Teenagers attitudes !!!

  1. Hi All,

    My 14 year old daughter is driving me nuts !!!!

    She is so mouthy, I have taken her computer away from her for her back talk, I know it bothers her and she is improving a little but not much. I just can't stand her most days lately, we just ignore each other. Is anyone else out there loosing their hair over a mouthy teenager? Days like this I wish I had puppies, arrrrrrrrrrrrg Sorry, just needed to vent.
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  2. 12 Comments

  3. by   cargal
    Badbird,
    Had one of those , now she is at a major med undergraduate program -4.0 and is a doll.

    Stand your ground- but be sure the punishment fits the crime (I've seen parents ground for a month for something small).
    Admit it when you make a mistake and say you are sorry- like if you lose your temper (I did alot).
    Let them know you love them unconditionally (but won't put up with the crap).
    Know that this too, shall pass.


    Good luck!!!
  4. by   kaycee
    Got a mouthy 16yo son,can't stand him a lot of the time either. It's normal as far as I'm concerned and goes away when they are in college. My daughter who had her mouthy days is nothing but a sweetheart now that she is in college.
    These things shall pass!!!
  5. by   cactus wren
    My "problem' child is now 27, works as an ER nurse, and is a great person. When she was 13, I used to tell her I was going to convert to Catholicism, and send her to a convent....Hang in there, they do grow up
  6. by   goats'r'us
    as someone who, until recently was QUEEN mouthy brat, i can tell you it'll pass.

    Teens can get nasty for a heap of reasons - sometimes stuff as simple as having a bad day and needing to be mad at someone.. but most of them will pass eventually.

    Never assume you know what the problem is, and never interfere unless it's for safety's sake.
  7. by   researchrabbit
    Originally posted by cargal
    Badbird,
    Had one of those , now she is at a major med undergraduate program -4.0 and is a doll.

    Stand your ground- but be sure the punishment fits the crime (I've seen parents ground for a month for something small).
    Admit it when you make a mistake and say you are sorry- like if you lose your temper (I did alot).
    Let them know you love them unconditionally (but won't put up with the crap).
    Know that this too, shall pass.


    Good luck!!!
    WHAT SHE SAID!!!!!

    Cargal, you are a mom after my own heart!
  8. by   tattooednursie
    Bad bird,
    I am only 3 years older than your daughter. Thats right, I'm 17 . Maybe I can help you from the other end of the line.

    I am about as mouthy as they get, and I admit that. I have put my parents through hell, I know that I have. I have told them I hate them, I have told them that I was bulimic just to put them through ental torture, I have threatend to run away, I have thrown things at them, I have broken things of their, I have broken things that they have given me right infront of them, i have said that I would rather kill myself than live with them. Yes, I am a real pill.

    But you know what, almost every night, I cry myself to sleep because I said those things. I am depressed, and ashamed of my own behavior. I feel like a horrible person. Alot of times when I act out is because I am angry with myself, or because I worry about them. One thing that is always an issue is that both of them are heavy smokers, and I am afraid to loose them. I do love my parents, and your daughter loves you I am sure. Us teens just have an odd way of showing it. I hope I could help some how.
  9. by   RNConnieF
    I was sure my daughters would not live to see 15!!! This is the worst year for girls by far. Hang in there. I had 2 books I LOVED- "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk" and "Liberated Parents, Liberated Child". Both books empower parents, a rare thing these days. Good luck!
  10. by   l.rae
    teenagers should be bottled and labled and distributed......as birth controle devices................LR
  11. by   cargal
    Originally posted by FutureRN_Mandi
    Bad bird,
    I am only 3 years older than your daughter. Thats right, I'm 17 . Maybe I can help you from the other end of the line.

    I am about as mouthy as they get, and I admit that. I have put my parents through hell, I know that I have. I have told them I hate them, I have told them that I was bulimic just to put them through ental torture, I have threatend to run away, I have thrown things at them, I have broken things of their, I have broken things that they have given me right infront of them, i have said that I would rather kill myself than live with them. Yes, I am a real pill.

    But you know what, almost every night, I cry myself to sleep because I said those things. I am depressed, and ashamed of my own behavior. I feel like a horrible person. Alot of times when I act out is because I am angry with myself, or because I worry about them. One thing that is always an issue is that both of them are heavy smokers, and I am afraid to loose them. I do love my parents, and your daughter loves you I am sure. Us teens just have an odd way of showing it. I hope I could help some how.
    You have a right to be concerned and verbal about their smoking. As far as the other behavior, they LOVE you and will forgive you. They know you are going through a rough time in your life. My 17 yo middle daughter sometimes HATES her life. Figures: you finally find out there really IS NO Santa Claus, the Merry Christmas isn't so merry anymore, you realize that White Knight will probably be someone with acne and a monkey wrench and listens to head banging music, you realize you really do have to work for a living, that money doesn't grow on trees, and society takes you and MOLDS YOU INTO AN ADULT IN A LONG SLOW PAINFUL SQUEEZING PROCESSS, then you are expected to start the rest of your life with the feeling that you cannot get your foot on the next step. You see little babies and think someday I wil have that but in the meanwhile I have to get and education instead of that Mustang I always thought I'd get when I turned 18. This is alot to process, and the process is difficult to say the least. So you act out. That is natural for all the stresses placed on you. So forgive yourself, then ask them to forgive you. You just might find them asking your forgiveness for not being perfect parents. You will heal, and you are young. I don't mean to paint the future as bleak, it's just that we have alot of preconceived notions on what it is like to be grown up, teens want to grow up fast and then BOOM.
    You sound like a young woman with a good head and a great heart from the posts that I have read. I would be proud to have you as my daughter. And... you are, for your young age, a great poster here at allnurses.com and that is a thing to be proud of!
  12. by   renerian
    Yep I am always going crazy over my kids. I have five. The two oldest are back to being the kind kids I used to know before the teenage years hit. The other three are 19,17 and 14. I think teenagers are meant to drive you nuts so when they leave home you are actually glad...................LOL. Hang in there and I understand how you feel........


    renerian
  13. by   BadBird
    Thanks everyone,

    It is nice to know I am not alone in my insanity !!! After I posted this I went upstairs and she was as sweet as could be, 30 seconds later (I swear her head spun around) she was evil again. I really do think girls are much more difficult that boys, but that is just my opinion.
  14. by   deespoohbear
    i have three boys. 14, soon to be 13, and 11. i always heard girls were the hormonal ones, but there is enough testerone around here to impress arnold schwarznegger!! the 14 year is moody, the almost 13 year old thinks he knows everything!!, and the 11 year old can't decide if he wants to be a child or a young man....

    somedays i am glad to go to work.....easier than dealing with raging hormonal river at home.....

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