Speaking of "bad seeds" (blackcats thread)

  1. I had a GOOD and honest person bring back my purse that I lost at the park the other day. The doorbell rang, and there was this lovely middle aged man, who had tracked me down and returned it, everything inside intact, to me. I wanted to hug and kiss him. But I did thank him.......

    And I had a grocery bag break and stuff spill all over the parking lot.....

    A total stranger came up and picked up all that stuff and handed it to me as I struggled with the other bags.....

    There are some really GOOD SEEDS out there, too, ya see??? I am trying to remember the MAJORITY of people are GOOD, after all!

    How about you? Any positive stories? I need a lift today.
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  3. by   Roy Fokker
    Well, y'all remember the incident when I let that complete stranger into my house, right?

    About a week before that, I was waling home one night and found a soaked wallet on the road. It had no money in it but had cards, ID and incuding the Social Security card. I took the wallet home and dried it out. Then looked for a way to contact him. Incredibily, there was no phone number in the wallet. Luckily the guy was a student of UB, so I looked up his campus username and sent him an email. He replies after almost a week! Anyways, he came, he picked up his wallet and tried offering me money. I waved him off and told him to NOT keep his SS card along with his wallet since identity theft was very easy after that...

    And about three days before that happened, I was at my campus ATM wanting to withdraw money. Apparently the previous user had forgotten his card and the machine was still logged in! Out of curiosity I checked the balane - $14,000 odd was still left as balance.... enough to pay a years worth of tuition alone! To say I was tempted would be an understatement.

    What did I do?

    Pulled the card out, went to the building security office and handed it to 'em.

    Most people say that "you're a good guy for doing so!". I don't understand... this isn't anything out of the ordinary. I'd expect any human being to do it.

    I just hope that this "what goes around, comes around" bit is true Or else I'm going to be kicking myself for passing up 14,000 bucks when I had $128 in my bank account!
  4. by   SmilingBluEyes
    way to go ROY! You are a good guy......
  5. by   leslie :-D
    a couple of things come to mind....

    1. my 14yo son is ALWAYS offering his help to the elderly; he automatically shovels a pathway when it snows for 4 of our elderly neighbors as he doesn't want them doing it. when they offer him money, he politely declines. one time he saw one of our elderly neighbors walking down the street with 2 bags. he told me to stop the car, got out and took her bags to her house- which was around 4 houses away.
    i think he got into that habit when for years, i see these elderly barely walking along the city streets and then they'll stop to rest then resume walking again. these are feeble, frail elderly, in their 80s/90s. so i have always stopped my car, got out and walked up to them to see if i could give them a ride....some have accepted, most have declined. it's very scary to watch though.

    2. i don't know why but the following always gets me in tears because of the sensitvity shown.

    when my mother was in the icu, non-responsive, two of her friends (i'll call them will and bill) brought her in audiocassettes- knowing mom loved to read, they each took turns reading from her favorite book(s) and brought these audiocassettes in so she could listen to them....this must have taken hours and hours to read aloud (2) 400 pg books....then they took a picture of mom's dog, had it blown up and hung it in her room. i fell in love w/these guys; we talked for hrs. the main friend, bill, asked me "your mother didn't talk about her homosexual friends?????????" LOL but he was so serious. i later found out from mom's dh that bill was an fbi agent but he could get kicked out if anyone from the fbi if anyone found out he was gay. and then my stepdad continued to tell me some of the secret missions that bill had accomplished and that this guy was top notch in his field. this man was lovely, sensitive and totally there for my mother. to this day, he visits my stepdad daily and george (stepdad) says he still cries, missing my mom.

    but it still amazes me for those 2 guys to do all that vocal reading so mom could listen, knowing she was in a coma... - it still gets to me, the way some can express their love so thoughtfully and sensitively....mom certainly was loved by her neighbors and colleagues (she was a senior probation officer in wash dc superior court)...and for many, her being gone just still isn't real. i need to get bill and will's address and write to them. i can see why mom loved them so, esp bill the fbi agent....will was bill's so.

    ok enough rambling. but wanted to brag about my son and talk about my mom and her friend bill.
    thanks for listening.

    leslie
  6. by   SmilingBluEyes
    wow Leslie, that is inspirational. You are a wonderful mom, daughter and friend, obviously. Funny how all the "bad" is played up in the news and in life....
  7. by   Roy Fokker
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    Funny how all the "bad" is played up in the news and in life....
    Know what they say about the squeaky wheel...
  8. by   leslie :-D
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    wow Leslie, that is inspirational. You are a wonderful mom, daughter and friend, obviously. Funny how all the "bad" is played up in the news and in life....
    admittedly deb, i certainly wasn't always a good dtr- i put my mom through hell during my adolescents- i won't even share it with tiffany until she has kids of her own but i was definitely the teen from hell.
    and even as an adult, mom and i had a very turbulent relationship. she always told the other kids that she would love to be a fly on the wall when she dies, as she always felt i would take it the hardest; and she said this during our fighting yrs. so thank God she had the instincts of knowing that i loved her even though i seldom showed it to her. i always remained aloof...and that's why i'll always consider my last moments with mom, w/o anyone else there, holding and loving her, a gift from God. He knows we needed this time alone and together, so i could show her how much i loved her....truly a gift.

    as for my son, i take no credit for that- josh has always been protective and my most sensitive child. he amazes me with what he does and feels. he instinctively goes for those who are disadvantaged or suffering.

    but i did want to set the record straight, i was not a model dtr to my mom. and she certainly had her issues but all was forgiven and any hard feelings we had in the past, all melted away as i held her, quietly talked to her and just loved her with 100% of everything i had to give...i just hope she felt me holding her and kissing her, and also hope she heard me tell her how much i loved her.
    dang, i think i'm having one of those days...ok, all done...
  9. by   akcarmean
    Quote from earle58
    admittedly deb, i certainly wasn't always a good dtr- i put my mom through hell during my adolescents- i won't even share it with tiffany until she has kids of her own but i was definitely the teen from hell.
    and even as an adult, mom and i had a very turbulent relationship. she always told the other kids that she would love to be a fly on the wall when she dies, as she always felt i would take it the hardest; and she said this during our fighting yrs. so thank God she had the instincts of knowing that i loved her even though i seldom showed it to her. i always remained aloof...and that's why i'll always consider my last moments with mom, w/o anyone else there, holding and loving her, a gift from God. He knows we needed this time alone and together, so i could show her how much i loved her....truly a gift.

    as for my son, i take no credit for that- josh has always been protective and my most sensitive child. he amazes me with what he does and feels. he instinctively goes for those who are disadvantaged or suffering.

    but i did want to set the record straight, i was not a model dtr to my mom. and she certainly had her issues but all was forgiven and any hard feelings we had in the past, all melted away as i held her, quietly talked to her and just loved her with 100% of everything i had to give...i just hope she felt me holding her and kissing her, and also hope she heard me tell her how much i loved her.
    dang, i think i'm having one of those days...ok, all done...

    Leslie,

    YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION TO US ALL. Your son has gotten that from you. He is doing what he sees his mom do. I KNOW that you mom knew you were there and that you were sorry for those teen yrs. I know that she loved you and was very grateful that you were there by her side. Not all are able to say good bye and let go off everything that way that you were able to do. It was a true blessing and I believe that God put you two in that situation so just that could be done.

    YOU are a fantastic person. You show love and kindness and caring no matter how much you are handling. I admire you for that. YOur mom is watching over you now and can see and knows how much you love her.

    Take care dear, we are here for you. ALWAYS. Thanks!!!!

    Love:kiss :icon_hug:
    Angie
  10. by   fergus51
    I had a stranger track me down at my hotel when I was in Alabama with a friend just to return my wallet (with a few hundred dollars in it!) after I dropped it. It was my one and only trip to the south and that comes to mind whenever I think of it.
  11. by   leslie :-D
    Quote from akcarmean
    Leslie,

    YOU ARE AN INSPIRATION TO US ALL. Your son has gotten that from you. He is doing what he sees his mom do. I KNOW that you mom knew you were there and that you were sorry for those teen yrs. I know that she loved you and was very grateful that you were there by her side. Not all are able to say good bye and let go off everything that way that you were able to do. It was a true blessing and I believe that God put you two in that situation so just that could be done.

    YOU are a fantastic person. You show love and kindness and caring no matter how much you are handling. I admire you for that. YOur mom is watching over you now and can see and knows how much you love her.

    Take care dear, we are here for you. ALWAYS. Thanks!!!!

    Love:kiss :icon_hug:
    Angie
    thanks angie...definitely i know it to be a gift from God- no doubt.

    i'm just having one of those days- stuff is going on w/lisa that we won't find out until tomorrow....but she's being tested for a secondary ca of her muscles and the stupid doctor was quite abrasive and outright told her that if she has this cancer, her prognosis is very very poor since the chemo has already done much damage internally. nothing like a good bedside manner.
    i talked w/lisa yesterday and her voice was so weak; she stayed home from work because she's wiped and her muscles hurt so badly- she's been c/o of that for weeks. so i'm just in a bad way today.
  12. by   akcarmean
    Quote from earle58
    thanks angie...definitely i know it to be a gift from God- no doubt.

    i'm just having one of those days- stuff is going on w/lisa that we won't find out until tomorrow....but she's being tested for a secondary ca of her muscles and the stupid doctor was quite abrasive and outright told her that if she has this cancer, her prognosis is very very poor since the chemo has already done much damage internally. nothing like a good bedside manner.
    i talked w/lisa yesterday and her voice was so weak; she stayed home from work because she's wiped and her muscles hurt so badly- she's been c/o of that for weeks. so i'm just in a bad way today.


    You have my prayers for you and Lisa !!!
    Look for a PM

    Love,
    Angie
  13. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Watched two ladies at a local Seattle's Best in our Mall give a man some juice and a muffin when he was suffering a hypoglycemic episode. What makes this nice, is the manager/owner of that shop is VERY strict w/the money/cash (as she needs to be)...so these ladies ponied up their own money and bought this stranger the food/drink and we then urged him to see a doctor after he felt better. I smile when I think of the kindness and good in human beings.

    Also, a friend of mine volunteers about 20-30 hours a week at a no-kill animal shelter. I love that people do kind things for animals that were abused, dumped or done wrong by others. I think this is a wonderful endeavor.

    Oh and Leslie you are not off the hook. I know we all have had our "tough"times as kids, I caused enough grief for 20 of them as a teen. It's what you are TODAY that inspires me. I don't want to embarass you; just the facts, ma'am.
  14. by   leslie :-D
    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
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    Oh and Leslie you are not off the hook. I know we all have had our "tough"times as kids, I caused enough grief for 20 of them as a teen. It's what you are TODAY that inspires me. I don't want to embarass you; just the facts, ma'am.
    thanks deb. :kiss

    certainly don't feel worthy of such a compliment but from you, i'll take it. you're a woman of integrity, which i appreciate.

    leslie xo

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