Bad news on the home front: my daughter and her fiance just broke up yesterday.
Seems that when Micah spent those few weeks working in Florida, there was more on his mind than construction; there were girls in bikinis, and evidently he realized he wasn't ready to settle down yet........it took him another three weeks to figure out how to break it off with Amanda, and in the meantime they've been moping around the house, eating 24 hours a day and looking more and more unhappy every day, until I was about ready to throw them BOTH out.
Then I guess it all finally hit the fan yesterday (of course, I was at work, which is another story all by itself), with the end result being that not only is the wedding off, the entire relationship is over. Now I've got a broken-hearted daughter, PLUS a sister who's in the middle of a nervous breakdown (that's yet another
story), and a hellacious weekend going on at the hospital........and I'm about ready to bite a wall!!! Part of me wants to chew Micah a new @$$ for being so immature and being unable to keep it in his pants---he hurt my baby!!
---but the sensible mom in me knows that it's far better this way than if he'd waited until after they were married to take to his heels. In fact, I'm glad he did it now........being left at the altar would have completely destroyed Amanda, and she doesn't deserve that.
But in the meantime, I keep praying to God to keep my mind open and my mouth, which tends to go off at times without permission from my brain, SHUT. I don't want to condemn him, even though I'm so mad I don't know what
to do. It may be that Micah decides he really does love her and comes back eventually (although I'll be damned if I let him move in again---he never did pay his share of the rent anyway :angryfire ); at any rate, it's not about me, even though I---as well as the rest of the family---have been affected by these developments.
Ah, sometimes it sucks to be the mother of adult children.......not only can you no longer "kiss it and make it all better", you can't fix their broken hearts or their broken relationships. You can't even tell 'em how pissed you are at the person who hurt them.........all you can do is let them know they're loved, and to be there when they're ready to share some of their pain.
Thanks for letting me vent.