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  1. Dear all
    I don't know where to post this BUT my darling mother was diagnosed CA breast today

    She would not let me go with her so the only info I got is that it is small, the size of her finger nail. The consultant offered her a lumpectomy or mastetomy her choice -DUH WHAT?
    Surgery will be in 3 weeks- Again Is that a good sign

    Iam a stroke nurse

    Hoping that you all will reply cos I am at a loss, I don't understand, I have looked on the net and there are good resourses BUT I am too close to this one. It does not make sense cos I have not seen any reports
    j
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  2. 10 Comments

  3. by   nursenoelle
    Really is different when it's close to home is it not? From the little knowledge that i have of breast and other predominately "female" types of CA, surgery is usually expedited when there is a higher risk of metastasis. So that 3 week thing may be a more positive sign. Keep us updated on her cond. Take good care and keep us posted.

    -Noelle
  4. by   RNforLongTime
    jevans,

    I'm very sorry to hear of your mothers illness. Unfortunately, I don't know nothin about cancer. I'll keep you and your mom in my prayers!

    Kelly
  5. by   Q.
    Jevans,

    My prayers are with you. My mom is a breast CA survivor; was originally diagnosed in 1984 and has been in remission since.

    My mother was also offered a lumpectomy or mastectomy. She went and spoke with other cancer survivors and found that the majority of survivors had the mastectomy, so that is what she opted for. She also had aggressive chemo and radiation following.

    My mom was 40 years old when she was dx, and the choice of losing a breast versus her life was somewhat easy for her to make. There has been some documented research that has shown lumpectomies to be just as effective as mastectomies. Technology may have changed since '84, but have your mom do some research (or do it for her) and talk with other survivors.

    Personally, if it was me, I too would opt for the mastectomy and breast reconstruction. Even at age 29.

    I'll be thinking of you and your family.
  6. by   BadBird
    I am sorry to hear about your mothers dx. I read in the paper that after a 10 year study it was proven that a lumpetcomy was just as effective as mastectomy. I hope you mother has a easy recovery and I wish her well.
  7. by   aus nurse
    Thoughts with you and your mum jevans.

    Sooner the better with all Ca surgery.
  8. by   SmilingBluEyes
    My cousin is a Breast CA survivor of 20 years' duration now..........radical mastectomy at age 29 , only MONTHS after the delivery of twin baby girls and with a 2 year old in the house! (can you imagine?)---- She underwent chemo and the mastectomy w/o regrets. The reconstruction was awesome (one would never know, she even jokes her boobs are better at nearly 50 than they were before the births of her daughters!) I will tell you, she is glad to be alive to see all three of her girls in college (ages 20, 20 and 22). I KNOW she has NO regrets about her mastectomy and no worries about recurrence now.

    I wish your mom well. It is a tough place to be and decision-making is even tougher when you are there. I hope she comes thru ok. My thoughts are with you!
  9. by   hoolahan
    {{{{{{jevans}}}}}}} I think the reason the choice is offered is exactly b/c of that research mentioned above. But some women prefer to have the mastectomy as Susy would, and Blue eye's sister did.

    Some women I am sure you heard on the news even chose to have elective double mastectomies due to such high risk of breast ca in their family.

    Can't advise you what to do, but I think if I were in her shoes, I too would go for the mastectectomy, and a new set of perky boobs.

    I will keep you and your family in my thoughts,
  10. by   jemb
    Sorry to hear of your mother's breast cancer. I'm an oncology nurse, so please pm if you have any specific concerns -- I might be able to help with your questions. As other posters have stated, recent studies have shown that lumpectomies are just as effective as mastectomies in long term survival rates. Lymph node biopsies should always be done with either choice, though, and tx with chemo/ radiation as recommended for her specific situation.
  11. by   jevans
    Many thanks to you all

    I am so confused, upset angry-all the things that you explain to relatives BUT i am soo grateful to you all.
    j
  12. by   stevierae
    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom. Keep us informed. God bless you both.

    At UCSF, there is a surgeon named Dr. Laura Esserman who is in charge of their breast cancer center, which is top-notch. I believe UCSF has a website devoted to breast cancer, the newest research, thinking, treatment options, reconstructive surgery, and alternative medicine and treatments in combination with the traditional--might be worth checking out---

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