Who is easier to raise: Boys or Girls?

  1. Hi,

    I am a mommy to my wonderful 5 year old son, Justin. He is my only child so far. My husband and I are looking into adoption for our second child. We are heavily looking into international adoption. In this way, we can choose the gender of our baby. (plus other reasons not mentioned)

    Naturally, I would like a daughter. My husband on the other hand says we should adopt another boy. Why? He says they are much easier to raise. Granted, I don't know any difference since I only have a son. I love having a son. But for those of you who have daughters and or sons, how true is this?

    I grew up the middle child between an older sister and a younger brother. My parents have said time and time again that my brother was much easier to raise than us. They didn't have to worry as much. He had so much more independance and support from our parents. He was their prince. LOL!

    My sister also has a son & a daughter. She says her son is much easier to raise than her daughter. She said girls are a pain in the butt. They get whiny, moody, gossipy etc etc. Some of my friends have said the same thing. Yet, I have heard from others that girls are easier. They say that girls are quiet, dainty, sweet, don't get into trouble as much, etc etc.

    Ok- what do ya'll think? Opions please!

    So far I am leaning towards the boys.....
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  2. 13 Comments

  3. by   leslie :-D
    with all due respect to our gender, i'd pick boys in a heartbeat. i have 2 boys and a girl and i'm madly in love w/all 3. but i've had an easier time with my sons so far.
  4. by   alexillytom
    I don't know. I have 2 sons and a daughter. I never think about how hard it is to raise
    any of them. (other than the occasional disagreement with their dad) It is truly just a joy to have those unique individuals for me to worry about how hard it is. Granted, my daughter is a bit more needy sometimes but our relationship is wonderful and I wouldn't trade it in for anything in the world. She is only eight years old now so talk to me in a few years when puberty hits....
    Last edit by alexillytom on Jul 15, '04
  5. by   FranEMTnurse
    I have heard stories from both sides. So I'm sorry but I one who would give you a biased opinion. I'm afraid you'll have to figure that out for yourselves. I do have a suggestion however. If you're into praying at all, I would suggest taking the matter to God, and place the matter in His hands. He will show you. I had two daughters who both are now are both moms of two children, and are both professionals. They neverr gave me any trouble while they were growing up, and I enjoyed them thoroughly. See what I mean?
  6. by   VivaLasViejas
    As the mother of two daughters and two sons, I'd say boys and girls are equally difficult to raise, because they're DIFFERENT. Then you have the different personalities involved, and that complicates things even more. For instance, my two daughters (both grown) are polar opposites--the oldest is an outspoken, yet insecure, tomboyish sort, while the younger one is your basic "girly" girl (and yet she's the one who joined the Army!) who's got confidence coming out her ears. The boys, too, are completely different types; the 15-year-old is the stereotypical Alpha male--loud, sloppy, bullish, bad-mannered (yet incredibly sweet when nobody's looking ) while the 13-year-old is intuitive, fussy to the point of being almost old-maidish, and conservative in his approach to life. And I love 'em all to pieces.......but that hasn't made raising them any easier (or quieter)!! :chuckle
  7. by   missmercy
    I have 2 guys too -- rumor has it they are easier -- can't really say because I have no girls to compare to -- however, being a boy mommy is an awful lot of fun!! I am partial to mine anway!!!
  8. by   FranEMTnurse
    Quote from mjlrn97
    As the mother of two daughters and two sons, I'd say boys and girls are equally difficult to raise, because they're DIFFERENT. Then you have the different personalities involved, and that complicates things even more. For instance, my two daughters (both grown) are polar opposites--the oldest is an outspoken, yet insecure, tomboyish sort, while the younger one is your basic "girly" girl (and yet she's the one who joined the Army!) who's got confidence coming out her ears. The boys, too, are completely different types; the 15-year-old is the stereotypical Alpha male--loud, sloppy, bullish, bad-mannered (yet incredibly sweet when nobody's looking ) while the 13-year-old is intuitive, fussy to the point of being almost old-maidish, and conservative in his approach to life. And I love 'em all to pieces.......but that hasn't made raising them any easier (or quieter)!! :chuckle
    But don't ya just love those differences Marla. I know I do.
  9. by   JUSTYSMOM
    Quote from missmercy
    I have 2 guys too -- rumor has it they are easier -- can't really say because I have no girls to compare to -- however, being a boy mommy is an awful lot of fun!! I am partial to mine anway!!!
    I know what you mean! My son is all boy. All rough and tumble, yet still sweet and tender hearted. The cutest thing he does is "protect" me.

    Last weekend, we were at a Shania Twain concert (awesome show!). When it was over, a ton of people were trying to get down the escalator at the same time. I ended up getting seperated from my son and husband. My son is frantically calling for me. He finally sees me and makes a big fuss. "Mommy, we are over here!!!" When I reach them, my son grabs hold of my hand. He wouldn't let go no matter what. He says "Now mommy, grab onto my hand as tight as you can." "Don't worry mommy, I won't let go of your hand." " I will never let you get lost again!"

    Awwwww...hopefully he will stay that way as he gets older...
  10. by   Audreyfay
    I think it really depends on the personality of the child. I have one daughter, my sister has three sons. My daughter was a tough one. However, now that she's 25, we have such a special relationship. That old saying about "a son is a son till he takes a wife, but a daughter is a daughter the rest of your life." I know, it's not always true, because it depends of the person. Why not have a daughter so that you can enjoy the "girly" type of things?

    My sister on the other hand, with her three boys had different experiences with each one. The middle one was the toughest because he is the spunkiest. He was always the one who was getting into trouble. Just like my daughter. So there again, depends on the child's personality.

    No matter, enjoy them! Good luck!
  11. by   alexillytom
    Oh those moments are so nice. I must say though that my daughter offers her own brand of special moments. She loves to comb my hair especially when I don't feel very
    well. I will be laying in bed moaning over whatever stress or ailment has me down and she will come and lay next to me and comb my hair until I fall asleep. She goes shopping with me. She is the most understanding when it comes to mommy having to go to school and do homework. There is also nothing better than catching her in my closet playing dress up, she is especially partial to my wedding gown. They all offer their own special way of showing us how much they care, but they also offer their own set of worries. It really doesn't matter what their sex is. Each child will have their own personalities, opinions, and needs.
  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I have both, a boy and girl. NEITHER is easier, they each have their issues, like the individuals they are. Truly, I have talked to people who have raised 6 or more kids who say NEITHER....each child is different. Some are "easier" than others in some respects. They all give us a measure of grief here and there, esp in toddler and teen years. Developmentally, they are designed to do just that. How we handle it can make it harder or easier, as well. But I can't say I would generalize that boys or girls are easier. I have some serious challenges with BOTH my kids.
  13. by   mom and nurse
    My husband and I have 3 boys and 2 girls (all teens). (1 boy and 1 girl adopted as older kids....they came potty trained and were a sibling pair.....and 3 biological children I had the hard way.....though my husband may disagree that adoption was the easy way....).

    my vote: boys are easier to raise when they are older....girls are easier to raise when they are younger....it kind of evens out...
  14. by   danaRN2b
    I have three boys and one girl...none of them are easy to raise :chuckle :chuckle . My daughter, at five, is easily the most self-sufficient and independent of the group. One night at dinner, I forgot to set out silverware. The boys (ages 8, 6, and 3) all sat there, looking at each other, bewildered about how they were supposed to eat with no forks. McKenna (who was four at the time) got up from the table, got a fork, sat down and started eating. The boys were still panic-stricken about not being able to eat. I finally had to get them silverware...
    I love all of my kids, but I've had an easier time with my girl so far. Of course, my mother assures me that once they hit puberty the boys are easier. Either way, kids are a blessing and I wish you the best of luck.

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