This is my apology

  1. To allnurses. First I did not put Heather's name in to be censored.

    My guilt lies in leaving my computer signed on with the firewall down and my network open. There are two other people who access allnurses using my computer. One brought a friend from school over.

    There is no explanation for how I feel. I let you down. By not monitoring their use I let one or more people play around with others feelings. One of the two has watched and apparently learned much of how the board and the admin site worked.

    She has admitted "playing" around and according to Brian has admitted to the sabotage. Brian has banned them both

    I don't blame you at all. It is entirely my responsibility. But I want you to know I did not censor Heather.

    Thank you

    Last edit by P_RN on Jun 14, '03
  2. 31 Comments

  3. by   Jay-Jay
    Pat, I am so glad to have the truth come out at last. At the time this happened, I posted that, in my opinion, no moderator or administrator on this site would be stupid enough to censor Heather's name, and not forsee the storm of anger, hurt and ill feeling it would cause.

    I think whoever did this owes both you and the board a public apology. I really would like to see that. Maybe Brian could post it for them, since they already have been banned.

    I wish you well. We'll miss you, you've been here a long time. I can understand you wanting to leave, but still hope maybe you'll change your mind.

    Take care! :kiss
  4. by   H ynnoD
    Good Luck and God Bless You....Wish I'd started here sooner then I would understand more of what happened or maybe its a good thing I don't.Take Care Donny
    Last edit by H ynnoD on Jun 7, '03
  5. by   Shamrock
    Why are you leaving if things have been taken care of?
  6. by   cwazycwissyRN
    I wondered when the finger was pointed to you, what the heck was going on. I could not imaginge you deleting anyone, any person. It sounds like you found yourself in quite a mess. I appreciate your ability to take responsability. I feel for you as alot of heat has been sent your way. I think I for one was kinda speachless. I admit, I thought maybe you were a scape goat for someone else.:imbar I will miss you. With 2980 post you have quite a investment of time on this bb. Time and emotion. You were the person that responded to my first post on this bb. You made an impression with your knowledge in nursing. I will keep you in my prayers. I am saddened by all that has occured. Way too much pain is being spread here. Sorry you are the bearer of so much of it.
  7. by   Spidey's mom
    Pat - I must say that my initial impression of this whole thing was that someone was trying to cause a kneejerk meltdown among the members here and couldn't imagine it being you.

    I concur with the others about your compassion and professionalism.

    Take care of yourself.

  8. by   Tweety
    Like I steph I couldn't imagine what had happened. I'm glad the truth is know.

    I and I know many others understand and would like you to stay. I can understand if you don't want to be a moderator (who would???), but hope you reconsider and continue to share with us.

    If not, please take care and know you will be missed.
  9. by   gwenith
    Pat please bear with me and read through the following story. My Sister gave me a big trunk to store clothes in but new furniture meant that I did not have room for it so, me being me I intended to give it away but I have been driving around for 2 weekd now with this trunk in the back of the hatchback - I keep expecting to be pulled over by the police under suspicion for carrying a body in the trunk of the car.

    Moral of the story: No matter how it looks sometimes there really is an innocent explanation.

    You were the victim of circumstances. I applaud and admire you more than you could realise for not only owning up to the problem but taking the responsibility for it even though you were not truly the culpable person.

    I wish there is some way that we could mend the situation and maybe someday we will find it.

    Until then please keep well and may happiness and joy be yours in life.
    Last edit by gwenith on Jun 8, '03
  10. by   passing thru
    You didn't let me down.
    I looked at the big picture, at all your prior history of assistance
    and sincere desire to help us posters. And, I knew something was out of whack.

    Take a break if needed and return someday.
    I'm sorry you were hurt.

    Sometimes bad things happen to good people.
    This was one of those times.
  11. by   angelbear
    Pat, I am sorry to hear how this all came down. Unintentionally allowing a problem to occur has happened to the best of us. Please at the very leaste forgive yourself. I am very frightened this whole thing just keeps spiraling and i dont see it stopping anytime soon. Best wishes to you.
  12. by   Mkue
    Pat, I really hate to see you go, I've always enjoyed your posts very helpful and positive. In the big picture of life this BB is just a very small part of our lives, as it should be. People come and go here as in our daily lives some touch us in a special way.

    passing thru says it for me on the above post #9.


  13. by   nimbex
    I want to firmly state that this incident is NOT a reason to leave us!!!! I feel that you are warmly welcomed here, as with everyone, we all make mistakes, try to learn from them and carry on.

  14. by   Zee_RN
    I have to admit that I avoid all those posts that caused so much hurt. So I don't have a real clue as to what happened. I come to this board for advice and friendship and stay out of the hot and heavy debates. I don't even read them.

    Having said that, I'd still like to say....I wish you wouldn't go. Take a sabbatical if you need but don't leave. You can stick around and be an ostrich with me...I kinda like having my head stuck in the sand.