when did you know?

  1. all this talk about anniversaries and how all of those lovebirds out there met, has me thinking....when did you know that you were in love? that this was the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with...a moment? a kiss? please tell.

    my fiancee and i started dating when i was 14 and he was 15. it was a rollercoaster of a ride. what can i say we were young. well, we called it quits 3 years into the relationship. we saw other people and just spent time learning who we were. about 6 months into the break, i couldn't stop thinking about him. how i missed him...he was my best friend. my girlfriend was over and he was really good friends with her boyfriend. she was like they should come over...well they did and it was quite possibly the best evening in my life! we had those markers with the stamps on them and drew pictures for one another, watched movies, talked, cuddled. it was wonderful! that night i knew he was the one :kiss
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  3. by   jennyej
    I met my husband at a dance in college. We stayed out until lie 4 in the morning just talking. I hadn't had someone to talk to like that for a long time. We had a lot in common but we also had a lot of things different which made it interesting. I knew we were ment to be the moment he kissed me. I really can't describe the feeling except that it was intense and nothing I had ever felt before. He said it was the same for him too. After we kissed we both just looked at eachother and said WOW at the same time. Still today when we kiss I get that same spark and I love that feeling.
    Jennifer
  4. by   live4today
    To be truthful.......I STILL AWAIT those "this has to be the right one for me" FEELINGS. :chuckle

    I like men......I love men.....I enjoy men.....but have I been "hit over the head" with a "this is the one for me" moment???? HELL NOOOOO!!! Aint nuttin' that great!!!

    Okay.....met first boyfriend at age 15...married said boyfriend several weeks after my 18th birthday...stayed married to said spouse 18 years...

    Did he kiss me and sparks fly? NO!
    When he finally made love to me...was it good for me? NO!
    Why did I marry him? He embraced me like no other human being ever had before. He was kind, affectionate, generous, and WANTED me to marry him....so I said yes.....I mean....as DYSFUNCTIONAL as I was (and later found him to be), what the heck did I know about "healthy love"??? I/HE DID NOT!!!

    Dated men between hubby 1 and hubby 2: Some were okay...some were scrubs...some were wayyyyyyyy out there. :chuckle

    Only one man that I met whom I could have married in between the two I settled for, and that was the Hawaiian Chinese guy that I dated when I lived in Hawaii...Jason Kealiinohomoku...Mmmmm...now he did it for me...but not in the way that spelled FIREWORKS...ya know??? Sure ya do!

    Married hubby 2 twelve years ago this month...not my pick...my oldest daughter and son-in-law picked him...insisted I date him...wanted me to "get over" hubby 1. Well...THAT didn't work because I get SOME of their "behaviors" confused at times. Sometimes I ask hubby 2 if he and hubby 1 are really identical twins in another life??? :chuckle Sometimes I wonder if I married the same "behaviors" all over again....only with hubby 2......the SEX...well...I am FINALLY having REAL sex.

    "Puppy love" does exist when you're 'young' and hormonal. Those hormones can make you feel all sorts of "good things"...BUT...LIFE has a way of MATURING those hormones...then the BLINDERS come off...the rose grows thorns...and you either fall in love knowing that with the rose comes the thorns, or you end up celebate or stay in a marriage of "uncontent" the rest of your life. You see...CONTENTMENT is the juice that holds a rose and a thorn together...they respect one another's qualities and don't step over their boundaries so as not to inflict hurt on one another. HAPPINESS...that's TEMPORARY...like the smell of a new car...the smell of a freshly cut rose...the two week vacation that always comes to an end...the googly eyed look and butterflies one feels with another human being.....and so forth.

    Now..I STILL have butterflies......but only because there are those days in every month when I am at my horniest...........but.........it doesn't mean that when hubby touches me, those butterflies are all about him.
    Last edit by live4today on Aug 14, '02
  5. by   night owl
    My vibrator gives me the same feelings and it doesn't talk back...... Thank God
    AND it's the right one for me...
    I fell in love with it the first time it met me

    Now real love, that's a whole different ball game.
    No sparks flew. I just knew he was the one for me.
    We molded together... He gives me what I'm weak in and I reciprocate...I need him and he needs me. We have trust, respect, and most of all we communicate. When he asked me to marry him, there was no doubting anything. He was and is the one I've waited for forever.
  6. by   shannonRN
    Originally posted by cheerfuldoer
    the rose grows thorns...and you either fall in love knowing that with the rose comes the thorns, or you end up celebate or stay in a marriage of "uncontent" the rest of your life. You see...CONTENTMENT is the juice that holds a rose and a thorn together...they respect one another's qualities and don't step over their boundaries so as not to inflict hurt on one another. HAPPINESS...that's TEMPORARY...like the smell of a new car...the smell of a freshly cut rose...the two week vacation that always comes to an end...the googly eyed look and butterflies one feels with another human being.....and so forth.
    oh wise one where do i sign up for your insightful classes? you seem so wise beyond your years. i know i don't know how old you are, but you don't look old!

    Originally posted by night owl
    My vibrator gives me the same feelings and it doesn't talk back...... Thank God
  7. by   live4today
    Thank you ShannonRN...:kiss I am fifty years young, and blessed to have experienced just as many thorns as I have roses in my life...so don't mind ever telling my chronilogical age...it's the emotional age I'm still not sure of!
  8. by   CountrifiedRN
    Originally posted by cheerfuldoer
    To be truthful.......I STILL AWAIT those "this has to be the right one for me" FEELINGS. :chuckle

    I like men......I love men.....I enjoy men.....but have I been "hit over the head" with a "this is the one for me" moment???? HELL NOOOOO!!! Aint nuttin' that great!!!



    ...and you either fall in love knowing that with the rose comes the thorns, or you end up celebate or stay in a marriage of "uncontent" the rest of your life. You see...CONTENTMENT is the juice that holds a rose and a thorn together...they respect one another's qualities and don't step over their boundaries so as not to inflict hurt on one another. HAPPINESS...that's TEMPORARY...like the smell of a new car...the smell of a freshly cut rose...the two week vacation that always comes to an end...the googly eyed look and butterflies one feels with another human being.....and so forth.


    Renee, you are right on!

    I am with hubby #2 (don't even want to discuss hubby #1). I don't think I ever had a "he's the one" moment, we dated for almost three years before getting married. But there were certain things that were different about him that I admired.

    When we first started dating, I was a single mom. Other men that I dated always tried to win my kids over by buying them things, but never really took an interest in them. And both the kids and I saw through the gifts as being just a "bribe" to try to get them to like them. But my hubby didn't try to bribe the kids. He spent time with them, talked to them. Most of our first dates were things we all did together, picnics in the park, movies that the kids would like, and Disneyland!

    He has always been trustworthy and reliable, and somewhat naively honest. He never says "your" kids, they are always "our" kids, even now that we have a son together. Even his family, while they weren't too sure about me, being a yankee and all,(they are from SC) accepted my kids from the start as part of their family.

    My hubby is a really great guy, and encourages me to do what will make me happy. It's because of him, working lots of overtime, that I can go to school with out the distraction of working at the same time.

    Ok, after really thinking about this, now I feel guilty for getting mad at him for dropping his dirty laundry on the floor right next to the laundry hamper. I am going to do something really special for him tonight!
    :kiss

    Thanks for this post Shannon! It helps to have an eye opener sometimes!
  9. by   nurs4kids
    When he moved in with me and I didn't care what my parent's, siblings and friends said (remember, this IS the south..Bible belt..lol). When I found myself standing up for him against my friend's jealous attacks. When I gave up those "friends" because they refused to allow us to be happy. When I realized that I'd allowed my family and friends to make me arrogant. He was from a lower social "class" than me and he was not accepted in my clique'. However, he was accepted in my heart. My father said, "He'll either drag you down, or you can pull him up". Such pathetic blindness. I neither pulled, nor did he drag...we continue to share and build off each other. My family worships the ground in which he walks today. Just last week, my father who rarely admits fault, said, "You know, Trac...you've always been more open, more perceptive than the rest of us. We were looking at roots and judging..you knew the flower that had grown from those roots. You stuck to your guns and gave us the best son-in-law in the world!". I almost cried..pretty poetic words coming from an ole' southern coal miner, eh?

    Two weeks after moving in with me, we walked the isle. Was I 100% sure I was doing the right thing? Nope. Only a fool is 100% when it comes to questions of the heart. However, next month will be five awesome years..and I'd do it all over again tomorrow!

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