Son's Teacher Accused of Sexual Misconduct!

  1. NOW what else can go wrong at my kid's school? At the beginning of the year, another seventh-grader brought a gun to school; around Christmastime a maintenance worker fell off the roof and shattered his leg in front of about 200 students, including my son; and now the 11 o'clock news tells me that one of his teachers (who has been mysteriously absent for the past couple of weeks) has been charged with sexual misconduct....with a student at the school. ARRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!

    What is UP with education these days??!! This particular middle school has a reputation as the best in the area, yet crap keeps happening. (I realize the guy who fell off the roof wasn't doing anything wrong, but it was a shocking accident that affected a lot of the kids who witnessed it.) This is the same school that also employs that horrible woman I talked about in my "Patients We Love to Hate" thread awhile back, and as a special-ed teacher, no less!
    Granted, I grew up in an era when teachers were even more mysterious than parents......we never knew their first names or their ages, what they liked to do in their spare time (not that they had any, of course; we knew they were all too busy grading our papers, and even if they weren't, they were all far too old to enjoy anything) or even if they went to the bathroom like normal people.

    But these days, kids know almost everything about the adults in their lives, and educators are no exception. They know their English teacher is an old hippie who still smokes pot; they know the "cool" new softball coach is a 24-year-old barely out of college; they know Mrs. Smith in homeroom has a crush on Mr. Jones who teaches shop. But tomorrow my 12-year-old will learn that one of his favorite teachers has been officially accused of the ultimate betrayal of trust, and it will be difficult to look my son in the eye and remind him that everyone is presumed innocent until proven guilty when I've already condemned this man in my heart for robbing him of one of the last illusions of childhood security.......however false it may be.
    Last edit by VivaLasViejas on Mar 11, '04
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  2. 20 Comments

  3. by   jnette
    Hate to hear of this mjlrn, that really sux. :angryfire
  4. by   WyomingRN
    First - it is called government education.

    Moreover, I don't understand this "illusions of childhood security". 100 years ago kids grew up in the real world facing real problems far beyond any schooling - and they made it through just fine. Just when should these "kids" learn about reality? At age 25? or maybe age 40?

    Kids use to know where milk came from; and how babies were made - all by the age of 5 or 6. They saw death as when a calf or colt or kitten died. They understood that life is not always pleasant and seldom easy.

    Society lives in a fairy tale world because kids have been raised in a fairy tale setting.

    This sounds like a very good time to have a lesson from mom and dad about the Constitution and the duties of a citizen.
  5. by   SmilingBluEyes
    a huge reason why I homeschool. this sort of stuff, my kids can do with out.
    I am very sorry about all this. Your kids (all kids) deserve better....we should not have to "settle" for less just because we are either not in the right districts or can't afford private academies.

    I am done w/the public school systems.
  6. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Quote from WyomingRN
    First - it is called government education.

    Moreover, I don't understand this "illusions of childhood security". 100 years ago kids grew up in the real world facing real problems far beyond any schooling - and they made it through just fine. Just when should these "kids" learn about reality? At age 25? or maybe age 40?

    Kids use to know where milk came from; and how babies were made - all by the age of 5 or 6. They saw death as when a calf or colt or kitten died. They understood that life is not always pleasant and seldom easy.

    Society lives in a fairy tale world because kids have been raised in a fairy tale setting.

    This sounds like a very good time to have a lesson from mom and dad about the Constitution and the duties of a citizen.
    Ok, I have to ask, when do you suggest? should they become streetwise and oversexed at age 7 or 8 like mine son was, then? That is "reality", but that my kids can do with out. Iwill choose the time and place appropriate to discuss sex/adult topics with my kids. I will NOT have it shoved down their throats in 2nd or 3rd grade, as it was with my son. childhood is about learning of the world around them, true enough. But some magic and fairy tale quality to it is NOT a bad thing in younger grades.

    But even at 12, I dont' want my kids' minds embroiled in the sexual misconduct of an ADULT WHO IS SUPPOSED TO BE AN EXAMPLE TO THEM.

    The injury can't be helped; it was a hugely unfortunate incident, and yes, reality...but the sexual misconduct incident points to an obvious problem brewing in our school systems today.......something I want to keep my kids far away from in their developmental years.

    There is something VERY inherently wrong in our school systems, when we accept such things as teachers involved in sexually deviant activies/crimes as part of reality education----yes it's "real life" but very inappropriate to have them exposed to it. It interferes with real education they need for life.
  7. by   rollingstone
    I don't have children, but if I did I'd homeschool.
  8. by   nurseygrrl
    I'm sorry~ what a horrible thing. I agree that children should be hip to what goes on in the real world, but there are some things that are just too over the top! Children shouldn't have to hear about a teacher being accused of sexual misconduct. Actually, these things shouldn't happen! How sickening.
  9. by   Sadie04
    So sorry but not surprised to hear about this. The environment you describe is one of the major reasons I left my first career as an elementary school teacher to become a nurse. One day it dawned on me that when I have children, I don't think I would feel comfortable sending them to some of the schools I had worked in (scary thought). The older I get, the more I believe home schooling is the way to go! Either that or private school. I was home-schooled for a while in elementary school and loved it!
  10. by   SmilingBluEyes
    very telling words from a teacher. Thank you Sadie....I feel even more supported in my decision to homeschool now......(hugs)
  11. by   SmilingBluEyes
    what fairy tale, what with all the so-called reality tv, news, in-your-face programming out there.....where is the fairy tale life we adult live? rofl.
  12. by   Sadie04
    Thanks SBE The fact that you homeschool your kids tells me you take your role as a parent very seriously, something that is sorely lacking in so many parents today. I can't tell you how frustrating it was as a teacher wanting your students to succeed and giving extra help and attention to those that needed it only to have total lack of support or even concern from some parents who were so wrapped up in their own lives they couldn't see that their children were crying out for help.
    I realize that home schooling isn't realistic for many working parents, but all parents should be aware of what is going on in their child's life and how they are doing in school. These kids are our future! Sorry to go off track here, but it's something I feel passionately about.
  13. by   SmilingBluEyes
    Teachers have my utmost respect......but they can only do so much. My son finished 5th grade unable to write a coherent sentence or read books for his age group and comprehend them. I was tired of his going to school 7 hours a day and spending another 3 or more after school to try and help him catch up--------lord he was beyond tired and frustrated. I have noticed his stress levels decrease exponentially since I pulled him out of school. He is much more patient, well-behaved, his attention span is longer and he is a better team player in the sports he participates in. Even all his coaches have noticed a HUGE change in his attitude and behavior. I see the huge difference already in just this academic year alone.

    I feel badly for teachers today....it's a no-win battle for them in some districts, and even harder for us parents who DO care. So many don't.

    Sorry, I was way off topic here.......anyhow yes, I am passionate about my kids' well-being and education. too passionate to leave them in the inept clutches of our local school districts. I am also passionate about their safety,and the schools have become an unsafe environment where we live. Sad.
  14. by   Katnip
    I know how horrifying it is to find a person in a place of trust betrays that trust.

    A few years ago one of the pediatricians in my kids' pediatric practice was found guilty of being a pedophile and part of a pediatric porn ring.

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