What was the most lifechanging moment in your life?

  1. I've had a few, but the most lifechanging moment for me was when I finally realized that I had to divorce my first husband.

    It seems as though everything in my life is "before" or "after" that decision.

    How about you?
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  3. by   dianah
    I guess when I turned 30 is when I made two definite decisions about what I wanted to do: get braces (was always self-conscious about my teeth) and take riding lessons. I did both, and have never regretted doing either, they were worth the money and time spent, and pain endured.

    I guess the second is when dh and I had our kids. We refer to times in our lives as "the year -----, B.K. (Before Kids)."
  4. by   PurrRN
    My life changing moment came at 24 when I joined the military (Army). I spent 7 years as an MP and I've felt that without the disipline I learned there, I would not be doing the things I am today (going to nursing school, mother to 3 hellacious (but angelic) little boys. I feel like to learned to do things I thought I could never do and that I'm stronger than I think I am sometimes. I was a great lesson learned and I'm greatful I had the opportunity. I don't think that I would be where I am today without having had that experience.
  5. by   rninme
    Like you Angie .... life before divorce and life after. Ex was an alcoholic ... a mean, nasty drunk. Life was hard after divorce, no money, no home, lost both of my parents within this time period too so I had no family support system to turn to. Packed up what little I owned and moved 1500 miles away to start again. Now I have job I love, a DH who truly loves me and I'm back in school to finish my MSN.
  6. by   Tweety
    Most definately my "coming out" at age of 17 when I finally acknowledged to myself and another human being what I had known my entire life........that I was gay.

    Beginning nursing school was another one of those "before and after" times when life really changed dramatically from then on.
  7. by   donsterRN
    Until recent years, I would have answered "My 40th birthday". I really did some soul searching about being a better person, defining (finally) my place in the world, and deciding to do something important with my life. It was then that I decided I'd had enough of Big Business and started looking into nursing school.

    September 11, 2001 made me realize that I had to get moving if I was going to do anything. The suddenness of the violence that came to our nation really made me question so many things. But with the witnessing of such hatred and then profound heroism and love, I found my God.

    And then November 25, 2005. That was the day I learned of my cancer. Talk about an eye-opening, life-affirming event! You know, it's only been a year, but I've started to describe things as "before the surgery/radiation/chemo" and after. Traveling this road has opened me to so many things, new friendships and a rediscovery of family ties.

    I hope this didn't sound maudlin or sad; I have a wonderful life! It's quite nice to think about people and events that have made it so.

    Great thread!
  8. by   bethin
    My moment hit me in the face - quite literally. Realized after being nearly choked to death that I did deserve better and my friends had been right all along - he was a piece of ****. Also learned that I am much stronger now. I don't regret anything, even that relationship because it taught me independence, self worth, and that I deserve the best.
  9. by   Gompers
    I've had a couple of them, both personal and professional.

    Personally, my life changed about seven months ago when I took a home pregnancy test. It was a total surprise because I had been told that I would have infertility problems. I would think that if you were trying for a baby, it would be so exciting to finally get that postive sign. But for me, it was absolutely shocking and just shook me to the core. It was a welcome surprise though!!!

    Professionally, it was the first time I had my hands blessed. I went to a Catholic university, and the week before we started our clinicals sophomore year, we had a "blessing of the hands" ceremony at the chapel. Our families and friends were invited to watch as each of us had holy water sprinkled over our hands. I'm not very religious, but it moved me so much. Each year during Nurses Week, our hospital chaplains come around to each floor and unit to bless hands, and I'm always first in line. As nurses, we literally carry our patients' lives in our hands, and every time I have mine blessed, I feel as if my hands are glowing, golden, and powerful. It's such a special feeling!
  10. by   tnbutterfly
    The most life-changing moment in my life happened in the very early hours of November 17, 2002 when I received a phone call from the hospital informing me that my daughter who was a college freshman had been involved in a terrible auto accident. My heart almost stopped as they told me the details. We were out of town and it took them several hours to locate us. My daughter had been in a car with 4 of her friends and they were headed out for a party. No one had been drinking. They were only a block off campus when their car was struck broadside by a police car who, traveling at a high rate of speed, ran a red light at a blind intersection without his siren activated. He struck the car on the side where my daughter was sitting. Her rommmate who was sitting in the seat in front of her was killed. My daughter received very serious injuries and was in trauma ICU when I received the call. It took us 8 hours to get to her and that was the longest trip of my life, not knowing if she would be alive when we got there. By the grace of God, she did survive, but our lives were forever changed. That event really emphasized to me how fragile life is and that we should never take it for granted, for it can be drastically changed in an instant. We should never pass up the opportunity to tell our friends and family that we love them, for we never know when they may be taken from us.
  11. by   Grace Oz
    The day my mother died suddenly and unexpectedly. She was 46. I was 14.
  12. by   SmilingBluEyes
    The ONE life-altering moment would be the premature birth of my first child. I knew then I would never be the same.

    I was right. His birth 6 weeks early shook me to the core and made me realize how LITTLE control I have over so many things in life.

    But there have been many defining moments:

    marrying my dh
    joining the USAF
    leaving the USAF after 10 years to go to school and be a mommy
    becoming a nurse
    the pain of losing several pregnancies...indelibly mark me still

    Many moments have changed and altered the course of my life, for the better, most of them. But nothing touches the birth of my first child. And probably never will, til I become a grammy, maybe.
  13. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Quote from Don3218
    Until recent years, I would have answered "My 40th birthday". I really did some soul searching about being a better person, defining (finally) my place in the world, and deciding to do something important with my life. It was then that I decided I'd had enough of Big Business and started looking into nursing school.

    September 11, 2001 made me realize that I had to get moving if I was going to do anything. The suddenness of the violence that came to our nation really made me question so many things. But with the witnessing of such hatred and then profound heroism and love, I found my God.

    And then November 25, 2005. That was the day I learned of my cancer. Talk about an eye-opening, life-affirming event! You know, it's only been a year, but I've started to describe things as "before the surgery/radiation/chemo" and after. Traveling this road has opened me to so many things, new friendships and a rediscovery of family ties.

    I hope this didn't sound maudlin or sad; I have a wonderful life! It's quite nice to think about people and events that have made it so.

    Great thread!
    (((Don))) your post here really moves me. You are so strong.

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