Just wondering how many others on the boards are in the "sandwich" generation? You know the generation that is taking care of both children at home and helping with elderly parents? My FIL is 83 years old and recently widowed. He manages to get around pretty well and still lives in his own home. He is still able to drive. He is very alert and oriented. Since my MIL died in the spring, my husband has been managing his Dad's checkbook and we take care of making sure he has his prescriptions. (The only reason my husband manages the check book is because my FIL's handwriting is not good and he doesn't think anyone could read his handwriting if he was making out the checks.
). Even though helping my FIL takes up some time, it really isn't a burden. My husband and I have even discussed the possibility of his Dad moving in with us at some point if he gets worried about being at home by himself. He has a history of CHF and we had to take him into the ER today because he was having some difficulty breathing. On way up to the hospital, my FIL proceeds to tell me and my husband that he had a rough night and had considered calling EMS or us to come and get him.
He was scared. Anyway, I was wondering how many of you have an elderly parent or in-law that is living with you? How does it work out? Any suggestions or ideas on how to make it a win-win situation for everyone. We are not going to suggest that he come live with us or force him out of his home. We just want him to be aware that he is welcome here if he does not want to be by himself, or is uncomfortable by himself. We are just thinking
about the future. I would like to hear from other people who have been in this situation. Thanks.