Is anyone here with me? :uhoh21: I've got a 16 y/o son, my aging parents, a cat, and oh yeah, I'm a nurse. There is something the matter with this scenario. Dad is a cardiac patient, he has had two triple bypasses in the past 10 years, and is being worked up again for new angina now. (Newly rx'd Ranexa, stress test two days ago...) He had a stroke February 2006 and is aphasic, and was diagnosed with dementia about 5 years BEFORE that. He is completely loony, but in a lovable way. Mom is diabetic (thank God she's pretty compliant and controlled!), has PVD and occasional angina, seems depressed, and was diagnosed with myasthenia gravis last year. I moved in with them after my divorce and during the time of dad's last CABG. My son has a hearing loss, won't wear his hearing aids, and has occasional hematuria when he gets a viral or bacterial throat infection. (But with him, the biggest thing is he's a TEENAGER!!!!) I have HTN, borderline cholesterol, and hyperparathyoidism, being worked up. I think I also have a bone spur on the bottom of my left foot.
I manage the finances, although mom keeps the checkbook, and pays the bills, after we review them. I do all of the shopping, and 2/3 of the cooking. I have now arranged a financial advisor, a CPA for the taxes (dad was an accountant and always did their taxes himself, before the stroke), a cleaning service...I'm thinking about getting LifeAlert for them, because daddy would NOT be able to dial 9-1-1 if anything happened to him or to mom during the time no one is at home.
Is there anyone out there dealing with aging/sick parents and children? Why aren't there more posts about this? There is an online support group on Yahoo that I have joined. I just think more nursing-types would get themselves into this predicament, because we are caretakers by nature.
Thanks for listening. If anyone is in the same situation, please let me know, maybe we could correspond a little!
Mar 9, '07
My folks are in their late 60s. My dad's health is poor. I am the only girl and I live the closest (2 brothers). My daughter is 14. It is very difficult to be in the sandwich generation. Worried about folks and teens in the same day! Just the other day, my dad fell while getting out of the tub. He didn't hurt himself, but I was talking to my mom and we don't know what we are going to do if he can't at least do his ADLs. My mom is still in relatively good health...keeping my fingers crossed.
My dad is on massive amounts of pain medication due to chronic back pain and my mom has to "watch" how many he takes. My dad has an electric w/c. He can walk short distances with his walker but rarely does. I think the fall scared him some and now he is trying to walk more to keep his strength up. My dad is the kinda a person who wants a magic pill to fix everything. My mom has arthritis and needs a knee replacement. Lately my dad has been forgetting things and then gets mad at my mom because he can't remember. Hope its the meds and not the beginnings of Alzheimer's.
To KJRN79: bless you- your situation is 10X worse than mine. I know it must be rough.
Feel free to PM if you need to vent...
Last edit by General E. Speaking, RN on Mar 9, '07
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