wedding fever!

  1. I went to a beautiful wedding this weekend
    and now I'm sitting here all sappy and gooey because I wanna get married too!
    I know silly innit? at this wedding I was one of the few singlites left and my life flashed forward to an image of myself in 30 years with a 100 cats, hello can we say spinster?!?
    ok so I'm being overdramatic
    but I totally fell into the wedding trap
    how do I get out?
    someone please post statistics on divorce or something to snap me out of this!!!
    pretty soon I'll be going to wedding websites and planning my ideal wedding in vivid detail before the groom to be even propose to me
    martha stewart was doing wedding cakes today too and I WATCHED the entire program, and none of the cakes were even chocolate, I mean if they were that would explain my interest in the show
    no more slow songs on the radio, cuz those are all potential first dance songs
    I need help!
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  3. by   jayna
    Wedding??? What is that? hehehhee....
    Been a bridesmaid more than 10 x .......Never been married in my life.

    I like to see the statistic too and also the divorce statistic.
  4. by   Ted
    . . . well I can introduce you to my sister who has been married 4 times, so far!!! And she's only 38 years old!!!!

    That might put the fires out on your "wedding fevers"!!! :chuckle

    Your post reminds me of my "younger days" of late teens and early twenties. I was "nearly" engaged to my high school sweet-heart. Gave her the ring but she had to give it back. . . . we were too young, I guess (according to her parents!). However, that didn't stop us from planning our wedding. We planned our wedding right down to the type of wedding cake we'd have. It was an obsession!!!!! We talked about it EVERYDAY!!!!! During our senior year in high school, we were naming our fourth and fifth child!!!!

    "Here Comes the Bride. All dressed in white. . . . ."


  5. by   kids
    Don't have any statistics handy...but I married the last husband I will ever have August 2000 (#3) at 36.

    Practice makes perfect
  6. by   RNforLongTime

    I know just how you feel! I too felt the same way! I was a bridesmaid in 4 weddings, including my younger sister. She married at 19! They are still together. Then one day, at a bar of ALL places, I met my future hubby although I didn't know that at the time. I just thought he was some guy with some liquid courage asking me out. He called the next day, we went out the following Friday and got engaged 7 weeks later! Go figure! They say that you'll find love when you aren't looking for it. I sure wasn't looking for it that night! My hubby and I celebrated our 3rd wedding anniversary this past May! Be patient. Your day will come!

  7. by   LasVegasRN
  8. by   Lausana
    LOL I sat and watched the "American Wedding" on A&E yesterday for hours, I just couldn't stop....What are those divorce statistics??
  9. by   fergus51
    Oh Wendy, I know it sucks to be the one not getting married right now, but just think of how happy you'll be when you don't have to get divorced in a year or two.
  10. by   suzannasue
    Happee...Give yourself a hug for me...
    Having been a bride 4 times and NEVER a bridesmaid,I can tell you from first hand experience, the "romance" of a wedding is sometimes enough to make anyone feel left out and lonely if single...HOWEVER...I envy all of you single,young people who have a CAREER prior to having a husband...and you have the time to learn exactly who are and learn to love yourself for all the wonderful things you are capable of doing !!!!!!
    We all want to be loved and cherished...but all the tulle,lace and flowers in the world cannot guarantee happiness...I have been there, sucked into the "romance" by these wonderful prince charmings,only to find out way too late that they were not frogs, but vicious beasts,control freaks...have been stalked,beaten to a pulp, financially ruined and humiliated by the princes...all because of some need within myself to be loved and my worth verified by someone have societal generation was big on the Prince Charming, June Cleaver (Beaver's mom) sort of mind set...
    You are such a beautiful person Happeewendy,a good soul in this world of tainted personalities...(we all agree that the gene pool needs more chlorine!!!!) Give yourself time to do the things you want to do...and love good to yourself...treat yourself...educate yourself and grow as a person.......
    My last message for you is a line I used for years to get me through the lonely times..." I would rather be alone than wishing I were".
    Take care...and always remember, there is a big difference in being lonely and being alone...
  11. by   LasVegasRN
    WOW Suzannasue!!! GREAT post!! I wish there was an applauding smilie!!
  12. by   Cindy_A
    The wedding stuff is a lot of fun, but REMEMBER.... there is a MARRIAGE afterwards!!! The wedding only lasts for a few hours, a marriage lasts for years ( or however long you want it to!)
    I got married for the 1st time at age 41, I don't regret it. The only thing about getting married when you are older is that your chances of having a baby are very small. I DON'T like that!!
  13. by   hapeewendy
    I love you guys , group hug action going on over here to all of you!
    I am also happy to report that I am over my sappy woeful I wanna be married mood, and your posts helped me realize that honestly I'm the lucky one.
    I took a moment to realize what I do have and although we always want for more than we have, in the whole big scheme of things I think I'm doing alright.
    Like my wonderful boyfriend says, we have the kind of love that all those married people are jealous of, the kind where you know that marriage is a for drawn conclusion but dont feel the pressure to get right to it, instead taking the time to just love eachother. And really, I know he's so right....
    he doesnt say it quite as eloquently as I just typed it, but I'm lucky to have someone who does respect me far more than I see any of my friends significant others do, I guess its just hard for me to realize that I dont need to live up to other peoples standards and ideals, I can live my life the way I want to and the rest will fall into place.
    So no , I didnt grab my guy and run to vegas and tie the knot out of being overwhelmed by all the wedding part bliss, I just had a momentary lapse in my normally very clear judgement hehe
    and the fact that when people hear that I have been dating the same person for 6 years now, the first question is ALWAYS "so when are you getting married?" or "so how come youre not married?"
    I'd be lying if I said I didnt want to be married,
    but rushing into it or forcing the issue wouldnt work well for the partnership.
    once again,you guys are a ray of sunshine to me,
    I appreciate you all beyond belief
    single and okay with it
  14. by   BadBird
    Ok Wende,
    50% of all marriages end in divorce for first time marriages and 60% for 2nd marriages. I hope you feel better. Think of all the money you save because you don't have to start over or pay a divorce lawyer a fortune. Count your blessings