Update on my family

  1. I just wanted to let everyone know what has been going on with my son and grandchildren. My DIL is still out of state with the guy she met on the Internet. My son has talked to this man's wife a few times, and they have filled in some information gaps for each other. They have two kids, and both of them are with her. My DIL calls two or three times a week to talk to the kids, but they just get upset when she calls. She has told my son she is not coming back, and he has retained an attorney. He is much less depressed now, and is focusing on taking care of the kids. We had the preliminary custody hearing on Thursday, and she did not show up. They allowed her sister to be there for her, and she was on the phone at the time so she would know what was going on. She was awarded two weeks in the summer with them, and says she will be coming next week to get them. There will be another hearing in October for permanent custody. So far she has not paid any child support, but has been given 30 days to begin to pay.

    It was a bit of a difficult adjustment at first. Hubby and I were used to our privacy and a quiet home, but that all changed. We still own the five bedroom home our kids were raised in, so we have plenty of room. We had planned on selling in the spring and getting something smaller, but that will have to wait too.

    Having the kids here has been a joy though. Once we adjusted to the changes, we got into a routine again, and things are actually going smoothly. All of the other kids and their spouses have been a great help with babysitting services and moral support. The kids seem happy here, and I get an endless supply of hugs and kisses.
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  2. 7 Comments

  3. by   fedupnurse
    Glad to hear your son is doing better. Is she stable enough for the kids to go with her? Not to scare you but I would be concerned that she wouldn't bring them back. SOunds like she needs some serious counseling and same thing for the kids. If they get upset talking to her, how are they going to feel going with her? Does your son know where she lives now?
    Sad and potentially scary situation. God Bless you and your family and especially the kids!
  4. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Wow! Doesn't even freakin show up and she gets 2 weeks? She doesn't deserve 2 ******* seconds. What a waste of flesh!

    (((((((RNinICU)))))))

    Heather
  5. by   LasVegasRN
    Yeah! What Heather said!

    You and your husband are true angels. Those grandkids will grow up knowing what family really means. God bless all of you!
  6. by   Love-A-Nurse
    you and your husband are special and loving parents. all the best to you!
  7. by   live4today
    I second what fedupnurse and Heather stated. I wouldn't trust her to take my grandkids anywhere after the stunt she pulled, especially since she upsets the children when they talk to her by phone. What does your son even know about the man who even left his own wife and children for another woman? If they walked out on those children, what's to say that won't happen again?

    If she really loved her children, why didn't she choose to divorce her husband from the home the children were raised in, and have her internet lover come to meet her on her territory? There's just way too many gaps here to entrust her with children....anybody's children. I'll be praying FOR THOSE CHILDREN that God will NOT allow her to have them.....not even for a second. She deserves ZILCH amount of time with those children.
  8. by   l.rae
    RNinICU, l have been wondering about you and your family lately. Thank you for the up date, we are all concerned. Glad to hear your son is coping and the children....they are lucky to have you...l too am praying your dil does not get those kids....God Bless you..LR
  9. by   RNinICU
    Yes, we are worried about her taking them, but if he refuses to let her take them, he will be in contempt. His attorney is working to get the order changed. I don't think she will come for them anyway. She has changed the date she is coming twice already. She has to take them before August 12 because the two oldest start school on the 26. He knows where she lives, and has her adress. She has not paid any child support yet, so there will be a warrant out for her arrest soon anyway. She has had charges filed against her for a number of bad checks too, so I don't think she can even come back into the state without being arrested. I'll keep you all updated.

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