To Renee re: inspiring me!

  1. I just read your statement on the thread about Brad, the sweet lilttle departed hamster....

    I was struck by it..."hubby's against the idea, but men don't tell me what to do anymore...."

    Struck as if by a bolt of lightning, as a matter of fact!!!!! I thought to myself, "Yeah! No kidding!! Why can't I be more assertive in things like that!!!"

    My husband and I have been together for 30 years, but I still tend to defer to him in matters like that.

    We got a kitten a few weeks back who is adorable, but needs a playmate closer to his own age. Our other cats are elderly, so they kinda sorta play with him, but only halfheartedly. My husband vetoed the idea of getting one of the other littermates.

    But, after reading your post, I told my son to go ahead and get one of his littermates. He went and got the kitten's brother. As I write, they are now tumbling together in the garden, as kittens will do. They were a little standoffish of each other at first, but now it's as if they have never been separated!!

    That's going to be my mantra from now on: "Men don't tell me what to do anymore." If friend husband comes home and starts laying a guilt trip on me about the new family member, I will just say that, in a very calm voice. He'll back off. He'll have no choice!

    "I am woman, hear me roar!"

    Thanks, Renee, for your words of inspiration! I will share your wisdom with my daughters, as well!
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  3. by   studentOH
    Good for you Stevierae . I still can't get over women in the store that bring their husbands along to make their decisions for them. if I hear "No thanks, my husband thinks that--" one more time I'm going to scream!

    Brian
  4. by   stevierae
    Well, I am not THAT bad, Bri.

    It's only in the area of pets that we have disagreements, otherwise he is totally cool. He grew up in the South, and his whole family believes that dogs should stay outside at all times, and never be allowed in the house. We have had major disagreements over that one.

    We brought a daschund home from Georgia that I felt was not getting enough attention from his family members who had it. The dog was used to sleeping outside, and my husband wanted her to continue to do so here. I couldn't stand getting up in the morning and seeing her shivering, even though she had a sweater, a couch to sleep on in the garage, and plenty of blankets; also, our other dog started to actually want to sleep outside with her, even though she had been an inside dog. Despite all the insulation, she still seemed cold. So, I gave her (the daschund) away to a loving family with small kids, who would keep her as an inside dog. To this day, I am angry at myself for deferring to my husband in this matter.

    I do know women like the one you describe.

    My old babysitter would not answer a question before looking at her husband and saying, "John, what do YOU think?"

    He got his meals served to him, by her or his daughter, on a TV tray in front of the TV.

    He would never let her learn to drive (and she was in her 40s.)

    One time, I was there and I heard a loud "Thump!!! Thump!! Thump!" against the wall, which shook the house. I thought it was an earthquake.

    She went running down the hall and disappeared for several minutes.

    When she came back, I said, "What was THAT? Is everything OK?"

    She said, "Oh, that was John, in the shower. He always bangs on the wall when he wants me to come and wash his back."

    LOL!! She was raising their daughter in the same tradition, sadly.

    P.S. Now, Brian, do NOT try the shower trick on your sweetie at home tonight, unless you are willing to reciprocate!!!! I know ol' John wasn't!!
    Last edit by stevierae on Aug 27, '02
  5. by   LasVegasRN
    Speaking of Ms. Renee, where is she? Ohhhh Reneeeeeeeeee.....
  6. by   live4today
    Originally posted by stevierae
    I just read your statement on the thread about Brad, the sweet lilttle departed hamster....

    I was struck by it..."hubby's against the idea, but men don't tell me what to do anymore...."

    Struck as if by a bolt of lightning, as a matter of fact!!!!! I thought to myself, "Yeah! No kidding!! Why can't I be more assertive in things like that!!!"

    My husband and I have been together for 30 years, but I still tend to defer to him in matters like that.

    We got a kitten a few weeks back who is adorable, but needs a playmate closer to his own age. Our other cats are elderly, so they kinda sorta play with him, but only halfheartedly. My husband vetoed the idea of getting one of the other littermates.

    But, after reading your post, I told my son to go ahead and get one of his littermates. He went and got the kitten's brother. As I write, they are now tumbling together in the garden, as kittens will do. They were a little standoffish of each other at first, but now it's as if they have never been separated!!

    That's going to be my mantra from now on: "Men don't tell me what to do anymore." If friend husband comes home and starts laying a guilt trip on me about the new family member, I will just say that, in a very calm voice. He'll back off. He'll have no choice!

    "I am woman, hear me roar!"

    Thanks, Renee, for your words of inspiration! I will share your wisdom with my daughters, as well!
    Hi stevierae......thanks for the wonderful compliment! If your hubby ask you where you learned to be so...ahem...assertive....just tell him that 'Renee taught you'. :chuckle Then, he'll say, "Who the heck is Renee?" And you will say, "My Imaginery Friend." :kiss
  7. by   live4today
    originally posted by lasvegasrn
    speaking of ms. renee, where is she? ohhhh reneeeeeeeeee.....
    i went on a little hiatus from the bb. i signed off at 2301 hour last night, and haven't been back before now...it is now 1940 hour central time. yep...gramma nay needed a much needed break from the nastiness i was starting to read on this bb that i was not finding the least bit funny. so....when one feels their blood pressure beginning to rise....it's time to go jump in some cool water and chill out for a time...and that is what i did. it's called taken care of self....and i know how to do that quite well!!! :chuckle

    well.....i'm about to take another hour away from this board in about 10 minutes to go watch one of my favorite shows "american idol".....so i will see you guys back here at 2105 hour tonight. :kiss
  8. by   Rustyhammer
    1 woman
    +1 brain
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  9. by   studentOH
    Amen rusty.

    Brian
  10. by   studentOH
    My mother's older sister still gripes because her husband decided she needed to get rid of her subaru for an SUV. She finally learned to quit coming to me for sympathy!!

    Brian
  11. by   live4today
    Originally posted by Rustyhammer
    1 woman
    +1 brain
    __________
    SEXY
    Ahem......excuse me allnurses siblings while I get it on with my mainsqueeze...Rusty! :blushkiss :blushkiss
  12. by   live4today
    Originally posted by studentOH
    My mother's older sister still gripes because her husband decided she needed to get rid of her subaru for an SUV. She finally learned to quit coming to me for sympathy!!

    Brian
    Hi Brian

    I get a lot of my own strength from my older (and only) brother. Throughout the years, he has always told me that if I don't like something, I have one of two choices to choose from:

    1. Get up out of it......and move on with my life!

    2. Shut up....and deal with it!

    I choose NUMBER ONE everytime.....when it comes to all the negativity that people want to throw my way. :kiss

    I tell my girls the same thing: Either suck it up and move on, or shut the "flake" up...and deal with it! :chuckle

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