UH OH......the Co-worker that lies!

  1. I honestly don't know why she does it.!! We have a co-worker, she is a great nurse, funny, love to work the shift w/ her.....but.......she lies. Not about important things like patient care, meds.....etc.
    She lies about......past surgeries she's had, trips they take, things they do, money spent........and she just can't seem to keep her lies straight.
    so, what does a body do? Tell her she doesn't have to impress us? or try to impress us? As of now, she has become the laughing stock of the shift.
    Any advice?

    OK, so it's under the wrong thingy again......what am I doing wrong?
    Last edit by NurseDianne on Nov 23, '02
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  2. 15 Comments

  3. by   Mkue
    I wonder if she has a low self-esteem and/or is looking for attention.

    I actually have someone in my class like that, no one wants to hear her stories. Wish I had a solution for you. Most of us try not to comment too much.

  4. by   Mkue
    Oh Dianne I wanted to answer your question about posting.

    If you want to post something say Off-Topic, go to that categary, then click on "post new thread" I think it's called. Or post new topic, something like that. The trick is to be sure that you are in the category that you want.

    You'll do fine, I'm still not a pro at this !

    Marie
  5. by   Q.
    I used to work with a chick just like that. She lied mostly about her medical history, like having surgeries, about being kidnapped, stalked, etc.

    I have no idea why she does it. Thing is, most people would like her if she would just not lie like this.
  6. by   kittyw
    My ex is like that .... I just attribute it to low self-esteem - surely they don't really believe the rest of the world is falling for their bull----? Maybe she just feels like she needs something to get in the spotlight (kinda like kids who are ignored by their parents will act out in a bad way for attention)?
  7. by   SKM-NURSIEPOOH
    ...you know... call her out when she's caught dead to rights ??? i think if she's embarrassed enough...she'd stop all of those bare-face lies :wink2:...at least i hope so... lol!!!
  8. by   bagladyrn
    Nope - guarantee she won't stop just because confronted. I've had a friend who's done this for decades. Nonetheless, she's a fun, good person, so I just let her talk, don't ever take any action based on her stories, and praise/show interest in the things I know to be true.
  9. by   LilgirlRN
    I work with a nurse just like that. We all know that she makes things up and we just accept her like that. None of us try to prove she's lying cause we KNOW she is. It's always about something trivial anyway, not worth fussing over. She doesn't lie about the patients or anything, usually about how much she paid for something or something her mom did or said.
  10. by   emily_mom
    She is prob just seeking attention wherever she can get it. Unfortunately for her, when she really does tell the truth about something, no one will believe her anyway. Kinda like the boy that called wolf.

    Do you ever wonder what's going on in their heads that they would resort to this?
  11. by   Lausana
    A former friend did this constantly. She did it so often she didn't even know she did it. Her lies would get tangled up in each other! I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt and talked with her. Didn't work, although she felt bad for being a "bad friend" still to this day she hasn't changed. Yep, she too has very low self esteem.

    Thank goodness we don't work together-I don't what I'd do Good luck Dianne!
  12. by   l.rae
    gee, this person must really get around!...I know her too...LOL
  13. by   nursegoodguy
    I have worked with SEVERAL!
    The last one lied to the don about nonsense stuff then did a big one, took some staff out drinking instead of to the inservice that was paid for by the company then lied about it of course and got FIRED!
    I also have a thing about people who exaggerate... Just can't stand it! "YOu should'a seen the size of the one that got away...."
  14. by   baseline
    How big was it?

    I think we all know this person. Sad but true.

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