VENT: Abuse of Handicapped Parking Places

  1. Does it bother anyone else to see a (seemingly) able bodied person get out of their car that they parked in the handicap parking space at Walmart, (or anywhere for that matter)!

    My friend who is a paraplegic let a (nurse) that we worked (notice the past tense use of the word worked), worked with use his handicap parking placqard (sp) because she was going to give him a lift one day... (Yes it was very kind of her to give him a lift and he did give her gas money)
    Well about two months later someone else was going to take him out to a casino so he could have a little fun away from the nursing home where he currently lives and I suggested that he use his plaquard to make it a little easier for him and the friend who was taking him out...
    He told me, "but she hasn't given it back yet..." He didn't want to say anything to her because he though it would make her mad at him.
    I went to her right then and there with him and said "You have his plaquard and he needs it so lets go to your car and get it right now!"
    She made some comment (trying to be funny) about how will I get to park up front if I give it back? I told her, "How will you park up front... Well why don't you get into your own car wreck, fly through the windshield and severe your spine and become a paraplegic then you can get your own handicapped parking plaquard, that's how you get to park up front!"

    Nothing Pi$$e$ me off more than someone using someone elses misfortune to advance themselves in some way!

    Okay sorry for rambling on...
    Just tell me it bothers someone else to see blatant misuse of handicapped parking places! And how do you keep from saying something?
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  2. 47 Comments

  3. by   ktwlpn
    Just yesterday I saw awoman ina handicapped spot at my local grocery store...No sticker,no specail plate...She was a middle aged women-sitting there with the car door open and the radio on,smoking a cig....It was all I could do to keep my mouth shut at the time and now I wish I had said something..
  4. by   Robin61970
    It irritates me to no end as well, but I also have a different scenario to deal with. My MIL is disabled.....congestive heart disease.....renal artery disease...arterial sclerosis......the things is...while she is very ill and can't walk very far(hence having handicap placard) she looks perfectly fine from the outside....she has no physical abnormalities that are visible to the naked eye.....this has made me more tolerant when I see handicap stickers, but I do still wonder when I see people at the college parking there when they look just fine.........
  5. by   kaycee
    Originally posted by nursegoodguy
    Does it bother anyone else to see a (seemingly) able bodied person get out of their car that they parked in the handicap parking space at Walmart, (or anywhere for that matter)!

    HELL YES!!
    I contemplated getting a temporary placard before even before I had my hip replaced because it was so hard to walk. I decided not to since I was still working and I felt funny about it.
    Well as I hobbled into stores before and after the surgery(I had to use a walker for 6 weeks). or restaurants or whatever, I would get royally pi$$ed off at the obviously nonhandicapped people with placards or plates.
    It's really easy to get them and MD's don't really care, they fill out the form for anybody who asks.
    What gets me the most though is the people like that nurse, who are friends and family and take advantage of the placard or plate when the handicapped person isn't even with them.

    I have said something to people in a handicapped space that had no placard or plate. The others you just have to glare at because they have what they need to park there.
    I'm really good at dirty looks though!!!
  6. by   galenight
    Nursegoodguy, you just hit on my all time biggest pet peeve. First let me say that Robin is absolutely correct, sometimes you can't see the disability. But, when they are parked there and you know darn well that there is nothing wrong with them cuz they are 19, smoking, skipping to the door and giggling without the aide of an o2 tank! There is a woman at work who constantly parks in the handicap space. Her husband (aka LOSER) has the sticker because he has back problems (and yet can manage to build beautiful wood products at home like buffet tables and dressers). He does not work at our hospital, yet she parks there. Please also keep in mind that I work in a very small rural hospital where the farthest parking space is probably only about 10-12 car lenths from the door!!!I have said something to her and complained anonymously to the powers that be, but nothing has changed. She just gets rounder and rounder from lack of exercise (i get to say that, I've got some extra pounds myself).

    And nursegoodguy, I love your answer to her comment about how will she park close.. what did she say to that? Was she at least a little embarrassed??? Could she even look you in the eye after that??
  7. by   Lausana
    Yes. My aunt has worked with handicapped folks as an aid for years and has had to make some big scenes about the abuse of handicap parking & accessibility to restaurants and stores. It's pretty sad that in this day and age a major chain restaurant thinks that because they put a dip in the sidewalk that the place is handicap accessible

    Some people will just never get it until they experience it personally
  8. by   bagladyrn
    Please stop glaring at folks you see with handicap tags and no obvious disability! It took me years to convince my father to get one (severe asbestosis and parkinsons) when he had reached the point where he was staying home rather than going out for daily activities because he couldn't walk the few extra steps from parking spaces. He didn't like the thought of having the label and as many do thought they were for people who "need it more"
    The last thing he or anyone dealing with a nonvisible disability is attitude from others - and yes it shows!
  9. by   nursegoodguy
    Originally posted by galenight


    And nursegoodguy, I love your answer to her comment about how will she park close.. what did she say to that? Was she at least a little embarrassed??? Could she even look you in the eye after that??
    She didn't say a word! She had a few other "issues" come up that were unresolvable from a suit level, and so she went bye bye...

    We had him live with us for a while and even then we'd load his w/c up into the back of our truck and still park in a regular spot... I don't remember ever using that placard?
  10. by   nursegoodguy
    Originally posted by bagladyrn
    Please stop glaring at folks you see with handicap tags and no obvious disability! It took me years to convince my father to get one (severe asbestosis and parkinsons) when he had reached the point where he was staying home rather than going out for daily activities because he couldn't walk the few extra steps from parking spaces. He didn't like the thought of having the label and as many do thought they were for people who "need it more"
    The last thing he or anyone dealing with a nonvisible disability is attitude from others - and yes it shows!
    Your father obviously needs it and is not who I am talking about here.
    I am speaking about able bodied people who are abusing the system by using someone's placard for their convenience and taking that spot away from people like your father!
    I'm sorry but it doesn't take a brain surgeon to recognize the difference between someone who is deserving and someone who is abusing the system!
  11. by   LasVegasRN
    [SIZE=0.5]Okay, Dad left it in my car when he went back to Toledo (he has two) and I used it just once when I couldn't find a space at Walmart. I am profusely sorry and vow never to use it again, I am ashamed, please forgive me.[/SIZE] :stone
  12. by   2ndCareerRN
    I'm sorry but it doesn't take a brain surgeon to recognize the difference between someone who is deserving and someone who is abusing the system!
    I will say that yes, sometimes it is not obvious. My young, in the prime of her life, fit looking wife has one. If you look at her you would have no idea why.
    She has had 2 back surgeries (fusion with rods) which has left her in constant pain and is a congential heart pt who has already had 2 open hearts. The latest being about 8 months ago which left her in a junctional rythm witn no compensentory process. Her heart rate stays around 85, no matter how hard she is exerting herself. Which means she tires very easily. sometimes she can walk well, but more often than not she must take frequent rest breaks to catch her breath. hopefully the rate control pacer she is getting next month will help her.

    You have hit on one of my peeves also, but the people who confront us about her use of the space will be on the receiving end of my wrath. But, sometimes it is not so obvious.

    And that is all I have to say on this matter.

    bob
  13. by   bagladyrn
    That's just my point Giuseppe - not trying to jump on people - but you couldn't tell by looking at my dad - he just now agreed to start using a cane, after one too many falls, frequently "forgets" to take it, and doesn't look at all frail, although his lung capacity is less than 50 % what it should be. He does everything he can to disguise his disability, and so may many of the others people "glare" at.
    I do totally agree on the issue of people abusing handicapped parking spaces (you can come out from under the chair now LasVegas, we love you anyway) and have been known to leave notes on the windshield of cars parked there without tags.
  14. by   nursegoodguy
    Okay, you all convinced me... pet peeve put to rest! It's a relief to have one less thing that pi$$e$ me off!
    Now LasVegas... So that was YOU that I saw... Now I'm a gonna have to make a special trip there just to give you a spankin!

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