Originally posted by karenG
thank- you for the replies..........very grateful. I am glad its not just me!! on reflection (now theres a good nursing term!) it may be a power thing- he is bigger than me now- I am 5'1!! and maybe trying it on! He is also transferring to secondary school and maybe thats affecting him- going from being top dog at school to being the smallest again. think I might try the boot camp idea!!
Well, Karen, it sounds as if you are one astute mom. You have it figured out. my son went thru the same thing. He is 5 feet 1 (I am 5 feet 2). He tried outwitting me some when he neared my size, but realized I won't have it. It takes being firm and making him understand who is boss but also that you are and always will be in control --(e.g. no tantrums yourself)--- and a "safe" place for him. He is testing waters to see where the safe boundaries lie. Be kind enough to SHOW Him and he will edge back after a while.
Have you thought about martial arts training? SIZE is not the issue there (sometimes being small means being quicker and victorious), and he will gain a lot of self-respect, restraint and confidence. The tantrums may dry up when he gains these things. Either way, it will pass, I promise. Then, we can navigate the stormy waters of teenhood together. ARGH!!!!
PM me if I can help you further. I can tell you some stories of what my son has pulled while his father has been away for military duty---and how I handled it......you may get a good laugh. I am always learning by fire, ya know! Take care and hang in there!