Well, I am not THAT bad, Bri.
It's only in the area of pets that we have disagreements, otherwise he is totally cool. He grew up in the South, and his whole family believes that dogs should stay outside at all times, and never be allowed in the house. We have had major disagreements over that one.
We brought a daschund home from Georgia that I felt was not getting enough attention from his family members who had it. The dog was used to sleeping outside, and my husband wanted her to continue to do so here. I couldn't stand getting up in the morning and seeing her shivering, even though she had a sweater, a couch to sleep on in the garage, and plenty of blankets; also, our other dog started to actually want to sleep outside with her, even though she had been an inside dog. Despite all the insulation, she still seemed cold. So, I gave her (the daschund) away to a loving family with small kids, who would keep her as an inside dog. To this day, I am angry at myself for deferring to my husband in this matter.
I do know women like the one you describe.
My old babysitter would not answer a question before looking at her husband and saying, "John, what do YOU think?"
He got his meals served to him, by her or his daughter, on a TV tray in front of the TV.
He would never let her learn to drive (and she was in her 40s.)
One time, I was there and I heard a loud "Thump!!! Thump!! Thump!" against the wall, which shook the house. I thought it was an earthquake.
She went running down the hall and disappeared for several minutes.
When she came back, I said, "What was THAT? Is everything OK?"
She said, "Oh, that was John, in the shower. He always bangs on the wall when he wants me to come and wash his back."
LOL!! She was raising their daughter in the same tradition, sadly.
P.S. Now, Brian, do NOT try the shower trick on your sweetie at home tonight, unless you are willing to reciprocate!!!! I know ol' John wasn't!!