What's so funny about an updo???

  1. Recently went to my 30th high school reunion. I'm 48, as was everyone else. My hair is long, it was a formal event so I went to a salon and had an updo, a simple French Twist. No big prom curls, just a smooth twist. It looked great.

    You'd have thought I'd gone with a bucket on my head....it seems no matter how elegant the event, no one gets their hair done. Most of the women wore beautiful dresses but hadn't even set their hair. The reason I go to a salon for formal events is that I can't work with my hair myself, short of a braid. I was teased all night and assaulted with "I can't believe you had your hair DONE" comments for 5 hours.

    Is an updo THAT unusual??? (Sorry guys, I know it is a girly question)
  2. 12 Comments

  3. by   ptnurse
    I have almost always worn my hair short, so updos were never really an option for me. I think it is great that you went a little out of your way to look nice for your reunion. Don't let the teasing bother you. At least everyone took notice of you, wasn't that always the goal of high school.
  4. by   Angelica
    I've only had an updo once. Looked great. I had about 40 pins in my hair, which were rendered unnecessary by 2 cans of hair spray.
  5. by   Shamrock
    Geez, apparently things never change!! If you were happy with
    the way you looked, who cares what the bumpkins from, woooo, 30 years ago think??? Man, you just reminded me that mine will
    be next year and I probably won't go to that one either. No, did not have a bad high school experience, just keep in touch with
    the ones I want to, now.
  6. by   CashewLPN
    um.... lemmie think.... you looked smashing, and they looked... um... whats the PC word.... ill-funky(adj.--to be bearing the BAD FUNK)
    and, with me.... I always believe in looking better than EVERYONE else in the room.... at least, I try to....
    (I hate wearing a nice dress without being all done up... its a vanity issue... plus, I cant do my own hair.... not at all...)
    so, my fellow glamourpuss...
    its not unusual amongst the cooler neater, funkier (good funky)


    be good...
  7. by   Flynurse
    Originally posted by Yeti1313LPN
    (I hate wearing a nice dress without being all done up... its a vanity issue... plus, I cant do my own hair.... not at all...)
    so, my fellow glamourpuss...
    its not unusual amongst the cooler neater, funkier (good funky)


    be good...
    I have to agree on this one. I can't stand wearing a formal, or anything nice without doing something with my hair and makeup. I always try to look my best for the occasion.

    Last Christmas I went to two formal parties. I did my hair for the first one, so to save money I didn't get my hair done for the second one. I couldn't do anything with my hair. Finally I put a few curls in it, used some moose and scrunched my hair. I felt like a schlep. I didn't feel right with a beautiful gown and scrunched hair. What an awful sight I must have been!

    So, I wouldn't feel bad if I were you. You did the right thing!
    You looked good for you and no one else! Way to go!

  8. by   Tookie
    If it was a formal dress type reunion l think thats great - I must confess l would most likely go with my hair al la natural - but l am vain (a little bit) about my hair - Its naturally curly - If it was a really special occaision l would get it done though - So l reckon your friends need a lesson in manners - You thought enough of them to get dressed up for them - Maybe kl am being a bit harsh
  9. by   nursedawn67
    I have realy long hair myself and I would have done the same thing....who cares what they think...it made you feel good to look good.
  10. by   Noney
    Maybe some of them were using it for an opener. Might be a little difficult starting a conversation with someone you haven't seen in 30 years.

    I imagine there was a little jealously floating around.
  11. by   Quickbeam
    Thanks for all the feedback. I'm not shy and actually had a lot of fun at the reunion...so did my husband, which says something (room full of strangers to him). I guess I was just surprised that an updo generated so much fuss...I didn't bring it up, it just came to me. They were actually discussing it on the mike in the ballroom! I took it in the spirit which it was intended but I hadn't known it was that odd to get your hair put up for a formal event. I know it now!
  12. by   Tweety
    So you have class. They don't. Be proud. They should have been complimenting you, but your radiance stunned them for words and their jealousy overwhelmed them to silence.
  13. by   colleen10
    I don't think an up-do is that unusual. They were probably just jealous that they didn't get their hair done.

    I am 28 and always get my hair done for special occasions like a formal Christmas Party, weddings, etc. I don't know if some people think it's just an old fashioned idea or what.

    The last wedding I was in I went and had my hair done as did one of the other bridesmaids. The other 3 bridesmaids didn't and when they saw us you would have thought we had lobsters crawling out of our ears. Don't know why they thought it was such a novel idea.

    Admittedly though, I did not have my hair done for my own wedding because it only came down to my chin and aside from putting extensions or something in it, there really wasn't anything anyone could do with it.

    You can never go wrong with even a simple, classic french twist.
  14. by   karenG
    whats so terrible about looking stunning?! I am growning my hair so I can have an updo(I love that term- we would say putting your hair up!) maybe they were just stunned that you looked so great! sounds like its not your problem but rather theirs!!