What to do about unfamiliar IMs?

  1. What do you guys do when you are hailed by an unfamiliar IM? If I don't recognize the name I always refuse. However, that has led to me offending a few people I know. The name they use for instant message does not ring a bell so I refuse. I even refused a message from my daughter once, she was going by BigRedW and that sounded suspicious to me so I refused. I told her in the future to email me and tell me about the new name befores she IMs. What do you do?
  2. 6 Comments

  3. by   aimeee
    I refuse IM's from people I do not know or recognize. I think it is courteous to email folks if you change your screen identity so they can accept your pm's without having to wonder. This is just good netiquette.
  4. by   nakitamoon
    I agree,,, with both of you,,,, but I have a story to add,,,,

    I use MSN IM,,,, when I was sending out allnurses,, Christmas Cards,,, etc,,, for somereason,,,, all sorts of names appearing on my IM,,,,,

    I posted a message,,, here,,,,, to let everyone know,,,, as I am not sure how all appeared,,,, I did answer anyone who IM'd me,,, as to who I was,,,, how we got on each other's IM,,,, then gave them,,, the option,,, of deleting me,,,,

    I still have several,,,, I am not sure who they are!,,,,, afraid to delete,,, as you said,,,, It could be someone who has changed their screen name,,,,, Wish they'd let me know,,,, lol
    take care Nik~
  5. by   nurseleigh
    edited: image violates tos.
    on 'em. if they can't tell me who they are, they aren't gonna be on my im list.

    Last edit by P_RN on May 3, '03
  6. by   SmilingBluEyes
    I never take IM's from folks I dont' know. ever.
  7. by   RN2BeIn2005
    edited: inappropriate imag
    on 'em. if they can't tell me who they are, they aren't gonna be on my im list.

    leigh [/b]

    exactly, wy im someone and not identify yourself???
    Last edit by P_RN on May 3, '03
  8. by   nurseleigh
    Another example of why this site has gone down the tubes.

    Could someone explain how that image "violated the TOS?"

    It wasn't vulgar, I didn't insult anyone, and I will even go as far as to say it was well within the pg-13 limitations.

    I have already posted in the feedback section, so don't recommend that. It's obviously not the way to get a quick answer around here. It would be nice if when your post gets edited you get an explanation. Yeah, I got a PM and it said the same thing that is written here. That the image was a violation of the TOS. Not much of an explanation.