The times they are a changin'

  1. This afternoon I came to a realization.
    I am different than who I used to be.
    In the last few months my outlook on life is different. I don't know if it is because I turned 45 recently or it was just time for me to change, but it is happening.
    In Jan. I decided to take control of certain parts of my life.
    I am no longer addicted to cigs, I am taking care of my body and watching what I eat. I am embibing less in the alcohol.
    I find myself with more time with my family doing things together just like I should have been doing.
    I quit the job that had me on call and working, even during time I should be playing.
    I took another job with a little less money but allowing more time for me. I want to get to know me more.
    Tonight I sat on a chair and watched as my family interacted.
    They were laughing and talking about their day and we all listened to each other. I mean actually listened.
    I think I'm going like myself more.
    I feel like I'm at the top of my game right now and I just want to ride for awhile.
    Ok, I'm rambling now. Time to stop.
    -Russell
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  2. 37 Comments

  3. by   ANSMFA-RN
    Good for you Rusty! I watched your thread as you and can't remember who else supported each other in quitting smoking.

    Change isn't always a bad thing. I wish you much happiness in this newest endeavor. Sounds like your life is finally coming full circle.

    Ann
  4. by   plumrn
    Russell, don't really know you, but you sound like a great husband and father. Taking care of yourself is also a gift to your family. Your pride in your family is evident.
    Enjoy! You are a rich man.
  5. by   duckie
    We should all follow these rules as one day can change the world and you can look up and see that someone you love is gone. Make memories while you can and cherish every one of them. My Mom is 72, has Alzheimers and doesn't know her own kids anymore. This is the worst pain a family can stand by and watch. What I wouldn't give to hear her say, I love you Duckie, just one more time, but now, to her Duckie is a forgotten memory. Hold your family close. realize how much they love and need you and capture all the memories you can on pictures, video's or what ever. Rusty, you're a great guy, I'm certain your family will cherish your loving time shared. God Bless, Duckie
  6. by   whipping girl in 07
    Originally posted by Rustyhammer
    This afternoon I came to a realization.
    I am different than who I used to be.
    In the last few months my outlook on life is different. I don't know if it is because I turned 45 recently or it was just time for me to change, but it is happening.
    In Jan. I decided to take control of certain parts of my life.
    I am no longer addicted to cigs, I am taking care of my body and watching what I eat. I am embibing less in the alcohol.
    I find myself with more time with my family doing things together just like I should have been doing.
    I quit the job that had me on call and working, even during time I should be playing.
    I took another job with a little less money but allowing more time for me. I want to get to know me more.
    Tonight I sat on a chair and watched as my family interacted.
    They were laughing and talking about their day and we all listened to each other. I mean actually listened.
    I think I'm going like myself more.
    I feel like I'm at the top of my game right now and I just want to ride for awhile.
    Ok, I'm rambling now. Time to stop.
    -Russell
    OK, finally, a midlife "crisis" that isn't a crisis! Like when you buy a Porsche, grow a goatee and leave your wife for one of your daughter's college buddies!

    Congrats on your changes and your willpower. Getting to know yourself and your family is one of the most important things you can ever do.

    Sometimes when I'm taking care of a patient who is obviously at the end of his/her days, I wonder if they really lived the life the wanted to, got to know their families, really understood their spouse/SO, were in touch with their values, actually realized those things that were important to them and got to do them. I try to live my life so that I'm in touch with those I love and care about and doing the things I love. (Usually that means that housework gets to slide...I wish I had a dollar for all the old ladies who've said they wish they had back the time they wasted keeping an immaculate house.)
  7. by   Ted
    Rusty . . .

    Enjoyed reading your post.

    In my book, life was meant to be respected and to be celebrated. The feeling of being "on top of the game" is a wonderful place to be! How often in our lives do we feel unfocused with priorities misplaced?? Too often. How often to we ever feel "on top of the game"?? Not enough, if ever.

    Keep those home-runs coming!

    Peace to you and your family, Rusty.


    Ted
  8. by   Tweety
    Well then, now on to the next thing. You throw it all away, buy an expensive sports car and run away with a 20 year old.
  9. by   jevans
    Way to Go Rusty

    Good luck on your journey to realisation.

    Take time to hear the birds sing
    To smell the roses......etc

    Life is way to short..................
  10. by   jnette
    It's that wonderful "mellowing" phase, Rusty. Good for you.

    Suddenly one day you wake up, look in the mirror, and LIKE whom you see ! It's a grand feeling.
    And then it just keeps getting better. Once you understand YOU, you're easier to appreciate and like. Once you enjoy YOURSELF, it's easier to enjoy those around you.. you actually take more interest in those around you 'cuz you're not always too busy struggling and coming to terms with your SELF.

    Yep, life is good.
  11. by   CCL"Babe"
    Wonderful! I enjoyed your post. I've been wondering how the not smoking was going. Isn't it a really good sense of freedom, not to have to smoke anymore. Good luck with you're new job.
  12. by   Rustyhammer
    Originally posted by 3rdShiftGuy
    Well then, now on to the next thing. You throw it all away, buy an expensive sports car and run away with a 20 year old.
    Well I DID buy this.
    Last edit by brian on Feb 16, '04
  13. by   Shamrock
    Originally posted by 3rdShiftGuy
    Well then, now on to the next thing. You throw it all away, buy an expensive sports car and run away with a 20 year old.
    He's too young yet for a midlife crisis, right
    Rusty?? Nice bike!!
  14. by   phn92
    Rusty, I understand! I did the same thing about eleven years ago. I took a job with less pay to spend more time with my family. My kids were very young, my son was less than a year old. I realized one day that I had not fed him a meal for a week myself! The babysitter and others were taking care of him. I decided the money wasn't worth it and it was the best decision I ever made!

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