When you walk through the storms......

  1. hold your head up high, and don't be afraid of the dark........

    where do you turn for support and stress relief when you feel that life is kicking you in the butt? Do you seek relief through spiritual means, support of friends and family, both? Do you retreat and think things though or do you feel better when you talk about it? I find it very interesting of how different people handle situations very differently. Jazzi82
  2. 17 Comments

  3. by   H ynnoD
    Pray and do the best I can.I know all things will work out in the end....I learned that it works out alot faster when I turn it over to Jesus and not try and do it alone.Use to I'd just ignore it or get drunk and smoke Cigs to try and forget about it,but finally realized they just piled up for later.Use to burn alot of Bridges also,finally ran out of bridges or places to turn to.Now have rebuilt quite a few of them...Stress is very rare for me now days....
  4. by   Tweety
    Stop, take a deep, deep breath. Stay focused entirely on the moment and the task at hand, knowing there is nothing I can't handle if I break it down into the moment rather than freak out. Do a body survey to make sure I'm not holding any tension and relax.

    Go to the bathroom and scream.
  5. by   Brownms46
    Funny that was the song at our Graduation. Strange I remember what was sung at my graduation more than 30yrs ago, but not the one at my wedding...:chuckle.

    I use many of the things you mentioned in your post Jazzi82. I used spiritual, talking to friends, and quiet time along. Some problems require all three.
  6. by   Ted
    Weathering the storms:

    Sometimes being by myself. Many times, NOT!

    When alone, I've used music (especially creating music), reading, walking. . . lots of walking. . . crying.

    When not alone: Used family (wife, parents), friends, 12 step programs (a lot), counceling (a very lot!). It's actually better for me NOT to be alone during the storms.

    Yep! Weathered a few really bad storms. . . and now really appreciate the gentle warmth of the sunshine.

    Warm thoughts and Peace of Mind to all.

    Last edit by Ted on Aug 17, '03
  7. by   P_RN
    I'm in a storm currently and for the past few years. Allnurses has been a lot of help and comfort to me.
  8. by   VivaLasViejas
    My entire LIFE up until the age of about 40 was a storm, mostly because of poor choices and stubbornness. I thank God for taking care of me through all of that, and I think I'm better able to appreciate the calmer waters now because of it.
  9. by   passing thru
    I think counseling is best. An objective perspective.
    Often we can't see the forest for the trees. Friends and family are not objective.

    Don't forget the classic advice for problem from the movie Crocodile Dundee.
    No need for pills and shrinks there.

    I think drug therapy compounds the problem....I think over time, a decade or two, medications have an accumulative problem of their own.
    Meanwhile "the patient" STILL cannot cope. Still cannot handle lifes' problems.

    Working thru and coping with problems, "taking the high road", strengthens us. With each successful resolution of a crisis, we are more capable and confident we can handle whatever the fates may throw in our paths.

    There are no pills strong enough to do that.
    Experience makes us strong, not pills.

    I want to be old and wise, weathered and a resourceful "tower of strengh"....
    not old and gorked...

    It is pathetic to see some gerians, eyes clouded with sedatives, shaky hands from some concoction or the other, and still experiencing fear..... to realize they still haven't learned to dig deep and mine their own resourcefulness.

    Just MHO.
  10. by   kats
    I did take Celexa for a while, but the doseage I was taking was 1/4th the amount that most people take. It helped me get past having IBS so now I don't need it anymore. I still have some stomach problems, but lately they haven't been out of control like before. I never realized before how sick a person could get from stress and how long it can last. I was really sick for months. Now I take a hot shower, read a good novel, call my Mom, pray, meditate, take a nap, lay down with my lavender eye pillow, read posts here, or play with my dog.
  11. by   dianah
    Sometimes I think about going for counseling but then I imagine what questions the counselor might ask, and find myself answering them, which leads to more analyzing(So, what's REALLY bothering you, what are you REALLY afraid of, or dreading, -- and my faves: What's the worst thing that could happen? The best thing that could happen? Develop ideas/contingincies . . .) and eventually things get into perspective for me. . . just my thoughts. . .

    I first pray. I have had many weird, unexplained, too-"out there"-for-words, TOO-coincidental happenings and resolution of questions, after praying. Things totally unanticipated ----- unthought-of answers . . . so I pray and then kind of sit back and watch to see what happens!

    I talk w/friends who may or may not be able offer advice. Sometimes all I need is a sounding board, to bounce thing off. I discuss nurse-type subjects/issues w/trusted nurse friends . . . I sometimes will ask opinions of several people, then weigh advice with my own knowledge/feelings, in order to make some decisions. Other decisions are best left to me, or to me and dh.
    Last edit by dianah on Aug 17, '03
  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Drug therapy is appropriate in certain cases as an adjunct to counseling/meditation/prayer/solitude/talking to friends---- whatever

    To make a sweeping statement like that--- to those us who currently use it, or have in the past (me for severe postpartum depression and situational depression)---- is insulting really, passing-thru. Some of have chemical imbalances needing to be addressed that COUNSELING AND BEING A "TOWER OF STENGTH" will not address alone. I tried that "tower of strength" thing for years, struggling needlessly against something that I could not control until I had the chemical issues addressed first. THIS is NOT WEAKNESS or being "gorked"----it was literally saving my own life.
  13. by   karenG
    I'm in a storm right now and friends help! as does being here- some good people here who are supportive and give advice worth listening to! or you could do as Tweety suggests.......go to the bathroom and scream! I've done that!!

  14. by   Tweety
    What Deb said. Passing thru, I feel you don't know what you're talking about. Sorry.