The garage needs to be cleaned out right now!!!

  1. My dad died over 3 years ago. He had a workshop in his garage and has old saws and plant killer sprays etc. in the garage. My 84 year old mother has alzheimer's which is getting worse. I feel the garage needs to be "made safe" for Mom. My brother acts like I'm the "bad guy" because I want to get rid of Dad's junk. What to do???? Any advice appreciated.:kiss
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  2. 16 Comments

  3. by   Jessy_RN
    You are thinking ahead and are right. He needs to get over what he thinks and think of his living mother. She is the priority right now. Invite him for lunch and talk it over (calmly) and get your point across. I am sure he will understand. If not, too bad too sad. Best wishes to you.
  4. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    There's always the option of putting Dad's junk in his own garage.

    Seriously, the safety of Mom ranks over the junk.
  5. by   Blackcat99
    Thanks FutureRNJess and MarieLPN. Yes I must make the garage safe for Mom. The St, Vincent de Paul charity is scheduled to pick up garage stuff on Dec. 21st. I have told my brother if he wants anything he will need to pick it up before that date. Yes he can put Dad's junk in his garage if he wants the stuff.
  6. by   Jessy_RN
    Quote from Blackcat99
    Thanks FutureRNJess and MarieLPN. Yes I must make the garage safe for Mom. The St, Vincent de Paul charity is scheduled to pick up garage stuff on Dec. 21st. I have told my brother if he wants anything he will need to pick it up before that date. Yes he can put Dad's junk in his garage if he wants the stuff.
    Perfect solution. Good luck to you and your fam.
  7. by   dianah
    Cat, are you by any stretch of the geneological imagination, related to Solomon of old??? Great solution, a win-win. If it bothers your brother to get rid of it, HE can keep it!
  8. by   Blackcat99
    I just got an email from my brother telling me I better not get rid of his saw and the stuff in the little shed!!! I sent him an email back telling him he must pick up his stuff by Dec. 21st or it's going to charity. He says he doesn't have room in his garage for it. Too bad. How sad. :chuckle
  9. by   dianah
    He must understand it's for your mom's safety that the things must be relocated (maybe using the word "relocated" rather than "cleaned out" may help, i.e., you're not trying to get rid of your Dad or his memories, simply trying to keep your mom safe. ).
  10. by   Blackcat99
    Quote from dianah
    He must understand it's for your mom's safety that the things must be relocated (maybe using the word "relocated" rather than "cleaned out" may help, i.e., you're not trying to get rid of your Dad or his memories, simply trying to keep your mom safe. ).
    Yes he should understand it is for Mom's safety. Unfortunately, he only cares about himself and what is convenient for him. :angryfire

    I will certainly try the word "relocated" and see if it helps. Thanks
  11. by   dianah
    Rearrange??? Secured???

    Sorry about his 'tude. Some ppl are like that, I know you know this (you know your bro.). Best wishes for peace of mind and safety for your mom. You're a good daughter.
  12. by   Jessy_RN
    Quote from Blackcat99
    I just got an email from my brother telling me I better not get rid of his saw and the stuff in the little shed!!! I sent him an email back telling him he must pick up his stuff by Dec. 21st or it's going to charity. He says he doesn't have room in his garage for it. Too bad. How sad. :chuckle
    Can't win now can you? LOL!


    Okay, the soft words ain't cutting it. Too bad too sad sounds perfect then.

    Just kidding. I am sure he will find time to make it there before the 21st. If not, then you can maybe save it for him for a later time or go with your word and off to charity it goes.

    Glad to read the garage will be much safer for mom.
  13. by   Katnip
    If the tools and things mean that much to your brother he will find room for it.
  14. by   psychonurse
    I had the same problem after my dad passed away. I was living with my mom and there were all these power tools in the storage shed and a weed clipper. One day my mom decided that her lawn was getting too long and she didn't want to wait for her grandkids or me to get it mowed. Well she did okay with the lawn mower but she went out with the weed eater and it got her foot (she was out there with tennis shoes) and she would have bled to death if I hadn't got there put on some pressure so that we could get her to the hospital. The next day all the power tools were moved to my brothers house. Its better to be safe than sorry when it comes to power tools.......

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