When your child is sick & you need to call in sick to work....VENT

  1. How do your co-workers or boss make you feel?

    My poor son had 103 fever all night last night. He was up coughing,tossing & turning...He was complaining of a headache & sore throat.

    I knew right then and there, that I would call in sick this morning. My husband has prior appointment committments this week, so he couldn't take off.

    So I call up my boss (this morning) and told him what was going on. I would be taking my son to the Dr and not able to come to work today. He was ok about that and hoped my son felt better.

    At the Dr.'s, my son had a strep test and sure enough it was positive. He still had fever. I asked the nurse what the timeframe was to keep him out of school. She said another full day of meds and no fever.

    Knowing this as well as his daycare doesn't allow kids coming back with those symptoms, I knew I would need to take another day off of work.

    I decided to call up my boss this afternoon, to give him the heads up (that my son was sick and I would need to take tomorrow off as well.) He sounded really annoyed! He was like "well you have to do what you have to do" and "there's nothing I can do about this".

    Anyway- my point is, I am taking off for my son because he is my number one! I just hate feeling as if I have committed the worst crime because I had to call in sick! I hate this guilty feeling. But ya know what- family comes first!

    I had to vent-sorry it was such a long post!

    Fondly,
    Julie
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  2. 13 Comments

  3. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Originally posted by JUSTYSMOM
    I am taking off for my son because he is my number one!
    That's it. That's all there is to it. What would bother you more? Your boss miffed that you aren't there? Or your son sick, taken care of by someone else? Or worse yet, forced to suffer through school?

    I will feel no guilt about putting my child first. Period. You're a good mommy Julie!

    Heather
  4. by   ptnurse
    You did the right thing. Boss will get over it. (or not)! Hope your little boy feel better soon.
  5. by   Mattigan
    If your child is sick and noone else apropriate in home to care for them- call in and sometimes even if someone is available to care for them - call in because sometimes kids just need their mommy.

    DON'T LET ANYONE EVER LAY A GUILT TRIP ON YOU FOR BEING A GOOD MOTHER.

    I realize that some g mothers aren't in the position to stay home with their sick kids because of being sole income and other reasons but wouldn't it be great if they could. If business would just realize their futures also depend on that little sick kid who needs his mom to stay home...
  6. by   researchrabbit
    Family comes first. No matter what! If a job is not family-friendly, sometimes it is time to look for another job.

    At one of my research jobs I was able to breastfeed my child ON DEMAND...the daycare called, I'd go and my coworkers knew I'd be gone for 30-45 minutes twice a day. Our team made it work because everyone believed it was important. When another member's son was dying of cancer, we all donated our leave time and she was off for the entire 6 month period. We made that work, too.

    Admittedly, this was not a traditional job. But sometimes a non-traditional job is what you need when your children are small.

    Now that my kids no longer need QUITE so much of my time while I'm at work (13 & 17), it's my turn to cover for newer moms.
  7. by   Mattigan
    I think we should have goverment sponsored "sick bay-day care for sick kids" staffed with pedi nurses . It would be great for the businesses and give us more to do in summer when census is low. Am trying to find a way at this facility. They have them someplaces. In OK, upstate in Enid is the only place I think here.
  8. by   NicuGal
    We do have pedi-care available to use...for a fee . I think that it is a great idea, but I figure I earn those sick days and I am going to use them. The care is staffed with our floor RNs, who may also have an assignment, now, I wouldn't want my child exposed to anything else than what she has. And they won't administer meds, you have to go up and do that yourself.

    It has good points and bad points.
  9. by   live4today
    You did the right thing Justysmom! No need to feel any guilt over your decision to be with your sick child. I did it all the time, and didn't blink when I had to take off to be with one of my children. That is just the way it is......PERIOD!!!

    I hope your son begins to feel better over the next 24 hours now that he has the antibiotic on board. ((((((hugs)))))) :kiss
  10. by   susanmary
    You are a great mom with your priorities intact. Ignore the comments -- your first and foremost priority is your son's well-being. If you need to use your earned sick days to cover your son's illness -- then do it. My family comes first. Period. Although I have three teenagers, there are times that I NEED to be home with them -- sometimes for them -- sometimes for ME. A core group of nurses on my unit really try to pitch in and help each other out in a pinch. (researchrabbit -- your post really hit home.)
    Hope your son is feeling better.
  11. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Imagine being the CHILD......does he/she want to be away from home when ill? Do WE? I don't think so... Gosh, it makes it very easy to choose when you think of it in those terms, and makes you really not give a good darn what *management* thinks about where your priorities lie. I hope your son is feeling better very soon; and that you are not sick soon yourself! Take good care.
  12. by   LasVegasRN
    The company I work for does not pay you sick time if you call in because of a sick child. So, I lie. I think that's a crock, but, whatever, if I have to lie and say it's me, fine.
  13. by   JUSTYSMOM
    Thanks for your replies!

    Now tell me, how do I get this little 3 year old to TAKE HIS MEDS without a fight? ARGHHHHH... I have just spent the past 1/2 hour trying to get 1 tsp of the "pink" yummy medicine into his mouth and down his throat! (unsucessful of course) Can you believe I am sweating now?? Whooo, he is sooooooo cranky

    Any good suggestions?

    Thanks,
    Jules
  14. by   bagladyrn
    When my son was little, I'd make a game of seeing who could make the worst face, most disgusting noises as he took the med. A popsicle beforehand kind of numbs the tastebuds and disguises the taste of the medicine. Worst problem for me is that I am severely allergic to all forms of penicillin/ampicillin and react to skin contact - had to make the poor kid wonder when mom gloved up to give him his pink stuff!

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