I brag WAY more about my teenager than I should... But not nearly as much as I could. She's 18, so, she's kind of getting over the teenagerish-ness.
But when she was younger, when she was supposed to be in the middle of her more rebellious age... every little thing you did for her, she'd THANK you for!! I took her to the bank "mama, I appreciate you driving me all over" I helped her with her hair "mama, thanks for fixing my hair, I really appreciate it." And EVERYTHING! My older daughter was Never like that.
Finally, I took her aside and asked her about it! This is making me nervous, what's up? Nothing, she tells me. So, I'm kind of shaking my head, trying to explain why all this makes me nervous. So I tell her, "Look, you didn't ask to be born, don't you think we OWE you stuff?" She thought about it for a minute. "No, but I'm sure I would have done if somebody had asked me." Turns out she said she didn't want to be one of those 50 year olds going to the psychiatrist saying 'I never told them how I felt.'
She died her hair bright blue at one point. Not rebellion, just something she thought was pretty. A lady at church was insulting her, saying how obnoxious teenagers were, and how rebellious and rude, dying their hair blue. Well, ONE, she was working in the nursery at church with me, TWO, she's always been way more religious than I've *ever* been, THREE, that very week, she'd been invited to a performance of a famous violinist in Nashville (my daughter is an up-and-coming cellist) to go backstage and discuss the classical music business. She, knowing that mama would love to meet the maestro, asked if she could bring her mother along!!! Yeah, I told that lady off.
My older daughter was a little bit more typical. Never a *problem* mind, but a little bit easier to understand as the average, every-day type of teenager.
Next year the younger one will be off at university. It's going to be so quiet and sad in my house when she's away. Okay, *I'm* going to be quiet and sad in my house.... Heh heh
PS - the ppl who live across the street have started out their screaming and swearing and threatening each other out in the street. I love this neighborhood. (that's facetious, in case you're wondering)