My bout of pneumonia is clearing up, I'm able to smoke again but am no where near the 4 pack a day habit I had before I got sick.
Still haven't had the memorial at the beach to scatter my Mom's ashes, haven't even picked them up yet, the idea of having them in the house kind of creeps me out. *Everybody* wants to do it the 29th, my siblings want to put it off for warmer weather. I just want to get it over with.
I will probably end up taking her SS check out of the bank to pay her bills to get her creditors off of my back (instead of returning it to SSA). So many creditors seem to think that my being POA makes me personally
responsable for her bills, never mind that my POA ceased to be in effect the moment she died. It is just to much to deal with, the constant arguing with them. The electric company has attached her power bill to mine, apparently because we had all of her mail sent here I am liable, it jumped our monthly "budget program" payments from $200 to $350.
She left no Will, I am trying to avoid Probate. If we have to Probate her non-existant estate they will padlock her apartment for 90 days and rack up $600/mo rent and then the County will auction everything off. When I say she has no estate I mean it is zip. Her only income for the past year was $1142/mo in SS (I paid what ever she was short), she was never very good at managing money, she never had much of anything of value and lost any "good stuff" in a bankrupcy in '99. This apartment is the first time in her life (73 1/2 years) she had ever lived anywhere brand new. My siblings signed and notorized a statement releasing all interest in any of her personal possessions or assets, saying that Mom gave them everything she wanted them to have when she moved a year ago that the rest of it is mine "for taking care of her the past year"...needless to say that translates to zero help with cleaning out her apartment.
I finally started on it today (she died 2/28). Pretty heart breaking to sort her life into Hefty bags for the Goodwill & the dump. I've given up the idea of sorting thru every little thing and am boxing up all of the "keep & distribute" stuff and stacking it in my living room to deal with later. All of her furniture has places to go, I think all that will be left is a couple of end tables and her entertainment center, all less than 2 years old...will probably end up putting them on her patio facing the parking lot with a "free" sign, there just isn't anyplace to store them.
I found out last week that she was eligible for Medicaid all along. I got bad information via phone, due to her age and income she was eligible under a different program, one that paid everything not covered by Medicare 100%-including her $300/mo in meds. For the past year she paid $80/mo for a Medicare suppliment that didn't cover scripts. The State can only go back 90 days and have given me a Medicaid card covering December to February, they say if I take it to everywhere that we paid cash and give them the card it can all be rebilled to the State and I will get the money back.
I still haven't finished any of the half done projects I was going to get done while unemployed. The bathroom paint has been sitting on the counter for 2 months. For that matter there are about 20 loads of laundry piled in front of the washer & dryer.
I have a job interview
tomorrow at 11am. I really wanted it when I applied for it 5 weeks ago: is 32 hrs/wk at a Peds clinic. I know nothing about clinic work...but they have my resume so they know that and want me to interview anyway. I don't know if I want to work at all...pretty much all I want to do is lay in bed with the lights off all day. If they make me an offer I probably better take it, I pretty much burned my bridges at Shriners when I had to reschedule my Monday interview (Mom died the previous Friday) and then didn't make the new appointment because I couldn't get out of bed. I left the NM voice mail telling her that I was not in any shape emotionally to interview but to please keep me in mind for any positions that should open up after April 1st.
Sorry for the long rambling downer.
On a more positive note, I have lost 15 pounds, discovered that Kohls has on-line ordering and Spring really is almost here...the tree frogs have hatched or woke up or what ever it is they do and are churping like crazy in my back yard.