Seems a lot of folks here either have just become, or are about to be, grandparents........so I thought I'd start a thread where we "GrandFolks", new and old, can talk about this incredible role that we get to play.
I don't know about anyone else, but when I first thought about it a couple of years back when my dd, Amanda, thought she might
be pregnant, my initial reaction was YUCK! Grandmas were old and frumpy and they had gray hair and stayed home all the time baking cookies, while I was a forty-something professional woman who had yet to reach the peak of both my career and my earning capacity. (Granted, I have gray hair and lots of it, but nothing a little L'Oreal can't cover; and yes, I wear scrubs
to work, and NOBODY looks like a fashion model in those.) Heck, I didn't even want to be called "Grandma"........I wanted a more hip-sounding designation, like Nani or MeeMaw or even Grandy.
It still makes my head spin to think how fast I accepted the role once my grandson was born. I fell head over heels in love with him the instant I first laid eyes on him, and that love has only grown exponentially in the six weeks since. I dispense advice, cuddles, money, and moral support. I have my house baby-proofed, even though it will be months before he's mobile. I constantly watch the sales for new baby gadgets that weren't even dreamed of when my kids were little. And I even allow myself to be called Grandma (and for that matter, I take enormous pride in it).
Of course, there has to be some redefining this role, because I am, after all, a YOUNG grandmother. If I play my cards right I could live long enough to see Eli have children himself, maybe even grandchildren, so I've got a whole new reason to take care of myself better. In addition, my daughter and I have forged a completely different relationship than we had even a year ago; now, we are not only both grown women, we are mothers......and friends.
I am SO incredibly proud of her, and to see her mothering her son so lovingly and tenderly helps me to know that I did a decent job of mothering her
. But this grandparenting stuff is far more than that.........it's the satisfaction of having come full circle: seeing the work of almost a quarter-century of marriage and children beginning to bear fruit, and oh, how sweet it is.