There are still kids w/ manners out there...

  1. Have any of you been to the mall lately? Is it just me or does today's younger generation (x, y or z...I'm not sure anyomore) have absolutely no manners? The things that come out of their mouths! Maybe I'm just getting old...sigh. And don't even get me started on the way they dress...at 32 I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be allowed out of the house dressed like some of them!

    Although there is hope. Last night I was sitting out in the backyard taking a break from painting the kitchen. The elderly neighbor next door was taking out his garbage in the alley. There were two boys (maybe 12 or 13) skateboarding in the alley between our house and the neighbors. When they saw the neighbor in the alley taking out his garbage, one of the young fellows politely asked the elderly gentleman if he minded if they skateboard there. The neighbor said he didn't mind (yes, I was eavesdropping!) and the boy said thank you.

    I want to say thank you to this kid's parents...and to this kid. Children w/ manners, and good parents, do still exist!
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  2. 20 Comments

  3. by   Disablednurse
    They certainly do exist and I must brag a bit, because some of them belong to my brothers and my husband's sister. My nieces and nephews are some of the most polite young people that I have ever encountered. Also I have run into some in the grocery store also. I am disabled and have had to ask for help, something I really hate to have to do, and when I have asked, the young people have done so gladly. I have been really impressed.
  4. by   SmilingBluEyes
    yes I am raising them. with manners. There are some of us who do this still.
  5. by   Tweety
    I cringe when I hear people talk about the "younger generation" these days. Don't you know your parents generation were saying the same thing about you, and their parents before them.

    It's the dark colored glasses thing I was talking about in another thread. Most "kids these days" have manners. It's the few who don't that make you say that.

    Fashion changes, a 13 year old wouldn't be caught dead looking like you. And you wouldn't be caught dead looking like your grandma either.

    LOL
  6. by   GPatty
    My children have been raised to say "Yes Ma'am" and "No Ma'am" and "Yes Sir" and "No Sir". They say "Please and thank you" and the 15 y/o son helps out the elderly in the neighborhood. They call our house to ask him to do little odd jobs they can't do or don't want to do.
    I am very proud of my children although there are a couple who could still use some spank therapy.

    As far as dress, I think my 17 y/o daughter is the worst. She doesn't dress "gothic", but she definitely has her own style! I mean, tye dye shirts with a plaid skirt and pink tennis shoes? But if that's the worst thing she does, I certainly have no complaints...and besides, the other kids at school think she dresses "cool"! And when she leaves for the Army next year, I'll have much more to worry about than her dress!
  7. by   daughterjudy213
    I do not have any kids to brag about but I do have myself to brag about... I think that I'm one of the most polite kids I know. I'm 14 and every mother of every friend I have loves me to death because i "am so so sweet", not to be to conceitedor anything. I always say please, thank you, etc.
  8. by   itsme
    My kids are taught manners and respect. They love doing stuff toh elp neighbors and friends. My kids are 15 and 10. I think that parenting has alot to do with how much manners kids have and how well they behave!
  9. by   jadednurse
    I guess I've been hanging around w/ the wrong kind of kids, LOL!

    And Tweety, you've got a point...I wouldn't be caught dead dressing like my grandma (although I'm scared w/ each year that goes by I'm getting closer and closer...<snort>!
  10. by   SmilingBluEyes
    fashion and manners are two seperate issues. You can let a kid be "himself"----e.g. dyeing their hair purple, wearing earrings, goth clothes and it has very little to do with his/her behavior or manners (or lack of them) . We judge by appearance too harshly and it does not offend or alarm me to see young people expressing themselves loudly in dress/attire. It's finding out what's underneath that is so important. And there are GREAT young people out there. I intend to raise two more of them.
  11. by   jadednurse
    Originally posted by SmilingBluEyes
    fashion and manners are two seperate issues. You can let a kid be "himself"----e.g. dyeing their hair purple, wearing earrings, goth clothes and it has very little to do with his/her behavior or manners (or lack of them) . We judge by appearance too harshly and it does not offend or alarm me to see young people expressing themselves loudly in dress/attire.
    Deb, it's not expressing themselves "loudly" in dress/attire that I was referring to, it's the "exposing" themselves in "barely there" outfits that I'm kind of shocked by. Expressing yourself creatively by means of attire is one thing, 13, 14, 15 year old girls dressing like ***** is another!
  12. by   Tweety
    Originally posted by jadednurse
    I guess I've been hanging around w/ the wrong kind of kids, LOL!

    And Tweety, you've got a point...I wouldn't be caught dead dressing like my grandma (although I'm scared w/ each year that goes by I'm getting closer and closer...<snort>!
    LOL....maybe it's my own insecurities about being middle aged, that the phrase "kids these days..." never comes out of my mouth. Makes a person sound old.
  13. by   bagladyrn
    I never could criticize the kids for their clothes as I have too good of a memory of my own teen years and the fashions I wore (and my mother kept the photos!).
    I do have an issue with parents allowing preteens to wear revealing clothing as it is setting them up for situations they have no way to handle.
    And I've often found the "strangest" looking kids are some of the best when you get to know them - a couple of my "extra" sons were street people before they came to live with me. ( and now I'm saving the pictures for the day THEY have teenagers!)
  14. by   NICU_Nurse
    I've mentioned this before, but I'll say it again. There's something wrong with this: My husband and I were out having lunch at a cafe, sitting on the patio. It's in an outdoor mall, and there were these two girls approaching in matching "Britney does Catholic school" outfits. I was thinking, oh, that's cute, and as they got closer, I realized they were about 12 years old or so. Midriff showing, bosom popping out of their cropped shirts, teensy minis so short if they lifted their arms they'd be flashing their hoo-hoo's to the world. I was thinking, Oh, wow, ummm...didn't realize they were that young. They passed us by, and I looked at them as they walked, and they were both wearing matching berets on their heads. The berets had the words "Spank me, Choke me" on them (something to that effect). I almost choked on my tiramisu!

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