeting a church tonight that will probably take at least 3 hours (if I am lucky)....the boys will retire to their room and I will have peace and quiet...and time to myself....think I will check out Discovery channel and see if the FBI Files and New Detectives are going to be shown tonight....
  6. by   passing thru
    My guess is he teases you in the hopes of making you laugh and to get you out of the foul mood. Is it the weather that is making you so______________ foul moody? If it is, then it must be difficult for him to live with someone who is in a foul mood for 3 or 4 months of the year. In a similar vein,
    One of my cousins lives in New Hampshire. He has been married five years. They originally lived in Arizona. And moved to NH , because his wife's family was there. Now, he says, from December to April, she won't leave the house because of the cold , blustery, rainy, snowy, windy weather and snowy, icy roads, and the COLD !! He says he has to go to the grocery, to the post office, to the dry cleaners, takes the kid to pre-K., gases up the cars, takes cars to garage, he goes and buys heating oil, and a couple dozen other errands. in other words, she is in the house, snug and warm, and he always has errands ( honey do list) to run in the dark and in the freezing cold.
    Anyhoo, he says he has just about has his fill of it and is about ready to turn it around and head south and west. He says there is NO 50-50 in his marriage once the cold weather hits, and surprise of surprises ; he did not have a clue when they moved North. All she talked to him about was how wonderful the autumn was and all the fun they would have with their shared outdoor activities.

    Does any of this apply to you? If not, what do you think of my cousins' situation? Do all the women in the Northeast stay indoors all winter except for your previously written outings?
    You could move to sunny LA or San Diego. You don't have to be miserable. Give him a break, for trying. He cares.
  7. by   Heather333
    My hubby does the same thing. I know he's trying to get me out of a bad mood, but it usually just makes it worse. I like to be left alone when I am in not having a good day. He's getting a little better but has a long way to go.

  8. by   deespoohbear
    No, I do not hole up for the winter. Just today I don't feel like going out....he is going to be in town anyway for pete's sake...why can't he go to the store and get the milk? Why make two separate trips to town (with gas being a $1.57 a gallon... )when he is already going to be there. We went out on Sunday all afternoon and it was cold and blustery...ran several errands...I do my fair share of the work around here too, besides holding down a full time nursing job....marriage is not 50-50 all the time...it is give and take...there are times he doesn't feel like running errands and just wants to stay home and I respect that...I run the kids to the doctor if needed, I go to the store, I check with him before I leave work to see if we need anything on my way home...I go to the vet for him for the farm, I run to the farm implement places when something breaks...no I am not in a bad mood everyday...just tired today after a horrendous day at work.....just need some time to myself to regroup...geesh....I guess you have never been in a bad mood or just wanted to stay home once in awhile....sorry, I am not so perfect....

    Moving to another area of the country is totally out of the question due to the farm we own and his aging father....just once in awhile I get tired of having 20 degree days with 40mph winds....just as I am sure people in Florida get tired of having 75 degree weather all the time.....
    Originally posted by deespoohbear
    ....just as I am sure people in Florida get tired of having 75 degree weather all the time.....
    Yeah, I bet they're real pizzed off! :chuckle
  10. by   baseline
    Originally posted by OBNURSEHEATHER
    Yeah, I bet they're real pizzed off! :chuckle

  11. by   duckie
    When I'm in a bad mood, my hubby just waits for the right moment, then he has two particular saying he uses that I cannot repeat here or I'll get bleeped off, and everytime he says them, I end up in stitches laughing my butt off. Once when we first got together he did this and I nearly slid down the door laughing so hard. We ended up on the bed making crazy love the rest of the day. Guys don't like their woman in bad moods. It's the kid in them that teases us, pulls our pigtails so to speak and hopes that it will make us smile. Maybe the reason it always works with my hubby is because my anger is never directed at him and he can bring me through anything. Maybe he's just trying to make you smile, it just doesn't happen to be the way to do it in your case. A piece of advice a counselor friend gave my hubby and me before we got married and I have found that it works great. She said, "If you're ever having a fight, one of you take your clothes off." Sounds like the dumbest piece of advice ever but even though we never fight, the last time we did disagree, I said, "Okay fella, off with your clothes....." needless to say the arguement went away real fast. Okay, maybe I'm geared by my hormones, but hey, it works for us. Good luck on a better day! Hugs, Duckie
  12. by   emily_mom
    Good piece of advice to follow! When I'm crabby (which is an aweful lot believe it or not ) my hubby leaves. No nookie for a long time....

  13. by   baseline
    I just felt this sums things up.....

    Why Women are Cranky

    We start to bud in our blouses at 9 or 10 years old
    only to find anything that comes in contact with
    tender, blooming buds hurts so bad it brings us to
    tears. Enter the almighty, uncomfortable training
    contraption the boys in school will snap until we
    calluses on our backs.

    Next, we get our periods in our early to mid-teens
    sooner). Along with those budding boobs, we now
    we cramp, we get the hormone crankies, have to wear
    little mattresses between our legs or insert
    packed cotton rods in places we didn't even know we

    Our next little rite of passage Premarital or not is
    having sex for the first time which is about as much
    fun as having a ramrod push your uterus through your
    nostrils, IF he did it right and didn't end up with

    his little cart before his horse, leaving us to
    what all the fuss was about.

    Then it's off to Motherhood where we learn to live
    dry crackers and water for a few months so we don't
    spend the entire day leaning over Brother John. Of
    course, amazing creatures that we are (And We Are),
    learn to live with the growing little angels inside
    steadily kicking our innards night and day making us
    wonder if we're having Rosemary's Baby. Our once
    bellies now look like we swallowed a watermelon
    and we pee our pants every time we sneeze.

    When the big moment arrives, the dam in our blessed
    Nether Regions will invariably burst right in the
    middle of the mall and we'll waddle with our big
    cartoon feet moaning in pain all the way to the ER.
    Then it's huff and puff and beg to die while the OB
    says, "Please stop screaming, Mrs. In-Labor. Calm
    and push. (Just one more 1 More Good Push ),
    warranting a strong, well-deserved impulse to punch

    the B..., and your Darling Husband square in the
    for making us cram a wiggling, mushroom-headed 10lb.
    bowling ball through a keyhole.

    After that, it's time to raise those angels only to
    find that when all that cute wears off, the
    little darlings morph into walking, jabbering, wet,
    gooey, snot-blowing, life-sucking little poop
    machines. The teen years. Need I say more?

    The kids are almost grown now and we women hit our
    voracious sexual prime in our mid-30's to early 40's
    while your Darling Husband had his somewhere around
    his 19th or 20th birthday, Which just happens to be
    the reason all that early hot man sex got you
    in the first place.

    Now we hit the grand finale, The Menopause, the
    Grand-mother of all womanhood. It's either take the
    HRT and chance cancer in those now seasoned Buds, or
    the aforementioned Nether Regions, or, sweat like a
    hog in July, wash your sheets and pillowcases daily
    and bite the head off anything that moves.

    Now, you ask WHY women seem to be more spiteful than
    men when men get off so easy INCLUDING the icing on
    life's cake: Being able to pee in the woods without
    soaking their socks?

    I love being a woman Call Me Crazy, but Womanhood
    would make the Great Gandhi More Spiteful!!

    And They Say Women Are The Weaker Sex. HA!
  14. by   kaycee
    My SO and I have been married for 20yrs. He can tell by looking at me that I'm in a bad mood. He just stays away until it passes.
    This was a learned behavior! LOL