Waaaay Older Men & Much Younger Women- What do you think?

  1. My girlfriend was just propsed to by her 60 year old boyfriend. She is 31 years old. They have been together for about 5 years now.

    He is a divorced, VERY wealthy plastic surgeon in NY. He has 4 children who are all married and much OLDER than my friend. They met at my friend's business. She owns a doggy daycare center(yep) and his dog was one of her clients

    They seem to be in love..I just don't really get it. Believe me, it is NOT about the money because her family is well off on their own. He is unattractive (well at least to me), but extremely nice.

    My friend happens to be one of those GORGEOUS model types. She can have any man she wants. She said "yes" to him. Most of her friends are telling her she is making a mistake..She is wasting her youth on him. She will end up becoming his nurse maid..etc etc. She also wants kids..I am not sure if he does..

    She is looking for my advise..I told her she needs to go with her heart, becuase it is HER life. But she also needs to think of her future. A 30 year difference is tremendous.

    What do you think? Do you agree?
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  3. by   adrienurse
    I love older men, but maybeee no that old. I guess the age of someone is but a single factor in who they are.
  4. by   nurs4kids
    My upper lip curled up as I read the age difference. I just think it's plain gross..period. However, my hubby's 5yrs younger than me and I think that's just fine . Soooooo, it depends on who you're asking and who you're talking about..lol

    bottom line...if THEY are happy, it's no buzinez of anyone else's.
  5. by   LasVegasRN
    I can't speak. I'm 37 and lusting after a 19 year old. It must be a hormonal thing.
  6. by   Robin61970
    I have to say at first I thought eww gross, but I tell my friends and children that you cannot judge someone by their looks so how can you judge them by thier age and looks? I think that she ahs to make her decision from her heart and if she is asking for advice then she is not sure of her feelings....
  7. by   live4today
    I agree with Robin's take on this........your friend has to make her own decision......right or wrong........and "if she is asking for advice" that DOES raise a major red flag in my opinion...that just maybe she wants you to tell her to RUN and don't look back. :chuckle

    If he were ten years older than her.....even less than 15...I wouldn't think this as much......but 30 years Wow! She really needs help with this one.

    Was your friend by chance raised without a father? Or...if she had her father in her life......was her relationship with him a positive one?
  8. by   adrienurse
    Well I think that I get enough of caring for "geriatric men" at work, I don't want my marriage to be about this in the long-run.
  9. by   christianRN
    I wouldn't dream of it for myself, but if it works for them... more power to them! I'm with Cheerfuldoer, though with your friend's situation: If they've been together for 5 years and she's asking for advice...BIG RED FLAG!!! If you don't know in 5 years if "he's the one" or not, maybe it's time to move on!
    Maybe she just wants some surgical freebies?

    Seriously, it's not my place to question another's love. I wouldn't want anyone to question mine.

    But there's a part of me that can't help it. 60? Ewwwwww.....

  11. by   ptnurse
    She really needs to think through the idea of being a very young widow, and have a very long talk with him about wanting children. Is he going to be looking at the idea of retirement soon. Is he going to want her to give up her work and hang out with him?? They have a lot of things to work out before getting married. Best of luck to them if they decide to go for it. I kinda hope she decides against it.
  12. by   JUSTYSMOM
    The apple doesn't fall far from the tree..Her mother married a man 20 years older than her. He was already 55 years old when my girlfriend was born. Sadly, he died a few years ago at 74.

    Perhaps she is lookign for a father figure. I guess, as long as she feels this is the right thing to do. Personally, it does make my skin crawl a bit thinking about that age difference.

    Now, on the other hand, I too am secretly lusting over a 16 year old intern at my job I am 35..Nothing wrong with that- huh? LOL!
  13. by   BadBird
    Since they have already been together 5 years I am sure they both know how they feel about each other. I don't think one can base Love on a number, more power to them, I hope it works out.
  14. by   donmurray
    I always felt my mission in life was to be a toyboy, but now my target group are in their 80's and 90's, maybe not! LOL!