Venting,ranting

  1. How many years have women been having babies??? When did pregnancy become a disability ??? In our small rural hospital we have 6 expectant mothers, all are doing very well, once the first trimester nausea - vomiting subsided.
    One of my co-workers, 16 weeks pregnant is driving our staff bonkers with her minute- to- minute descriptions of how she feels her uterus stretching ( " it hurts so bad" )... she wears a mask into every patient's room which is understandable to a point if they are infectious, however she wears it into post lap- chole, GI bleeder, chest pain, CVA, hemorrhoidectomy patient rooms...
    We have tried to tell her that she is more apt to "catch" something while shopping....
    She also has decided she cannot reposition her patients because she " might strain her uterus "...give me a break...we all dread working with her because she constantly complains about the changes her body is going through and spends the entire shift massaging her belly...she had gas pain a few nights ago but according to her she "just knew" she had placenta previa...she is constantly reading magazines about parenthood, then stays an extra hour after shift documenting patient care...I realize that all of her complaints are subjective...I cannot feel her uterus stretching...but by golly, it is my understanding that our bodies are highly adapted for childbirth...but you know, for the past 15 years or so,I have worked with many nurses who, upon having a positive pregnancy test are put on desk duty...what is up with this???? I would also like to add that several pregnant co-workers have looked at them in disbelief because they cranked out the work like the rest of us...........................
    Is this just a local attitude toward expectant mothers or have any of you had similar experiences???? If the woman is having complications , I can understand decreasing her workload...but I have become so weary of hearing this woman's minute- to-minute whiny descriptions of her body stretching, gas pain, etc....
    Thanks for letting me vent and rant...20 weeks and counting...hoping this is the only child she has !!!!!
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  2. 27 Comments

  3. by   Angelica
    I've never had to deal with that as a nurse (I'm still a student), but I spent 22 years in the Marine Corps and have seen my share of *delicate* pregnancies. I used to tell them to shut the **** up and get back to work. I couldn't always get these whiners to pull their share, but I could shut them up and that's better than nothing.
    Anyway, I'm sorry for your situation. Think happy thoughts!
  4. by   Tweety
    Gee all this at only 16 weeks, have fun with her.

    I've been lucky most of the pregnant workers I've worked with have been awesome.
  5. by   researchrabbit
    I think she has problems with anxiety. I bet she wasn't an easy coworker before she got pregnant.
  6. by   Nurse Ratched
    I've never been down that road, so probably shouldn't criticize (but why not! )

    I had the whiniest pregnant co-worker - from the time she found out she was pregnant immediately after her honeymoon. She was universally hated before this. First we had to hear comments about how she really wasn't ready for another baby (she had 3 already at age 23) but that "he won't use condoms." (Hello??? - you're a nurse and this isn't the stone age - if you don't know of any other options than condoms, I can't help you.) Then it was lots of veiled references to how they were having problems and she wanted to be pregnant to improve the marriage (paging the clue police...Dr. Laura is never around when you need her.) Then it was 7 months of morning sickness, accusations that we were "endangering my baby" by insisting that she actually do her job while she was on the clock (with a modified assignment of all the least difficult patients.) Finally, she *appointed* the charge nurse of the unit (who also despised her, but didn't have the spine to say no) to organize her baby shower. I didn't go, didn't acknowledge her last day, and was thrilled when the expected announcement came that she had officially decided not to return after maternity leave.

    On the other hand, I have had absolutely fabulous with-child co-workers. My experience has been that marginal workers before pregnancy are worse after, and those who were good remain so.
  7. by   Lausana
    Oh brother! She can't handle doing some work now, tell her to wait until motherhood hits! Sounds like she's going to have issues when the new baby arrives and steals all her "attention". Hopefully she'll take an early leave!
  8. by   RNonsense
    Jeez...I worked like a dog before, during and after my pregnancies. I haven't met anyone like you describe thankfully!
  9. by   caroladybelle
    I also predict that you will hear all about every cramp, pain, minute abnormality in blood work, every ounce the baby gains or loses, she will go home (leaving the floor short) for every sneeze, etc., etc.

    Have fun!!!!!!
  10. by   BadBird
    I suggest you print out your post, put it in a blank card and give it to her. She should get the message.
  11. by   SingingNurse2
    Maybe you could try some reverse psychology?

    Tell her how much you admire how "strong" modern pregnant women are and how they work so hard without complaining?

    It should either motivate her to act better or at least clam her up around you because she knows how you feel about "wimpy" women.

    I personally had one "perfect" pregnancy and one "difficult" pregnancy, but worked the entire nine months of both without a reduction in work load. (But I also have a husband who would disown me if I started acting wimpy )
  12. by   Jenny P
    In spite of the fact that nurses DO have a higher rate of miscarriages than non-nurses, I know many nurses who have worked the full nine months they were "with child"-- including me. I think that because of the higher miscarriage rate it is possible that some hospitals may restrict the workloads of pregnant nurses, but that is probably the exception and not the rule.

    I think this nurse needs a reality check. Has she never been told that pregnancy is a normal condition? Has she never been sick? I have had co-workers who were in extremely good physical condition (marathon runners, etc.) who have commented on abdominal wall pains with the stretching of the muscles during the last few weeks of pregnancy, but not at 16 weeks!

    I think you and your co-workers are in for a LONG pregnancy ahead. (But just thank goodness you aren't married to this jewel!)
  13. by   Angelica
    Originally posted by BadBird
    I suggest you print out your post, put it in a blank card and give it to her. She should get the message.
    I don't know. People like that are often impervious to rational intervention. She might feel like she's being singled out and persecuted.
  14. by   BusyMom
    I worked with a Dr. that acted like that. She would tell me every tiny ache or nausea. It was very hard for me to listen because I was trying to get pregnant. Finaly I got pregnant. I kept it asecret until 14 weeks. I tried to do the opposite of her and never would complain! She used to try to question me about how I felt!

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