When you got married.....?

  1. [font=courier new]how old were you when you got married?
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  3. by   JJFROG
    I was 24 and my husband was 26. I am 28 now and I love being married, but man it is hard work! I almost think it was too young. We dated all though college and did the long distance thing for 2 years, but I think I would have liked to have more time to myself. My husband tried to convince me of this but I thought I needed to get married. (If he ever found out that I agreed with him I would have to deny it!)
    Last edit by JJFROG on Oct 1, '02
  4. by   Beach_RN
    I was 22..... 2 weeks shy of my 23rd bday! Do I have any regrets? NO.... I was ready to get married....... Would I want my daughter to get married at the age I was........ NO

    If I may do so Kristi..... Why are you asking? Just curious..... My hubby doesn't call me Mrs. Kravitz for nuting ya know! LOL

    Brenda
  5. by   kristi915
    I don't know, I'm just wondering I guess..............

    I'm having this huge want for a baby right now (but of course I'm not going to go out and make one.......... ) I also have this huge want for being married and taking care of my husband and myself and stuff. But, I'm really not going to do that. I just think about it sometimes, and wonder what it's like.

    Oh, and I'm kinda wondering what a good age for getting married would be.
  6. by   misti_z
    I was 4 days outside my 21st Bday. Love being married and it just gets better everyday.
    We were together almost 3 years before getting married.
  7. by   Zohar
    I had just turned 22, and she was 20. Now i'm 23, and she is 21. We had been together for about 1.5 years, and we're still getting along like peas and carrots. It gets better every day. However, I don't recommend that everybody get married at this age.
    I'm not tooting my own horn, or anything, but we're pretty mature for our age. Everybody has always told us individually that we were about 30 years older than our actual age. No kids yet. They'll come when we're done with school, hopefully.
  8. by   Beach_RN
    Ok.... that's an honest answer! I hope you don't think I am too forward.. or assuming too much! However. I did want to share some advice with you!

    Marriage is a huge undertaking.... as you have probably read from Renee's post.... Relationships require lots of work.... It is a compromise of sorts..... You give and take a little.... same goes for him....Sometimes marriages don't always work out!

    Yes the sitcom version of marriage is very nice... you have a husband.... a house..... couple of kids.. the dog... you go to Home Depot and get the white picket fence, you cook all his favorite meals.... the house is spotless...the sex is just like that on Days of our Lives, candles, rose petals..... and while all that is possible... That is only one side of it!

    Basically what I am saying... is don't go wanting to get married.. in order to leave home..If you are going to get married, no matter what age you are... Make sure you are doing it for the right reasons.... because you are madly in love.....and want to spend the rest of your life with this person.....It's hard enough making a marriage work and continue to thrive through the years.....I can't even imagine.... a marriage working if that all emcompassing love was not there as a foundation!

    I will be married 13 years next May! and My hubby and I will be together for 15yrs This Nov! I was 20 when I met him!

    Brenda
  9. by   nursenoelle
    I was 25, hubby 35. We were set up on a blind date, and married 2 weeks later ( we are actually very rational people, really) two years later, no regrets.
  10. by   Zee_RN
    19 the first time.

    29 the second (and current!) time. 29 was smarter. Babies came at 30--but since I did three at once, I kinda cheated
  11. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    I was 22, hubby was 26. Our son was 3. Yup. We're sinners

    Heather
  12. by   live4today
    I sure hope you are not contemplating marriage at your age, even though I married six months out of highschool at the baby age of 18. My first husband was 6 months shy of being the ripe old age of 21. Eighteen years into the marriage......a very very hard marriage indeed with some rosy moments.....the marriage ended in divorce. He left me for another woman who was with his child during our marriage and living with him.....as he led two lives....one in our home....and one in his home with her. She knew about me and the three children I had with him......I knew nothing about them....until a private detective discovered their scandulous secret. :stone

    Second marriage.....I was 37.....hubby was 26. Married now 12 years....he has always been unfaithful......I always found out about his raunchy lifestyle after the fact. Today.....this marriage of ours is pretty much said and done with. I need real love.....not a fake one. :stone

    Will I marry again???? Only if I am marrying a man who understands commitment, true love and friendship, my need to be sexed to the max, one who is not afraid of intimacy and romance; a man who thinks the world of me as I would of him, and definitely a "family type man". Any takers on board???
    Last edit by live4today on Oct 1, '02
  13. by   Q.
    I was married at the age of 26, hubby was 27. We dated for 11 years prior to getting married!

    We had discussed marriage when we were dating in high school and were very seriously involved, but my husband didn't want to even get engaged until he/we finished college. He first left for the military at age 18, and could have proposed then, like a lot of his friends who left for training did, but he didn't feel "ready."

    Sure enough, 6 months after I graduated from college, and one year after my hubby graduated from college, we got engaged. One year later, we were married. And frankly, I am glad we waited.
  14. by   Jenny P
    I was 27, and DH was 28. We both think at times we MAY have been too young because there are still things we wanted to do and didn't. We were both mature enough mentally to get married and have been married for 27 years.

    Never strayed; still hold the other up on a pedestal above all others; but both can say to the other "if only I woulda gone to Europe and Africa and .... when I was single, cuz it will never happen now." Love is important, but friendship is too, and so is the mutual agreement of a commitment to each other.

    My DH has MS; we won't be able to travel and do things we dreamed of; but that doesn't matter as much as growing old with him at my side.

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