Wedding vows

  1. okay guys, I know I just joined , but I need some ressurance here.
    I've posted that Justin (my honey) and I are getting married in less than 2 months.
    We decided to write our own vows, which is so nice, I cannot wait to hear him say his , makes my heart aflutter just thinking about it!
    problem is , lately ,I've had dreams that I'm getting married (in the same dress and everything!) and I forget the vows!!!

    there is no way I could forget them , I have been reading them nightly and have read them for a few other people , like my mother and my sister in law. People think they are great, and I Love saying them
    am I just anxious?
    anyone have experience with writing their own vows?
    or any cute wedding related anecotes to make me feel better?

  2. 25 Comments

  3. by   Rustyhammer
    Love, honor and obey?
  4. by   sbic56
    Your post reminds me of an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond where Ray and Debra decide to renew their vows and Raymond doesn't realize he was supposed to make up vows until Debra recites some really impressive vows she made up first. He tried to fake it in his usual fasion. It was hilarious!!

    But, you are going to do fine!! Oh, and Congratulations!!
  5. by   sedate_me_stat
    no Rustyhammer, the love honor and obey part is his part

    he must obey me!
    yeah I love everybody loves raymond, that episode was on tv here a couple weeks ago and my mother called me to poke fun at me- that is what moms do.

    I think I might just be nervous , but I am on the shy side, so reciting something from the heart that I have written scares me a bit
    thanks for the congrats, fiance and I are having all kinds of silly arguements about things but I'm told this is normal

  6. by   ptnurse
    We just went with the standard "repeat after me" type vows. But you will be brillant and elequoent (sp??). As for cute wedding stories, I did have a friend whose father walked her down the aisle with his fly open. Every wedding has a little something that goes wrong. Just keep your sense of humor and keep telling yourself that at the end of the day, you get to go home with the greatest guy in the world. Much luck.
  7. by   nurse-in-boots
    My hubby actually said in his vows..." to love, honor, and poke fun at.." Ahhh, his sence of humor
  8. by   KMLWA2003
    i was really nervous at my wedding too!
    you'll do fine. i had those anxiety dreams too.
    except i forgot to put my dress on!
    i'm sure you will have a beautiful wedding
  9. by   Good_Queen_Bess

    If you go to a search engine and search "quotes" or "wedding vows" that might work. What about words from a favourite song?

    Check out

    They have all sorts of ideas and they also have vows, both traditional and modern.

    I particularly like this one:

    We will forever love one another and to share our most intimate thoughts.
    Promise to hold and cherish and value each other.
    We will live each day as if our last, vowing to never go to bed angry.
    If sorrow enters our life as things sometimes do ,we pledge to one another that together we will see things through.
    As we grow old and we slowly begin to change we will look into each others eyes and know that what we have will never go.
    That with each breath we take ,our love will grow .
    These are the words I feel and speak from my heart.

    Hope you are as happy in marriage as I am.
  10. by   KMLWA2003
    what a beautiful vow!
  11. by   sedate_me_stat
    that is lovely.
    I am still trying to incorporate new things into my vows.

    Doing a web search for love quotes right now. There are so many to choose from!

    we still have not decided on our song yet. We have very different tastes in music. Hard to decide whether I want to go for an oldie but a goodie ,or a new release.

    Last edit by sedate_me_stat on Apr 17, '03
  12. by   KMLWA2003
    i had big band music at my wedding
    did our first dance to "it had to be you"
  13. by   NRSKarenRN
    We had a rather unusual wedding ceremony. As soon as we said, I Do we heard a BAMMMM like someone falling in the pew. Priest FROZE. Hubby turned to me and said,"My father had another heart attack and is dead." As we turned and saw him lying on the pew, I whispered back that she probably had just been diluting his potassium (only came in discusting liquid then) and that there were 4 RN's in the first two pews who could help him. Soon heard siren--firehouse 1 block away ,ambulance at church in 2 minutes. We went on with the ceremony.

    His dad was admitted to the hospital and new MIL went with him. My mother was in a panic as trying to great 175 guests (out of 375) she didn't know. Got word he had hypokalemia + admitted. Almost had the photographer be knocked out by my non-violkent husband when he kept insiting my FIL must be brought from the hospital to be included in the wedding pictures---he finally got tossed out. After the wedding reception, we visited Dad in the hospitatl--was inpatient our entire honeymoon.

    So, i really don't remember the special vows my husband said to me and our marriage has survived many ambulance trips over the past 27 years. So remember not too much can go wrong that you can't deal with, if you just roll with the punches.
  14. by   sedate_me_stat
    wow, that sounds eventful!

    I'm not too worried about the wedding itself. I am good with details. But I know that little things will happen.

    I try not to sweat the small stuff.

    we are going to marriage councling of sorts. Despite joking about the councling part, it is going pretty well.

    that is amazing ,about the bigband I mean.
    We are having one of Justin's friends DJ, he is very good!