What is happening????(Moderator's please read)

  1. When I first started reading the posts on this board, then slowly gained the courage to post, I entered a world filled with kind, caring, giving, considerate, compassionate, understanding, forgiving, and loving people. I have been sick the past week and a half with double pneumonia and I haven't been on the board's much but my bestest pal, whom I met through this very BB, has kept me posted on what is going on here and I cannot tell you how my heart is breaking because of it. This world is not perfect, but at one time this was a relief from the "outside" world for me. I came here for advice, support, understanding and a kind word but today when I logged on, after an extended absence, I was overwhelmed to say the very least at what I am seeing. I do not wish to step on anyones toes and what I am about to say does not pertain to everyone but many of you will recognize yourselves when I say that I thought we were dealing with adults here, not temper tantrum throwing two year olds. As adults we are free in this land to express our opinions without the risk of punishment. But....what ever happened to common courtesy, respecting other people's rights and just plain caring about each other???? These Moderator's work very hard to provide us with this board and many have even attacked them......don't judge someone until you have walked in their shoes. They are trying to do what is best for this board, as a whole, not just trying to please a chosen few. Their job is not easy, their decisions will not be liked by all, BUT try understanding a little bit and realize that they provide a wonderful site here for us to come to and UNITE, but from what I am seeing, there hasn't been much unity in quite some time. It's like everyone is in a state of PMS!!!!!! What happened to get to this point? Where did the problems begin? It almost seems like you are in a position of choosing sides from one poster or another! And those that do post, seem to be walking on egg shells, fearful of getting ripped apart. What's up with this crap???? I view many of you as highly intelligent, interesting people and I really enjoy your insite and then there are those that seem to post, simply to stir up the pot and start fights. WHY??? What's the point? Do you want the board closed down???? I know I don't. I love coming home after work, kicking off my shoes and reading the nursing posts, then reading about someone's new baby, a happy occassion, a prayer request where we can all unite, as a family to help fix whatever is broken in someone's life. Fighting is a terrible waste of good energy. It's okay NOT TO AGREE with everthing that someone says, but we can do so in a kind way, not rip into them and bite their heads off!!!!! I thought we were supposed to be like a family and families don't hurt each other like I see what is going on here. There is one in particular person that I cannot even reach now, for they are not accepting PM's. Is this person tired of the crap and taking some time off or are they leaving the board???? I don't know but I do know I miss the ability to talk to this person. Maybe my post is way out of line and if it is, then one of the moderator's can delete it and if they do, I'm not going to bad mouth them and call them names and throw a fit. I'll continue to read and post as usual. I have tried very hard in all my posts, never to hurt or offend anyone and if I have, I am sorry, for I am a very positive and caring person. PLEASE....let's get this board back to the way it used to be. This is a great BB and I would be very saddened if it were closed down! Just my 2cents worth. God Bless all of you and I pray your day is a good one.
  2. 18 Comments

  3. by   hoolahan
    Duckie, I can't speak for the masses, but I have said the same darned things over and over so much I am sick of hearing myself.

    I am drained from this, and hope you will forgive me for not perpetuating yet another thread on this issue. I understand what you have said, and empathize, but please search my previous posts, my views haven't changed.
  4. by   hoolahan
    I am sorry Duckie, I meant to say I am sorry you weren't feeling well, and I;m glad you're better! :kiss
  5. by   jnette
    Thanx, Duckie.. for sharing your heart in such a caring way. I agree and I, too, came to this BB for the same reasons..and am still fairly new here. I have found lately that rather than kicking back, relaxing, and ENJOYING, that I leave the board shaking my head.. kinda depressing... have enough of that in the "real world"..don't need to come here and have more of it. I'm not one to get depressed (to allow it) so I just try to avoid the threads that look like they might be a tad too "heavy" for me... even though I feel like I might have something to add...I've found that sometimes it's just not worth it.
    Just like in the "real world", there are real people behind these screens we type on, and real people, myself included, have flaws.

    It's still a great BB, like you said... and I find what works for me now is to "proceed with caution". Pick and choose my threads and avoid those that give me a bad feeling. Noone likes being ganged up on, so sometimes it's best to keep out of things.
    Hope you get to feeling better...all the way around !:kiss
  6. by   mattsmom81
    Glad to see you're feeling better and posting again, Duckie!

    Human beings sometimes 'push each others buttons' inadvertantly ...some unhappy people do it on purpose. If we can't discuss our issues rationally and find ourselves constantly angry with a particular poster's views, we should just place them on our 'ignore' list, IMHO.

    I have been guilty of' letting' my buttons get pushed and have responded in irritation...I'm going to make a concerted effort to avoid this, as it's not fair to expose everyone else to the carnage that can result....LOL!

    I agree...let's be kind to one another...the world can be such an unkind place and we need a refuge.
  7. by   CATHYW
    Duckie, so glad that you are feeling better! What a hateful thing to have happen to you!

    There were those who tried to speak with a modicum of reason, in the situation(s) that went on within the past week. One person (the one you can't PM) seemed not to hear any of it, further inciting someother folks to be not quite as reticent as they might have been.

    Hoolihan is right-there really isn't anymore to be said about that fiasco.

    I agree with your thoughts-I really like this board, and don't want to risk losing it as a forum for our thoughts.
    Last edit by CATHYW on Oct 19, '02
  8. by   Brownms46
    I believe one person, in particular, was beginning to feel a co-owner of the site. :-(

    JMO that it's posts like this and others that keeps stuff going. Healing can't begin if statements like this continue to be made.
  9. by   night owl
    Glad you're feeling better Duckie. Things haven't been going so well here lately. I tend to stay out of that sort of nonsense. It's such a waste of time and energy. People need to stop being so cruel to one another even on a cyber board. Some might say, "It shouldn't interfere with with your real life." This is real life and I thought we were like a family here. Some people are more sensative than others who wear a suit of armour. I'm tired of it all and sometimes I wish I never found this place, but I'm an addict what can I say? I sure hope it all stops. (at least until the next big blow up...or full moon) I've learned to pick and choose my threads. After a few of these cyber brawls you learn to stay out of it period.
    So I'm not into choosing sides and remain neutral all the way. So glad to see you back. Continue to take care of your self kiddoe!
  10. by   CATHYW
    Originally posted by Brownms46

    JMO that it's posts like this and others that keeps stuff going. Healing can't begin if statements like this continue to be made. [/B]
    Sorry, Brownms, I was just stating MHO in answer to the question. No offense meant, and certainly no stir-up intended, okay?
  11. by   Brownms46

    It just seems if the events keep being bought up, kind of hard to get on with things. And I believe you are sincere, and I thank you for being understanding of where I'm going from here.
  12. by   DebsZoo
    duckie, welcome back.........glad you are felling better
  13. by   eltrip
    Duckie, glad you're back!

    Now, Let's PLAY!
  14. by   Jenny P
    I'm glad you are feeling better Duckie.
    And I'm glad I missed all the Brouha since I was off the BB recently due to personal and family matters. I promise to be good!