Well, I finally did it--Changed the number/cut off all contact...

  1. Some of you may be familiar with my on again off again thing with my ex-boyfriend. We were together for 3 years, broke up then spent the next 2 years dating and breaking up. In this time I dated other guys, felt sorry for myself for being alone, felt happy to be single...every emotion imaginable, I felt it. Unfortunately, I always went back to this jerk. Well, not anymore. I changed my telephone # and removed him from my instant messenger contact list. It's a start I guess.

    T.
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  2. 16 Comments

  3. by   legsmalone
    Wow, thats a big step...
    (((((TCW)))))
    good luck!
  4. by   rebelwaclause
    "One Day At A Time".....TCW. PM me if you need girlfriend support!
  5. by   LasVegasRN
    Ahhhhhh, let the purging begin!!!

    Feel good about it, TCW. You're cleaning house! Once you dust away all those cobwebs, take out all those trash bags that accumulated, open up the windows and let some fresh air come in, you're going to realize that your house is beautiful. You're going to want to sit and admire your newly cleansed house and maybe spruce it up some!

    Some people may not like all this cleaning you've done. They may say they liked it better the old way and won't understand why you felt the need to change it.

    Some people may not feel comfortable in your newly cleansed house. Fine. They shouldn't be there anyway. It's YOUR house.

    Once you've completed the cleansing of your house - your house of love of YOU, take the time to enjoy it. Anytime you see another bag of garbage you need to take out, TAKE IT OUT!! Keep that house clean!! Because once you've stayed steady in keeping YOUR house clean, others are going to see it's brilliance - even without having to invite them in.

    So, go 'head gurl. Roll up your sleeves, wrap up your hair, and GET TO WORK!!

    PM if you need a cheerleader!!
  6. by   Mkue
    Way to Go TCW !

  7. by   Nurse Ratched
    Generally, I'm a proponent of the idea that if the milk is spoiled, then no matter how many times you go back to check, it's still gonna be spoiled. Good for you for cleaning out the fridge once and for all (altho I like Vegas' house analogy better! )
  8. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Good---stay strong in your convictions, now. I wish you luck.
  9. by   TheBrainMusher
    I know how hard that can be at times to let someone go that you thought/or do care about! Good for you and stay strong. Before you think about talking to him, make sure you call a friend first or check back on the board. It will help keep you strong and will distract you!
  10. by   mopsi
    2 concepts from me........
    INSANITY is doing the same things over and over and expecting different results....................................

    Continuing to go back into a bad relationship is like having a Gambling Addiction...You go to the Race track every day and bet all you money on the 8 horse..time after time you wish and hope and pray your pony will come in but after thousands of times and thousands of dollars that horse just dosen't hit..but you do it again ..just one more time..partly because you need to justify why you spent all the time doing it before..and a part of your EGO just doen't want to accept that you were wrong....another part is just plain old wishful thinking...based on nothing more logical than you want the 8 horse to win...STOP BETTING THE 8 HORSE.....you can still bet, but honey its time to pick a different horse.............
  11. by   renerian
    That is a a good step. Take baby steps. Makes things easy to bite off and chew.

    Hugs,

    renerian
  12. by   shygirl
    Good for you! What better time to start fresh than a new year!
    Good luck and stay strong. I remember Dennis Miller (the comic) once said that going back to someone after you have broken up was like spoiled milk. Do you put it back in the refrigerator and hope it is not spoiled the next time you want to drink it? LOL
    Shygirl
  13. by   hapeewendy
    as someone who is just baby steps ahead of you in the whole breakup deal I can tell you that you are on the right track!
    I'm not preaching either, I've been where you are quite recently actually and a major step was starting to cut the ties that bind you
    I'm proud of you
    you have a heck of a lot to give to someone , why waste it on a taker?
    we are all here for you
    and I'm rooting you on!
    *hugs*
    there are going to be days that are lonely and days that make you scream , but a good scream isnt a bad thing, neither are some tears
    as time goes on you'll start to get more and more aware of all the good qualities you posses
    sounds like a bunch of psychobabble hooey , but it isnt, I promise.....
    I'm doin it right alongside ya girl!
  14. by   colleen10
    Good for you!!!

    No better time than the beginning of a new year!

    I like that Spoiled Milk Analogy, I will have to use that one.

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