Wake Up!

  1. Where is the Tuesday good morning thread. You sleepy heads should be awake here to entertain me.

    I got up a 3:00AM, went to the gym and walked the dog.

    I can't help thinking about a friend of mine whom I just found out is shooting up crystal meth. "only on the weekends when I party". He's also HIV positive, healthy but destroying his immune system. He's had trouble with it in the past, but has been clean for 8 long years, during which time he got a good job, graduated from college, and is taking courses to become a nurse. I have to just detach or I'll go crazy. I just can't get him out of my mind this morning.

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  3. by   Rapheal
    Morning Tweety. The dog has been walked here too but my hubby did it .
    It is hard to let go of friends when they are being self destructive. But life is too short to get involved with helping people who don't want to help themselves. Maybe he will see the light and then you can be there for him.

    Keep up the good mood. Have a great day!
  4. by   Tweety
    You're right on Rapheal. I've had to let go of our friendship. I refuse to have anything to do with him until he cleans up and I know I can't fix him. He's moved on to a new set of friends and written all his old friends off. So sad.
  5. by   movealong
    Several years back, I also had a friend who started snorting crystal meth.
    I tried to stay close to her, but it didn't work. She changed completely: her personality, who she hung out with...you get the picture. She had been one of my best friends and it was so diffucult to let her go. I understand what you are going through. But you gotta back off, or they will drag you down with them. I know that sounds very harsh, but that's my personal experience. I loaned her money foolishly, when I thought she was going to rehab. The money went towards drugs. I wouldn't let her new found friends in my apartment because I felt they would soon be stealing from me.

    She was such a special person before the drugs took over. I still think of her from time to time. But, if she ever wants to straighten out, I'd be there for her in a hot minute. Sadly, I don't think it will ever happen.
  6. by   manna
    Do I have to wake up? Can't I please go back to bed? It's rainy and just the perfect lazy kinda day.

    I so admire you for getting up at 3am. I am totally NOT a morning person.

    Sorry to hear about your friend. It's so hard to see someone engaging in such self-destructive behavior.

    On another note, the cousin's wife I mentioned as a prayer request on another thread passed away last night. I think once she found out, she was so defeated that her will to live just evaporated. At least she's not suffering...
  7. by   laughingfairy
    Tweety, I totally understand what your saying. My girlfriend from high school and college moved away and got back into drugs (heroin) and is currently stripping for a living. Has three wonderful kids who I love dearly. They were the hardest part of letting go.

    There in a wonderful foster home right now while their grandparents (who live here) try to get custody. It will take time especially because of state to state issues. But a least right now she is only allowed supervised visitation and Dad is allowed no contact.

    Hopefully when they get back I will get to see alot of them. DH has no problem with them being here it is her that he doesn't want around our three.

    But you are right you can't be part of the life of someone who is so self destructive. Or else the chaos of their life will only pull you in.

    Sleep tight.
  8. by   leslie :-D
    i think i should work nocs. i'm definitely the type that thrives when everyone else is sleeping, always been like that. even when i was working days and would come home exhausted, i'd still stay up until 4am then set my alarm for 6 am.....

    tweety, i get cringes w/crystal meth. i know there are so many nasty drugs out there but anyone that is using amphetamines is on a fast suicide death wish. i've lost some of my friends to acid and crystal meth, many years ago. you just have to dissociate and yes, it is very sad.

  9. by   Tweety
    Quote from manna
    I so admire you for getting up at 3am. I am totally NOT a morning person.

    Me neither, by 9AM I was back asleep.
  10. by   H ynnoD
    I left all of my old Friends when I gave up Drinking and Drugs.My Best friend for 27 years still smokes Dope and drinks.It keeps us from being as close as we use to.I keep in contact alittle and keep praying for Him,because I miss the friendship we use to Have..Most of my friends I use to have were just users,so they were'nt really friends.I have many new friends now and life is Great.Keep in touch with your friend if you were close,but keep a distance.Things change and maybe the Chance will come where you can Help get him back on the Right track...
  11. by   nurseygrrl
    Tweety~ I'm sorry about your friend. Sometimes people with HIV have that mentality that 'I'm going to die anyhow, so why not enjoy myself?' From what you said, it's something he enjoyed in the past. Also, HIV patients can be so super depressed, but not want to burden anyone so they turn to other things to mask their depression. At any rate, I'm sorry and I'm glad you know you can't 'save' hime. You have to take care of you first and foremost.

    manna~ So sorry about your cousin's wife.

    It was a nice day for me...worked a 12 for some extra money then came home and went to 'Literacy Night' at my daughter's school. It was really cute. Grades 1 thru 5 wrote class books and individual books and it was a chance for parents and other students to read them. Each book had a 'comments' section on the back to write a little note to the author. It was nice.