where's the love?

  1. Okay, last night I started feeling like crap. Did anyone at my house ask if I was ok? uh no!!! I even was kind enough to sleep downstairs in the guest room so as not to keep the b/f awake with my miliion trips to the bathroom. I have had it coming out both ends and stomach cramps all night. NO SLEEP! Did anyone offer me anything? Uh, no! All day long 4 days a week 40+ hours, I take care of pts(strangers mind you) needs. But who is going to care for me when I am sick? ME I guess. All night long I longed for a call button to get someone to come in and check on me.
    In all fairness the b/f did begrudgingly stop at the gas station on his way to work to get me some 7up. He then tossed it on the counter and shouted Bye. What a turd.

    Is it that way for most nurse? I guess I never expected such compassion before I became a nurse. But man where is the love?
  2. 15 Comments

  3. by   cindyln
    I have found that nurses not only take care of others but themselves also. Get some rest and plenty of fluids.
  4. by   eltrip
    No, it's not the norm. My DH babies me when I am unwell. We take care of each other. That's part of what a relationship is about!
  5. by   shygirl
    No, my sweetie takes care of me or anyone else who is not feeling well. You should have told him how you feel and what you expect. Maybe????? He doesn't know what to do. Maybe???? He has never done this before?
    I hope you are feeling better and think of the posts as someone "checking" in on you to see how you're doing?
    Can I get you anything?
    Be well,
    When you're feeling better and have the energy you should plot revenge.

    Your man should take care of you, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, yada, yada, yada....

  7. by   bossynurse
    Thanks everyone and Heather the thought of a little revenge has put some color back in my cheeks. Hee Hee. No bathroom trips since this morning. and I'm keeping down the 7up.
  8. by   BadBird
    Yes, I agree he is a turd. It is not normal to not care or take care of someone that you love, would it have been too much to pour you a glass of 7up, get some tissues, ask if you needed anything, bring you some chicken soup? I agree with Heather, plot revenge, that is of course if you plan on keeping him.
  9. by   Rustyhammer
    You should have whined a little more at home so they would know you were sick. I go through the same thing...when I'm sick they still expect me to get up and fix dinner.
    Glad you are feeling better.

  10. by   CountrifiedRN
    Are you feeling better?

    When I get sick hubby usually takes care of the kids, and gets me what ever I need. But all the things that I do around the house don't get done - dishes, laundry, vaccuuming, etc.

    If the virus or whatever you had is very contagious, you will have opportunity to get revenge very soon!
  11. by   Jenny P
    Oh, man, that is so cruel; BUT on the other hand, I tell my family when I am sick and I expect them to feel bad for me too. My DH does take care of me; he even gives me a big old brass handbell (kind of like the ones school teachers used "in the old days" to call kids back from recess) to ring if I need anything while I'm in bed.

    Of course, I had to tell him to do this; guys don't usually know how to deal with their loved ones being sick unless they are told to do this. When my DH is ill, he gets even better treatment than that from me, but I'm quite happy with how he has learned to take care of me when I get sick.
  12. by   night owl
    Mine is pretty good about my needs when I'm sick. I tell him to "Leave me alone, I'll call if I need anything." He's pretty compliant.
  13. by   l.rae
    you mean nurses are ALLOWED to be sick?????.....glad you feel better.....hubby takes decent care of me when l feel bad..
  14. by   SmilingBluEyes
    HUGS to ya!