Thank God my kids are honest to goodness grownups

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  3. by   NurseGirlKaren
    My neighbor's house has 7 adults living in it. Mom and dad (and their 4 little dogs) and the son (who went to college for 7 yrs and then returned to live at home). Then the son got married, and now his wife lives there. Then the married daughter lost her job so she and the hubby moved in. Then the daughter (who had a dog who moved in with them, too) had a baby. Then mom's brother moved in.

    7 adults, one infant, 5 dogs, 6 cars. It ain't that big of a house.
  4. by   ShandyLynnRN
    That sounds sooooo much like my ex husband!! Thanks goodness I only have to be a mommy to ONE kid now! Watching him, though, and how he was parented, and still is as he lives with his parents, has given me plentyto think about as to how to parent my son, and teach him to be responsible as an adult.
  5. by   cactus wren
    DITTO !!!!!
    Guess we did something right !!
  6. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Good lord!
  7. by   BadBird
    I remember working with a woman whose grown kids wouldn't move out and if they did brought the spouses back home to live, she gave up and moved out herself to a peaceful apartment.
  8. by   bagladyrn
    This is why I sold my house and started travel nursing a month after the last 2 boys went off to college! No way for them to move back home. Of course, I'd been warning them for years that I had no intention of becoming one of those mothers supporting a 30 yr. old son!
  9. by   ShortFuse_LPN
    I have always jokingly said that I am giving each of my kids a suitcase for their 18th birthday.....maybe I shouldn't joke about it. LOL
  10. by   renerian
    I feel one coming on LOL.....................

  11. by   Stargazer
    Bumping this because I wondered if anyone saw Dr. Phil a few days ago (they rerun them in the evening a few days later on one of our local cable channels). The show was about adult children who continue to mooch off their parents. It featured a 24-year-old guy who works part-time and then hectors his father into loaning him huge amounts of money whenever he needs it, which is often. He literally stated that he thought his greatest accomplishment in life was that he was a "nice guy" and had never been in jail.

    The other featured guest was a 23-year old unmarried mom of a 2-year old girl who moved back in with her parents, expects them to babysit all the time, complains that she can't afford to pay her parents rent but bought herself a brand-new sportscar 2 weeks ago.

    Can I just share how much I longed to fly to LA just to smack the expressions of smug entitlement off the faces of these two? Where do 23- and 24-year-olds get off thinking that the world owes them a living? You would not believe what whiny, petulant, professional victims these two were. I'm getting pissed off again just thinking about it.

    Must remind myself to thank my parents for allowing me to start earning my own money at age 11 (babysitting) and telling me when I was 15 years old that if I wanted contact lenses, I'd have to earn the money myself (I did). I'm so grateful not to have ended up like those two mewling wastes of space and oxygen.

  12. by   ShortFuse_LPN
    Stargazer, I completely agree, this all goes back to "giving" children anything they want and not making them "earn" it. The parents should ponder the old saying....we reap what we sow........
    Last edit by ShortFuse_LPN on Jan 7, '03
  13. by   Jenny P
    Wow! That IS scarey! Right now with both of my kids being in college, I AM 'helping" them: they can each earn $10/hr to do different chores around the house that I can't do or am not interested in doing myself. They get spending $$$ and I get some of those nasty chores done (like re-doing the bedroom closet shelving system, or painting the kitchen).
  14. by   Stargazer
    But Jenny, that's not enabling them, because you're not just handing them the money; they are clearly making the connection that work = $$.