The war on men

  1. The battle of the sexes is alive and well. According to Pew Research Center, the share of women ages eighteen to thirty-four that say having a successful marriage is one of the most important things in their lives rose nine percentage points since 1997 - from 28 percent to 37 percent. For men, the opposite occurred. The share voicing this opinion dropped, from 35 percent to 29 percent.

    Believe it or not, modern women want to get married. Trouble is, men don't.

    The so-called dearth of good men (read: marriageable men) has been a hot subject in the media as of late. Much of the coverage has been in response to the fact that for the first time in history, women have become the majority of the U.S. workforce. They're also getting most of the college degrees. The problem? This new phenomenon has changed the dance between men and women.

    I've spoken with hundreds, if not thousands, of men and women. And in doing so, I've accidentally stumbled upon a subculture of men who've told me, in no uncertain terms, that they're never getting married. When I ask them why, the answer is always the same.

    Women aren't women anymore. ...

    ... In a nutshell, women are angry. They're also defensive, though often unknowingly. That's because they've been raised to think of men as the enemy. Armed with this new attitude, women pushed men off their pedestal (women had their own pedestal, but feminists convinced them otherwise) and climbed up to take what they were taught to believe was rightfully theirs. ...

    ... But what if the dearth of good men, and ongoing battle of the sexes, is - hold on to your seats - women's fault? ...

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  2. 30 Comments

  3. by   Spidey's mom
    As the mother of 3 sons and 1 daughter, I have noticed some issues. Back later . . . I get to go help with the Kindergarten students.
  4. by   heron
    Oh, puh-leeze!

    Just a riff on the old Victorian notion that women are responsible for men's behavior.
  5. by   TopazLover
    Typical faux news. Because women are not happy in the old door mat position they are not women anymore? Good grief. Equal pay for equal work. Respect of knowledge, education and experience. Does that make me less of a woman? The men I know and respect think not. They like having a partner that is their equal and can discuss things of substance as well as the look of window tretments in the guest bedroom.
  6. by   tewdles
    Last I knew, even angry women have vaginas and ovaries...their chromosomes haven't changed, so they are still women.
    So if some men are sissies and cannot handle a woman with an education, an opinion, and a mouth then too bad for them.
    They don't have to get married.
    They can enjoy us from afar.
    Of course, if the mere vision of our sexuality causes them to lose control we may also need to wear long skirts, high collars, and veils to protect those men too.
  7. by   PMFB-RN
    The Faux Snooz piece actual mirrors my own experiences and observations. Whil I am a VERY happily married man (though not to an American woman) and married young, I know a large number of men who are not, and have no plans to marry. Not hard to see why they would want to skip marriage. Now days a man does not need to get married to gain sexual access to women. Avoiding marriage allows a much larger selection of sex partners. The men I am talking about are well paid professionals. Without the HUGE expence of a family they can and do use their income to enjoy themselves, travel and have hobbies. Even though I am happy in my marriage, observing my friends who make the same money I do have the best of everthying and take lots of interesting trips that I as a family man can't afford makes me think............
    I am activly discouraging my children from marriage, at least before their late 30's-40's.
  8. by   azhiker96
    I'm on my third marriage which either makes me an optimist or a slow learner. badaboom! Seriously, I'm much more content to have a wife who also works. We both seem more able to understand and empathise with the job related stresses and it helps to have two incomes today. If a man today feels threatened by a woman who earns a good income he doesn't deserve her and she deserves better. My daughter married a great guy and they both work and share parenting duties of my granddaughter.

    I didn't read the article but find internet doom and gloom articles about our society to be worth the paper they're written on.
  9. by   StNeotser
    Quote from herring_RN

    ... But what if the dearth of good men, and ongoing battle of the sexes, is – hold on to your seats – women’s fault? ...

    Oh, that old chestnut about everything being womens fault has been going since at least the old testament and probably long before.
  10. by   StNeotser
    Oh and this from the article;

    Fortunately, there is good news: women have the power to turn everything around. All they have to do is surrender to their nature – their femininity – and let men surrender to theirs.

    Read more: The war on men | Fox News

    What is that supposed to mean?
  11. by   Wrench Party
    Oh, please "surrender to my femininity"- I say oop: to that. Last time I checked, fixing bikes and other things with
    grease and dirt in my hands, or doing woodwork, didn't make my uterus magically go 'poof' and my periods disappear (ha! if only!)

    I'll gladly stay at home and bake cookies and quilt (which I do, btw) if someone paid me $60,000/year to do so. Until then, back here
    in the real world, I'll be working on my education, working because I have to pay the bills, helping foster the next generation of women cyclists, and being a productive member of society.
  12. by   mariebailey
    This would appear in Fox News, which confirms for me that it is not a legitimate article. I did find it comical, so thanks for the laugh.
  13. by   PMFB-RN
    Quote from Wrench Party
    I'll gladly stay at home and bake cookies and quilt (which I do, btw) if someone paid me $60,000/year to do so.
    *** Can easily hire a young lady to do those things for around $18K a year and for the $18/k she will also cook and clean.
  14. by   TopazLover
    Quote from PMFB-RN
    *** Can easily hire a young lady to do those things for around $18K a year and for the $18/k she will also cook and clean.
    How many hours a week does she have to work? Are you sure you want a young one?