When your world is falling apart what's the glue that holds it together for you?

  1. Not anything that I really want to go into detail about... just curious when your world is falling apart, (maybe it's because of something you did or maybe not) how do you keep it all together? Personally I usually walk around not able to remember anything for... hmmmm Can't remember how long? Wake up about 3 times a night, don't talk to anyone unless absolutely necessary... Eat too much!
    And I listen to a LOT of Sarah Vaughan!
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  3. by   RN always
    I do a lot of praying and I also try to do something to help someone else. It takes the concentration off of me and gives me that warm fuzzy feeling of helping others. I hope you are ok. let us know.
  4. by   RNforLongTime
    I just veg out. Either in front of the TV or buried in a good book or listening to my music collection which runs from J. Lo to Elton John. Then sometimes I talk to my mom. If it has to do with nursing, I usually speak to my best nurse bud about it as the hubby has no clue.
  5. by   NancyRN
    My computer friends are the ones who help me make it through the night. When I can't sleep I can always find someone online. Warmest thoughts are going out to you, goodguy!
  6. by   Robin61970
    When I feel as if my world is falling apart....I have not had an episode like this in a VERY long time mind you( I have battled depression for years) I feel as if I lose my mind temporarily. Literally. I cry and cry.....I curl up in a fetal position and cry until I can cry no more....it is a feeling of such complete desolation and loneliness when this happens. I cannot stand to be touched....it is as if I am a raw nerve and touching me hurts to the very core...I will rock and cry for however long it takes(usually an hour-three) and then I go to sleep.....get up the next day and usually feel better or I get in to my doctor or call my doctor about starting on my antidepressants. We have a history of depression in my family so I am very careful to watch for the signs. I have not had an episode such as this in over a year and a half so I am doing very well and I have been off the antidepressants for about 8 months......we shall see how long that lasts with Nursing I!!!!! LOL
  7. by   baseline
    I go through some very definet stages....depending on the stressor...but I find peace in my spiritual beliefs. Certain music for the mood.....and a trip to the ocean when I am living in Fla. When i was in Az, I had a rock I sat on at the Canyon de Chelly......could sit there for hours....let the music of the canyon heal me....
  8. by   Stargazer
    When I'm REALLY stressed out, I find myself pacing a lot, actually. Which is pretty hilarious in my tiny apartment. I'm surprised I haven't actually worn a hole in the carpet!

    I also find the ocean incredibly soothing. I can sit on the beach and watch/listen to the waves crash for hours. Best meditation there is. Being in the desert or in a quiet wooded area is almost as good.
  9. by   hapeewendy
    when things fall apart, and they tend to in this crazy ride we call life, everyone does something different to cope....
    for me its usually crying, followed by reflection followed by crying followed by a long walk followed by writing my thoughts or feelings down to try to get some perspective
    doesnt always work, but usually does
    lately when I've felt the rug swept out from underneath me I've gone on quiet walks alone while listening to music (in the last 2 days I am almost positive I have walked the entire length of the greater toronto area, not literally but you get the point)and I turn to my friends and family to help me out of a funk
    whenever youre in a funk were here for ya!
    I think we really can be our own worst enemies....
    dont be too hard on yourself, this is something I'm just in the baby steps of trying to achieve...so I'm no expert
    a work in progress though
  10. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Oh it's quite simple....my family. When the world seems insane or I feel like I am losing control, all I need is a BIG HUG from my kids or husband...and the sanctity of my home to find things make sense..........it is such a blessing. GREAT THREAD!
  11. by   kristi915
    I cry, then I sleep. Seriously. It works for me. I usually feel horrible after I wake up, but atleast I didn't have to sit through more hours of pain and agonizing. Sleep is my escape. I'm always tired so I could sleep anywhere.
  12. by   Lausana
    I talk to myself--my best therapy sessions! I like to write, but sometimes it's just easier to verbalize it as I'm doing things around the house, even when it's only me, and get out whatever's eating at me...prayers and quiet time to myself just to sit and cry...and watching my son do whatever he's doing that moment. No matter what is going on elsewhere in my life, I can take pride in him & for being a good mother.

    I think the hardest time of the day is this time of night-no matter how tired I am I have so much rolling through my head from the day it's hard to relax...sigh...so I come here

    :kiss
  13. by   nightingale
    Nice thread Giuseppe.

    What I do depends on how bad it is. Sometimes I shop to lift my spirits. Sometimes I eat CHOCOLATE! OMG! I jsut ate almost a pint of Dreamery Cholcate Truffle Explosion (no wonder I can not loose weight). Sometimes I do cry and cry and cry when it just hurts so much I can not imagine it will ever get better.. but it does.. somehow things do change.

    I pray too. I alwys involve God in my conversations of what now? It is wonderful knowing I am never truly all alone.

    Coming to this site is also VERY helpful. Even if I do not share where I am at for the moment. Knowing I can come here and find a common ground and understanding is very peaceful.

    ((((((Giuseppe)))))
  14. by   Eric
    When things get bad, I always know in the back of my mind that no matter what I might be thinking at the moment, that things WILL eventually get better. All problems resolve themselves in the end, we might be a changed person when its done, maybe have a scar or two, but there will come a time eventually when we will be able to look back and laugh, or at least chuckle uncomfortably.

    So, lets say for instance that right now I am hurting because of a girl/boy/lawnmower/whatever. The pain is pretty intense, but I KNOW that this saturday I will be going out with friends, and that things will probably be at least 75% normal then. So I just set my focus on that time, and envision what its going to be like. I just project myself forward to the happier times that I know will eventually come.

    Depending on the problem, you might have to set your focus a little farther in the future, but its always there. Sooner or later you will be happy again, just find that time in the future and project yourself there from time to time. You'll still have the pain now, but it will be easier to bear cause you know its going to end and are already planning on things you are going to do when its all over.

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