I have to let off some steam over my stupid nephew. This whole situation makes me so mad....bear with me here.
My nephew...we'll call him Drew....lives about 3 hours from me up in Washington with my wonderful SIL, her DH, and my other nephew. Drew is the same age as I am (20). I've known him for about 4 years now. All he has ever done is be rude, inconsiderate, go out and party, and get crappy grades....and oh yeah! He thinks of himself as a "pimp."
Mark my words...he is not attractive. He has a big nose, a stupid haircut, struts when he walks, has ruts in his face from scarred over zits. But I can and did get past that. It was always my feeling that my SIL needed to give Drew a dose of tough love, but seeing as how I myself am young, value her friendship, and am not in her situation, I never have and never will say anything to her about my thoughts on the matter.
A few months ago we found out that Drew had fathered a baby with his ex-gf. The baby is 5 months old now. Drew does not care for this baby. His mother does. She buys the baby many things. Drew lived out of the house for awhile, but would come over to his mother's house to eat and sometimes come in late at night (11pm or later) and spend the night, have breakfast, and leave in the morning. When we visted my SIL over the summer, I noticed that Drew's new gf looked....well....rounder than she should. Not fat-round....PREGNANT round. She's a skinny girl, so it seemed obvious to me that she was pregnant. Seeing as how I had just met her, and it was none of my business, I didn't say anything.
A couple days ago, I found out that Drew had indeed gotten his new gf pregnant. She is due in November. Drew has quit his job, and he and his gf are residing in the living room of my SIL's 2 bedroom apartment. MY SIL is a bit concerned because Drew has fathered 2 babies in less than a year, and it is getting expensive to take care of the little lovebirds. She is having a baby shower for the new baby to help offset the cost of paying for Drew's new child. My DH and I are invited. Hmm.
I have nothing against people who need a little help. I frequently need help to make ends meet. But I am at least ATTEMPTING to make things better for myself and family and to be responsible! Drew and his gf aren't even trying! I feel like Drew is an irresponsible slimeball and his gf was probably duped into thinking Drew would take care of a child if an "accident" were to occur. I have spoken to Drew before he got these girls pregant, and he told me he never used condoms. Exact quote. He said taking care of kids "wasn't a big deal" and that he would take care of his responsiblilies.
He does like kids. I give him that much. My 2 kids like him. But there is more to being a parent than the fun stuff!
Sep 11, '02
I have a niece who is almost 21, she dropped out of college, as she got really wild, then she became pregnant by a dead beat who spent some time in "jail". She is probably on assistance for all I know. I just hope she is a good mom.
Some of these young girls have it figured out... get pregnant, don't marry the guy, collect assistance.. that burns me.. I'm a strong advocate for adoption, as there are many people who cannot have children.
On the flip side I have many responsible young women in my nursing program and I wish they could all be like that. (sigh)
Last edit by mkue on Sep 11, '02
Sep 11, '02
Like I've told my own 3 daughters.....when you give away the milk and eggs for free......why expect anything in return???
One of my uncles use to tell his son and daughter.....and their dates....before they left his home to go out on a date....."SON...ZIP IT.....KEEP IT ZIPPED!" "DAUGHTER.....GO PUT SOME PANTS ON, AND DON'T DROP THEM FOR ANYTHING BUT TO GO POTTY". He would also call their dates on the carpet, and tell them the EXACT same thing. :chuckle It must have worked as they both turned out well......went to college......graduated......married.......THEN.... ..had babies.
WOMEN.....if it is THAT important to us to OWN OUR OWN BODIES......then......DAMMIT......start owning it!!! STOP GIVING AWAY THE MILK AND "EGGS" FOR FREE!!! There are NO ACCIDENTAL PREGNANCIES!!! Anytime you drop your pants, or pull up your dress and drop your panties...unzip your pants and open your fly......whichever......you are acting in a PREMEDITATED state of mind.
no droppy pants.......no give up eggs and milk......no open fly.....no getty pregnant! Now.....see.......you don't need a college degree......at any level...... to grasp that fact!!!
Last edit by live4today on Sep 11, '02