Whattaya think - is it bad to be a Pollyanna?

  1. I have been criticized for most of my life for being a Pollyanna - often seeing the sunny side of life, the good in people, the hope that a situation, no matter how grim, may turn out all right.

    How do you feel about people like this and do you feel that it's a character disorder?
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  2. 12 Comments

  3. by   DDRN4me
    optimism is never a characther disorder. I still get teased because i often have a hard time seeing the "bad" side of people, and trust everyone! I think if i give everyone a chance, and try to see the good in them, they will too. you'd be surprised how much it works. I have kids in my alt program that are gang members, drug dealers and thieves on the outside, but are the most sweet and respectful kids to me that you would ever see! and i think its how i treat htem that instills that!Besides ..its my world and i like it that way, dammit:chuckle
  4. by   Tweety
    I think people are too overly critical and synical about others. There's a balance though, sometimes we need to be real. I'm kind of in-between, not overly Pollyannaish and not overly suspicious.

    Zoe, I'm curious, as I know you have a history of depression and that seems to contradict a Pollyanna personaility that you've been most of your life. Sorry if this is too personal, but you've been very up front on this board about it. Just curious, no offense intended, tell me to mind my own business.

    Do you think Pollyanna's tend to get depressed easy due to their disappointment when reality strikes them in the face? I've read also that realists test towards depression.

    Anyway, back to the original question. No it's not a personality disorder.
  5. by   humglum
    I think whatever works for you is great. I'm always happy to be around positive, optimistic people. All the pessimists and cynics are energy vampires. Especially at work... I figure we all have to be there, why go out of our way to be miserable, complaining people?
  6. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from Tweety
    Do you think Pollyanna's tend to get depressed easy due to their disappointment when reality strikes them in the face? I've read also that realists test towards depression.
    It is kinda funny that I persist as a Pollyanna type, given the depression. But I've always been told that's how I am - my older sister used to call me a cupcake - with frosting - because I was so sweet.

    I do think some of it has to do with the letdown that yet again I am disappointed - for example, with work, finding that I just can't keep up with the pace and reality of it. and relationships, finding out that the ones "I can see the good in" really ARE jerks, LOL!

    {{{{{{{{{{{{{{Tweety}}}}}}}}}

    I'm doing pretty well right now, don't know if it's the weather or what, but I'm a lot happier nowadays -

    AND

    Five months, 13 hours, 26 minutes and 52 seconds. 3031 cigarettes not smoked, saving $757.59. Life saved: 1 week, 3 days, 12 hours, 35 minutes.


    WAHOO!
  7. by   Tweety
    Quote from zoeboboey
    I'm doing pretty well right now, don't know if it's the weather or what, but I'm a lot happier nowadays -

    AND

    Five months, 13 hours, 26 minutes and 52 seconds. 3031 cigarettes not smoked, saving $757.59. Life saved: 1 week, 3 days, 12 hours, 35 minutes.


    WAHOO!
    Congrats my sweet little cupcake!
  8. by   CHATSDALE
    ZOE..only someone who has been there know what effort that can take...you have the bad part behind you...don't backslide now
    as for pollyanna attitudes think the best but be on guard for worse
    90% of the people that you meet are there to do the work to the best of their abilities but you always have some who are happier when they can take advandage of another
    some are having a bad hair day and some are just mean...part of growing up is seeing the other person for what they are
    you go ahead and live your live in what gives you the most satisfaction...the bad usually falls the wayside sooner or later
  9. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from CHATSDALE
    ZOE..only someone who has been there know what effort that can take...you have the bad part behind you...don't backslide now
    as for pollyanna attitudes think the best but be on guard for worse
    90% of the people that you meet are there to do the work to the best of their abilities but you always have some who are happier when they can take advandage of another
    some are having a bad hair day and some are just mean...part of growing up is seeing the other person for what they are
    you go ahead and live your live in what gives you the most satisfaction...the bad usually falls the wayside sooner or later

    {{{{{{{{{Cd}}}}}}}}}}}}}

    Hope all is well with you, nice to see you!
  10. by   Spidey's mom
    No Zoe - it isn't bad to be a Pollyanna . . . . I think actually looking on the bright side and trying to see the good in people is healthy.

    And congrats on the lack of cigarettes for over 5 months. That is so great.

    steph
  11. by   Liddle Noodnik
    Quote from stevielynn
    No Zoe - it isn't bad to be a Pollyanna . . . . I think actually looking on the bright side and trying to see the good in people is healthy.

    And congrats on the lack of cigarettes for over 5 months. That is so great.

    steph


    Yeah, and where is all that $ I saved I ask you? LOL!

    :hatparty:
  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I think being a realistic pollyanna is a wonderful thing. Thinking positively whenever possible can't be bad!
  13. by   jnette
    Oh Zoe... we're two of a kind.. welcome to Pollyanna World !

    Always have been, always will.. because that's what I CHOOSE, and that's how I thrive, and that's how I feel best about me and the world around me.

    As Mary said above..it's my world, and I LIKE it that way !

    Only difference is I never had the depressions. I can't even imagine what real depression is. Not to say I haven't had a "down day" here and there.. or was depressed "short term" over a specific situation which was sad or upsetting.. but the real depression that afflicts so many that I read about here.. I have never experienced it, nor can imagine it.

    But yes.. the world needs Pollyannas and I'm happy to be one.

    If I end up getting screwed in the end, or disapppointed.. well, at least I was blissfully (perhaps even ignorantly) happy for the duration, rather than being miserable, suspicious, mistrusting, unhappy the entire time.. with the same end result.. get what I mean? :chuckle
  14. by   UnewmeB4
    While I was doing Private Duty for a young man with Leukemia, his mother asked why she got such a good report from me, and such a bad report from the 3-11 nurse. I replied, there are those who see a glass half full of milk. Some say it is half empty, I see it as half full. I never lied to her. I answered all her questions straight, without commentary. I was the 11-7 nurse, I kept her son comfortable so he could rest as much as possible and Mom could sleep at night, knowing someone was taking care of him,

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