Wendy, I'm really glad you had it out and got things straightened out with this girl so at least it will stop eating at you, but I just have to say: this
Originally posted by hapeewendy
she did say something striking though , after we talked she said (ironically the same thing my own mom has been saying for years now) "you know that you are a better friend to everyone then they could ever be to you"
is horseshit, pure and simple. Is she trying to say that most people would
spill their friends' relationship secrets in casual conversation? And you alone are impossibly and unachievably virtuous because you wouldn't be so thoughtless? Crap. I'm sorry, but that's like those people who, when called on their own rudeness, shrug it off by saying, "Well, I can't help it; that's just the way I am" like it's a free pass for them to behave badly. I don't buy it, and you shouldn't either.
We all know you're wonderful, but we're not talking about donating a kidney here or giving someone your life savings. We're just talking about NOT trashing someone behind their back. Forgive me if I think people CAN manage to be at least this good of a friend, even if they aren't you.
Bleagh. Sorry, obviously a hot button of mine. Anyway, I repeat, I'm glad you got it settled, but please don't allow her to lower your (not unreasonable) expectations of good-friend behavior.