What ME work? Giggle.

  1. Went camping at the weekend near here



    A group of us including a couple of teenage girls - relations (sort of more 'lations than relations) anyway I was stonkered by the attitude of the teenagers.

    When asked to wipe up (the only time that they had been expected to do anything that weekend) they put their heads to the side fluttered the eyelashes and through girlish giggles declined the invitation.

    Is it just me or does this sort of reaction send your blood pressure soaring??? I firmly pointed out that common courtesy dictates that he/she who cooks does not do the washing up so the polite thing to do was to offer to take care of that little chore. Reply - "Giggle but that doesn't include us giggle."

    This is not the first time I have encountered this either. At a recent family "do" (other side of family) a group of teenagers were almost frog marched into the kitchen by one of my Aunts (raised 5 boys 1 girl + numerous foster children) and told that they either pulled their weight "or else". Same reaction - one precious princess threatened to leave until it was pointed out that meant walking she then proceeded to do the washing up with her handbag on her arm just and only just dipping the tips of her fingers in the water.

    Perhaps it is just us "oldies" who give these poor put upon youngsters such a hard time.
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  3. by   jnette
    Amazing, isn't it? Almost scary. :uhoh21: Kids today really need a dose of the REAL WORLD. :stone
  4. by   NRSKarenRN
    14yo has SECOND week in row of kitchen duty, as he always empty and fills dishwasher, but forgets that pots and plastic get washed FIRST before dishwasher gets turned on---due to me working OT found 3 days worth of pots yesterday. i told him last night while eating out for hubby's birthday diiner, needed to do this chore.

    This AM, I had the only clean spoon (out of 30+) in kitchen and was able to enjoy cereal. DAD had no such luck. Guess who even washed the kitchen and dinning room floor today.
  5. by   Chaya
    Seems to be universal; in our house it takes 20 min of nagging to get DD to accomplish 5 min of work. There kids seem to think that dishes are self-cleaning and trash flies out of the house by itself. When I remind DD that she is not a princess, she replies airily "Oh, but Mother, I AM".
  6. by   canoehead
    *giggle*

    I am SO glad I don't have a teenager to beat into submission.
    Although I was a rotten, rotten kid myself I DID do the dishes with more respect than that.
  7. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Quote from gwenith
    Went camping at the weekend near here





    Is it just me or does this sort of reaction send your blood pressure soaring

    Perhaps it is just us "oldies" who give these poor put upon youngsters such a hard time.
    Not really. I don't have that many years ahead of them, but some of what i hear incenses me.

    There's a 20 year old in my class who has NO idea what the value of money is. Wrecks a car? Mommy buys a brand new one, no big deal (that's 3 times in 1 1/2 years). So needless to say when a bunch of us in class were discussing how our cars are on the fritz, her suggestion? "Uh why don't y'all just buy a new one?". Oh GEE now why did i THINK of that???? I don't need to pay my rent, i'l just use my money to buy that brand new car lol.

    She brags about how much she's paying for anything. Meanwhile i'm thinking "i'd be more impressed if it was her money getting it". Oh yes, and never worked a day in her life.

    Complains that her grades suck. Yet in the next sentence will tell you what kind of beer she's trying this weekened, and how she stays out till 4 am every night. "Ya know, i'm 20 years old, i am NOT speading a lot of time studying, i'm too young to do that". Wants ME to copy MY notes to study from (and i absolutely refuse to). Yet there she is, napping in class because she's got plan's with (insert some guy's name here) tonight, and won't be getting home till 6 or 7 am. And she thinks i'm going to give her a copy of my notes??? WRONG!


    Can't completely blame HER or her age for her flighty idea about money, since someone's just letting her think and act this way, but one of these days, she'll get a rude awakening on the real world. I'm lucky, i was well aware of how things really are the entire time i grew up, so i didn't turn out like her.

    (Oh did i mention she's into nursing in hopes of lading a UVA resident? Yes, she really said that. Said she'll meet and marry a medical resident, and then quit working. )

    And i've gotten to the point where i can't stand her so much that i can't even look at her to talk to her, and even talking to her is a push. Has nothing to do with jealousy, just the spoiled attitude and the-world-revolves-around-me behavior just grate my nerves. June can't get here fast enough.
    Last edit by Marie_LPN, RN on Feb 29, '04
  8. by   tylerlvn
    I have a 14 year old daughter.... getting her to do anything is like pulling teeth....
  9. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    I think that my mentality when i was a teenager was very atypical of most.

    I washed and dried the dishes, and cleaned the counters and stove after supper. My parents bought the food, my stepmom cooked it, least i could do was clean up.

    I cleaned my own room, dusted and vaccuumed. Heck i'm the one that dirtied it!

    I cleaned the bathroom every 3 weeks. It got cleaned every week, my stepmom did the other times.

    I mowed the front yard (Dad used the Gravely on the backyard, he refused to let me use that). My stepmom did the flowers.

    Through the house, i vacuumed the carpet. My stepmom dusted. Dad put the trash on the curb.

    I was always in by curfew. And even at this age, if i visited and stayed the night and they said to be in by a certain time, i would! THEIR house, THEIR rules.

    My stepmom did the laundry. It was pointess to wash my clothes separate. We're a lot alike on that, i don't like someone else washing my clothes.
  10. by   Tweety
    They are just trying to push their limits. Saying things like "kids these days" just makes you sound old. (you too jnette). But i acknowledge that dealing with teenagers is like dealing with aliens from outer space, and it seems each generation is different from the one before.

    Now of course the polite thing would be for them to clean up, but never presume with teenagers that they are going to meet your expectations. You should have been upfront "I'm the cook and you guys clean up" right from the get go.

    Girls just wanna have fun.

    Last edit by Tweety on Feb 29, '04
  11. by   nekhismom
    OOOOOOOH girls, they just wanna have fu-un

    see what you started again, Tweety??

    Until about 1 month ago, i was raising my 14 y/o sister. Getting her to do anything except clean her own room was like pulling teeth. It was WAAAAAY more frustrating for me to fuss at her than it was for her to ignore me.

    Teenagers. Can any of you believe that we ever acted the way some of these kids do today???
  12. by   Tweety
    Quote from nekhismom
    OOOOOOOH girls, they just wanna have fu-un

    see what you started again, Tweety??

    Until about 1 month ago, i was raising my 14 y/o sister. Getting her to do anything except clean her own room was like pulling teeth. It was WAAAAAY more frustrating for me to fuss at her than it was for her to ignore me.

    Teenagers. Can any of you believe that we ever acted the way some of these kids do today???

    They just wanna, they just wannaaaaa.......

    Of course we didn't act like the teenagers today. We were different, we were respectful of our elders, we worked hard, studied hard, never rebelled against authority. Those stories about the "youth revolution" in the 60s is a lie.
  13. by   SmilingBluEyes
    this is not new.

    girls pulling a "princess" act is as old as Cleopatra herself.

    what IS new, is that we parents in general PUT UP WITH THIS (expletive) as much as we do. THAT I would love to see change.
  14. by   nurseygrrl
    My daughter is 8. When she turned 6 it was my husband who told me that it's time to stop babying her and let her do things for herself. I didn't like this idea at all at first, but now I know he was right. It is our job as parents to teach our children how to do things, after that they should be doing them on their own. I think she will be a better person for it, although I still do get the whining.

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