Starting out alone for the first time

  1. Anyone have any advice for someone about to start out completely on their own for the very first time in their life? Okay, so I left home for college, but college is not like real life as everyone knows. But I am moving to a city where I don't know anyone, living in an apartment by myself, will be responsible for all my bills and everything and I am terrified, scared stiff. I am scared about leaving all my good friends I've made the past four years, and living all alone- I've never ever done that before, I've always had a roommate or someone. Please give me advice. It's freaking me out!
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  3. by   Audreyfay
    Where are you moving to? Maybe you can find some local friends through allnurses! What an adventure! Once you get there, find a real nice pet who will be home waiting for you. A cat, or hamster . . something that you can hold, talk with, and play with.
  4. by   Tweety
    I remember how exciting it was for me to move to a strange city and live alone. I cried the first day because I got lonely with the reality that it was all up to me. But I joined a church and became an volunteer with a crisis line and settled into life and made new friends.

    Pay the bills first and foremost and never be late. You'll be glad of that. Because when you move, there's no hassle getting lights and phones turned on, etc.

    Remember your friends are a phone call away. Allnures.com is open 24 hours a day and we are here!

    Good luck to you!
  5. by   barefootlady
    being scared is good, it might save you from making some really big mistakes. Tweety is right, pay your bills first, be realistic, do you really need another pair of shoes or new blouse? A little money saved always comes in handy. Call your friends, set an egg timer and when it goes off, hang up quickly. Call when rates are low. Use this board frequently. Look for a group at a local church, womens shelter, hobby store, or child care agency to donate a few hours of off time to, you will meet new people and make a friend or two if you are lucky. Please, avoid that old, tired bar scene. A comedy club or coffee house can be so much nicer. Explore the new city with a tour group or two. It could be lots of fun, not that expensive and you might meet someone and make a friend. Be nice to your new fellow workers, ask questions about what areas are nice and safe, special interest places, and join the bowling league, baseball team, or whatever group at work that fits into your interests. Do not forget about the YWCA. It can be a great place for all kinds of info in a new town. Best wishes on your new life.
  6. by   Roy Fokker
    Quote from Rayrae
    Anyone have any advice for someone about to start out completely on their own for the very first time in their life? Okay, so I left home for college, but college is not like real life as everyone knows. But I am moving to a city where I don't know anyone, living in an apartment by myself, will be responsible for all my bills and everything and I am terrified, scared stiff. I am scared about leaving all my good friends I've made the past four years, and living all alone- I've never ever done that before, I've always had a roommate or someone. Please give me advice. It's freaking me out!
    Heh, I felt somewhat similar when I moved half way 'round the world. All I had was 2 suitcases of clothers (and a couple utensils), a $20 bill and $600 in the bank account

    Miraculously, I'm still alive :chuckle

    I'm still in college but I want to reassure you that it isn't all THAT different from moving away from home. If you lived a fairly independent life in college (Father just pays my tuition, I pay for everything else by working two jobs), you'll manage just fine.

    Just remember - you're a nurse. You can pretty much do anything you set your heart on!

    We're always here for ya
  7. by   perfectbluebuildings
    Thanks for the great advice and support guys- it's like a virtual hug! I will have to "copy and paste" all that stuff and save it. Really!

    Don't worry... you will be seeing WAYYY TOO MUCH OF ME in a couple of months when it all happens! I will be here venting it all out and feeling like an idiot, and I know you all will be there for me, 'cause you sure have all the way up to now! Thank you, thank you, all of you. :kiss
  8. by   CHATSDALE
    previous posts have given you some good advise from those have been there and done that
    everybody has to grow up sometimes and believe me this has the potential to be the best years of your life...don't stay home unless you really want to...the world is not going to come knocking on your door you have to go out and make something happen
    be cautious about whom you get too close to, too quick...there are predators outthere but there are more good people just like you to want and need a friend, maybe for life

    you will meet people at work, at church etc.. and people love to 'fix up' friends...
    good luck and enjoy your life

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